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i honestly don't even know what to do anymore
so basically i'm so confused and im tired of bullshit. Why is it so hard for a guy to either tell us they like us, or be honest that they don't. Why do they have to play games? I'm in highschool but i'm one who hates hookups I would rather just have one special person there but it's seriously so hard to find because every guys ends up fucking you over and I'm terribly scared to have that happen. I've only kissed one guy but i've still gotten hurt by others...basically the guy I kissed just flat out stopped talking to me after like 6 months of non offical dating but like we both weren't seeing any one else. He made it clear he liked me and basically spent every weekend with me. Then out of nowhere doesn't talk to me and like ignores me at school but if im like walking to my car he'll drive past and stare me down. I just am seriously tired of drama and that feeling where basically you feel like you can't find anyone decent. I don't even know what i'm saying and i guess I just want your opinion why would he do that...=[ it's just how could he say all the things he did to me and one day act like he never said any of it
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first of all gurls keep complaining about boys who are playing games all over the place. obviously you're doing something that everyone else is doing. another thing high school doesn't matter. i mean it's its own little bubble world where everyone inside of it feels like everything there is life or death, but once you get out of high school everything that happened there basically never mattered. A lot of guys know this, and once you've initiated multiple partners you're doomed. that's goes double if ever follow the same path. i suggest that you relax, and become passive. It's hard to know good. Look for more genuine guys standing by instead of forward guys.
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look,no kid at highschool can be taken seriously ,believe me,i´ve been through it like a thousand times before,what you have to do is just try to finish highschool and go to university,form your future,be strong and serious,then serious guys will come to you because you want someyhing real and lasting so when you actually give that impression to everyboody,stupid guys will run away and serious ones will show up,don´t waste your time:)
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Teenage boys can be such idiots, I know I was once a teenage boy.
For some teenage boys part of dating is the conquest. Once the get what they are after they need to move on. If they don't get what they are after they need to move on. What they need and what they are looking for generally is sex.
I can't say sex is the reason behind how your, should I say boyfriend or boy friend, treated you is the reason. All teenage males and males in general up to the time they pass from puberty; which can be as late as the mid twenty's, confuse lust with love. As long as their sexual hormones are their driving force their actions can be idiotic, questionable and confusing.
Not all males are this way. In fact not all are this way. Most boys as the mature gain control over their hormones and start to act more responsible, finding them is the problem. In school around their peers force their actions making this the wrong place to find the right boy. I would suggest looking at places where a boy can be more himself and not have to conform to some social expectation or notion.
Where to look? I would suggest you start by sitting down and making a list of things that interest you. I have always found when faced with something like this that putting pen to paper and making a list puts a semblance of order to the situation.
Once you have your list and the list should include all those things you like to do. Eliminate all the strictly girlie things. Leaving things like hiking, boating, photography, nature, history and art to name a few. Cooking is not strictly a girlie thing there are a lot of boys that like to cook. You should include your church as well if you are religious.
Now that you have narrowed your list down to things of interest to both sexes. These are the places you will find the boys who have their heads screwed on more properly. Boys who will be as interested in you as a person as they are in you as a member of the opposite sex. The reason being is that you have a mutual interest in which to build a relationship on.
Sexual attraction and sex will only take a relationship so far. At some point there has to be more to a relationship. That more is mutual interests. A relationship that's starts with mutual interest can build to sexual interest rather than the other way around which frankly fails more often than not. Mutual interests lays a better foundation to build on that sexual attraction.
I hope I have helped. Have a good and Safe Holiday.
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Sounds to me like he's VERY immature. Some guys are just immature and they'll say anything to wrap you around their finger. Some guys just want to test you almost. Maybe you're going after the wrong type of guys. Maybe you need to go after a guy that you wouldn't typically go after you maybe surprised. Or maybe its best that you just wait til some guy comes your way. It's hard to find decent guys that can be mature these days. Try not to let those immature guys get to you. I had a bunch of guys promise me the world and they couldn't even promise to hang out with me for a date night. Actions speak louder than words!
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