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is it ok for a 13 year old girl to question her sexuality?
I am a 13 year old girl and i question my sexuality. i think boys aare hot and like them and stuff but sometimes i feel curious to look when my close girl friends are changing and think girls are really pretty and have good boobs. i sometimes think i want to kiss a girl to know if im a lesbian but i have never kissed a boy but i want to. people say its normal to sometimes feel lesbian or gay during puberty but im still worries.please no mean comments
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Its fine I have the same exact problem my friend did too...so we kissed we are both girls and we didn't feel anything. So it was curiousity and its most likely the same thing for you too.
Jessie
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At your age there is absolutely nothing wrong with what you are feeling. You are checking out your sexuality, it does not mean your gay. I believe it is not only normal to for girls to check out other girls or boys to check out other boys, it is part of the process of defining who you are sexually.
It is also very normal in certain social situations for girls to hug and kiss each other. This is not an indication you are gay or have lesbian desires. At some point in defining their sexuality many girls and boys, although most won't admit it, will have at least had some form of same sex, sexual relationship just to see what it was like. Here again their is nothing wrong as it is part of defining who you are sexually.
Unfortunately this is something not taught in sex ed. Something most parents won't talk to their children about because they will not consider the thought that their child may be gay. Their is nothing wrong with being gay.
My only advice to anyone, still in high school, who feels they are truly gay is not to come out with it as the other students and even some teachers will shun them. Gay bashing in high school is also very prevalent so for reasons of personal safety I advise they stay in the closet.
For now and for you; now is not the time to put a label on your sexuality as you are still experimenting with it. When you are much older then you can decide who you are sexually.
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woman are on a very tall pedestal in this world. for one they are treated like sexual candy, and typically any girl caught in clothing that doesn't somehow lure her peers to lust for her will equate to some kind of loser that nobody likes. If you dont know what i mean than look at gurl's asses. you'll find out pretty fast that the general population of young girls are fighting in a real life booty fashion show. the point is woman for a major part of their life exist only to sexually amuse males. This has collateral damage. the modern woman's sexual out put is not lazer guided precision. girls can look so hot that gurls can think theye hot to. furthermore is it scientifically proven that subliminally woman are sexually attracted to hot woman in the media. does this mean you are gay? well the best thing you can do is relax, because i guarantee you that some pervert is more than willing to get into your body. is doesnt mean you gay by the way. my girlfriend loves sexy woman's photo, and we often view them together.
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As a gay guy myself, I questioned myself and as it turned out I was gay, but a surprisingly high number of people came to me when i came out, asking about themselves and their sexuality, you are not alone, and what you're going through is common during puberty, just be yourself :)
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Of course it's okay. You are trying to figure out who you are and it's okay to explore. Some people maybe tell you it's not but a lot of people explore their sexuality in their teen years. It's better to find out you are rather than hide who you are. Express yourself. Go with your heart but remember to think with your head.
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