Hi there!!!I´m from Argentina!!student of English in a very important University from the town where I live,I love English lge and would like to hear about native speakers!!!I´m a nice and common person who is deeply in love and who does not actually know right now how to cope with it..
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Location: argentina
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Age: 26
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I used to go out with this guy. We had an amazing relationship. We bearly fought about anything,talked to each other about everthing, spend time together, and we got soo closed to the point that I knew what he was thinking before he even told. Its very easy to talk to him because he understands me so I never feel like I have to explain myself, are personalities are alot alike. But during our relationship we had some problems with people accepting us being together, since he's 7 years older then me, so they thought he was using me because of my inexperience things began to get weird between us, right during that time i went on vacation for a whole month, thinking that the time away from him was going to benefit turns out, that when i came back he was done with me, and I never heard from him, and he never tried reaching me knewing that I was back.... Six months have passed and I still have the same feelings I had since I met him, I love him more then anything I would give anything to find out what happend that made him abandon me. then a few days ago he finally contacts me though facebook and gives me his number because he wanted to talk to me. When I texted him he asks why I never reached him, then he calls to explain what happend, and tells me he still has feelings for me and would like to see me and apologize, when he tells me all of this I couldnt be any happier. He finally comes over and he apologizes and I ask him what his intentions are with me, and he seems very unsure, i told him i didnt want a friendship with him, or be a bootycall, I told him that I was willing to forgive him and i would love to make things work again and have a serious long lasting relationship with him, I told him if thats not what he wanted then he could just forget about me because I already felt better once I found out what really happend between us. When I told him what I wanted he says that he would like to atttempt things again and take things slow, and start with a new beginning, because i know him so well, I dont think hes ever taken anything slow and I feel like he doesnt want the same thing I want. I dont know what to do I dont want to feel like im pressuring him, but i dont want to wait around for ever. I love him, but im scared that hes going to break my heart again. I dont want to relive what I went through, but I dont want to be away from him...please help i know this is long, but i feel like no one understands what im going through, and please dont tell me thers other fish in the sea. (link)
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Look,I've been through the same experince twice in my life,I know it's not easy but you have to make an effort and step away,if he doesn't want the same thing you want in a relationship then it's not worth it bc he's not prepared for a serious thing,and what's worse is that he's older than you he should be more responsible than you,the same thing happened to me,they were older and more experimented than me,it's much preferable to cry with your pillow for a couple of nights(i know it may be a long time)than staying with a guy who does anything he wants with you,sensitive people's feelings like yours or mine are like a toy for those who have the privilege to have them,don't give away your heart to somebody who does not deserve it,I'm telling you this bc my heart has been broken several times and I try to prevent people from doing the same:)
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hi, boyfriend of 2 years got me a xmas card that says, ''you're the love of my life and heart of my christmas''? what does he exactly mean? he has said, i'm the love of his life before as well. thanks. (link)
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Well,I guess it means that he is deeply in love with you,don't be scared of that,that's natural in men,they try to impress you this way,all the same,you should talk to him about this,try to figure out whether he's joking or not:)
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I’m totally ruined, I can’t tolerate any severe pains that I’m suffering, I feel I should end this and kill myself.
I have to, every second my mind tell me this spontaneously!
I’m 25 years old, male and I live in Iran (yeah a hellish country as you probably know that!)
I have no job, no activity, and I struggle with severe depression since I was 15, I actually commit suicide once when I was teenager, I never had any girlfriend and no one ever told me that I like you.
just now I have anxiety too, I’m on medication now for 2 month but I feel it just getting worse.
my life spent for music and instrument (some traditional Iranian music and Guitar). I had all playing and practicing in the darkness of my room in a total loneliness, but now for six month I’m afraid to lay a hand in any instruments I’m afraid all I would hear is my loneliness or delirium.
I hate my country, I hate Islam, and I hate the dictatorship of tyranny which is ruling and forcing its power into each Iranian life. And because I didn’t serve mandatory service in military I don’t have the right for working, or passport and right to leave the country or a global identity.
when I was teenager or a kid I used to talk to god, but now I truly doubt his existence, when I talk to him it’s like I’m just talking to myself in a total darkness. I am a spiritual guy but I’m afraid I sense all religions and all things about god is a big lie! There is no meaning in life. I’m scared.
Sometimes I stay in my room for total 3 weeks and I have great tendency to not leave the house.
Now I have a plan to leave Iran illegally and accept all the risks which would be in the way and I bring myself to UK. There is the only hope only light for me. But I’m scared. Because I know a lot of people there would behave me with discrimination and racism. I’m afraid I would be rejected. Sometimes I feel I’m just a garbage which should be get ridden of. I need help….!
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you are not any garbage sweetie,I bet you're really cute and quite sensitive,I can see that through your writing,you need someone who cares about you and makes you feel things you haven't experienced yet,you are so alone and nobody can cope with it for too long bc we are social beings,we need to share good and bad things with others,otherwise bad things will devour you,you are so young and full of life,your mission in life is bearly starting,go for it!!!only apples fall down from trees and run into your head,not people,nor happiness,you have to look for it,you'll thank yourself later!!just try to be happy with what you already have and where you already live:)
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Hey there. I'm writing here bc im in need of advice. I'm turning 21 next month. Female. Ever since I can remember, my mom has been extremely involved. She has really pushed me bc she's wanted to know everything about my life. I've let her in, maybe too much. It has gotten to a point where she's very controlling and when she doesn't get her way, she gets extremely upset. Last year, I dyed my hair dark brown. I'm naturally a light brown. But when I was about 17, he insisted that I go blonde. I listened to her and i never questioned the way I look. But, looking back, I really don't like myself as much with blonde hair. I like my natural color or even a little darker. I look relatively young. I'm very petite and i have a very youthful looking face. I don't really drink a lot, I don't smoke and perhaps that has contributed to the fact that i look younger compared to a lot of people around me. Everywhere I go, people always ask me how old I am and swear that I look so young. It gets REALLY old when u hear it EVERY day. When my hair was brown, it made me look a little bit older and I wasn't being asked every single day about my age. I went back to brown last month and she told me if I didnt dye it at least a dark blonde she would never speak to me again. She was crying, throwing things, and having a tantrum. I dyed it to dark blonde so she would stop. But needless to say, I'm constantly being asked my age again and getting gasps. Nice, but old! Don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with looking young. But, I'm 21. I want to feel sexy. I want to feel like a woman. Last year, I also had extensions. I needed them for a while, but they were on way 2 long. I recently took them off and now my mom won't let me leave the house without clip ins. It just makes me want to cry. You may say fight with her and let her have a tantrum. But, u don't know how she gets. She is out of control. She is scary. I want to have my hair brown for my birthday which is next month. And i don't want any extensions. I hate them. They hurt and they bother me. She doesn't understand anything. When I tell her I like my hair dark she says that if I change back to dark, she will cut herself and enroll herself in a mental institution. You have no idea what I put up with every day. Our relationship has improved so much. I don't want to ruin it. But, if I don't have my own independence to do what I want to my own hair at 21, what is next? (link)
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look,your mum obviously needs therapy,that's not healthy,you should help her not only listening to her but also taking her to the doctor,because YOU are the young person and who need to grow up and face life,she has alredy done her job,it's time for you to make your own life and let her live hers, as an adult who has to let his or her children to move on with their own lives:)
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Okay, so. I promised my bf I'd send him some of my private stuff. I only promised because he sort of forced me into promising but then I said it was no big deal. So I told him I would send it to him by the end of the day. But it turns out that things went wrong that day and I ran out of time to send it to him. I was gonna text him a sorry but then he called me a bitch for not sending it. How should I react!? (link)
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private stuff????honey,it is you who is making a mistake,you don't need to send anything like that to someone who loves you or whom you love,that's definetly giving to him a wrong singal about you,you just have to respect yourself and make him respect you,if you don't do that it's obvious that he will treat you like that,even though he has no right to send you such things on the phone it is you who must have the last word sweetie!!!!:)
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hi. i am the same person that asked this question http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=600975. i was wondering, if i really decide to tell him how i feel, what would be the best way? text message? in person? i don't think i can get him away from his friends to tell him in person and if i try to talk to him around his friends he might be rude to me and he and his friends might make fun of me or something like that. but i'm not telling him how i feel in order to develop a relationship with him. i'm telling him because i don't want to lie to him, having him think i think of him as just a friend when i really don't. so how should i tell him? (link)
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well,great!!!the first step is already made,just call him,tell him that you need to talk to him in private of course!!!!never in front of his friends or texting him,because it's something serious what you're gonna talk about,avoid crowded places,and it's always better during night,JUST TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL,trust me,if he really likes you,he'll come clean and tell you his secret feelings for you,and if he doesn't,well,at least there will be no more doubts,and you won't be wasting your time anymore:):):):):):)
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so basically i'm so confused and im tired of bullshit. Why is it so hard for a guy to either tell us they like us, or be honest that they don't. Why do they have to play games? I'm in highschool but i'm one who hates hookups I would rather just have one special person there but it's seriously so hard to find because every guys ends up fucking you over and I'm terribly scared to have that happen. I've only kissed one guy but i've still gotten hurt by others...basically the guy I kissed just flat out stopped talking to me after like 6 months of non offical dating but like we both weren't seeing any one else. He made it clear he liked me and basically spent every weekend with me. Then out of nowhere doesn't talk to me and like ignores me at school but if im like walking to my car he'll drive past and stare me down. I just am seriously tired of drama and that feeling where basically you feel like you can't find anyone decent. I don't even know what i'm saying and i guess I just want your opinion why would he do that...=[ it's just how could he say all the things he did to me and one day act like he never said any of it (link)
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look,no kid at highschool can be taken seriously ,believe me,i´ve been through it like a thousand times before,what you have to do is just try to finish highschool and go to university,form your future,be strong and serious,then serious guys will come to you because you want someyhing real and lasting so when you actually give that impression to everyboody,stupid guys will run away and serious ones will show up,don´t waste your time:)
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Well, I have a crush on a guy, and he says he doesn't like me. But the past few days, he's been talking to me alot lately, and tells me to read his work, comes to me to talk for a while, and at my friend's parties, he comes and sits next to me. I s it possible he does? (link)
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well,i guess he does, but he just acts as if he didn´t. All men are like that,have you told him about what you feel about him,though?you should, because you could be losing the guy of your life,there is nothing wrong about letting people know how you feel,and if he actually doesn´t then it´ll mean that he does not deserve you
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I'm not sure if I put my question in the correct category, but it seems as good a place as any. I am at University, in my third year studying Englis Literature and Sociology. I am struggling with how I feel-I usually get ok grades, sometimes outstanding ones, but I worry all the time that my work isn't good enough, and I never think that I am doing/have done enough. I wish I could work harder, but I can't seem to make myself. I waste time stressing when I could be studying. I also have a lot of low self esteem related stuff-I feel pretty dingy about myself, and that other people must be laughing at me, and think that I'm boring and stupid.
The sad thing is that reading this, you'd probably guess that I was in my late teens or very early twenties, but you'd be wrong: I'm 28. This is my second shot at University after I dropped out first time 'round, so actually my performance is a vast improvement on my previous. But I just worry all the time that I am unemployable, and that when I finish (if I even finish) I'll just be left with a pretty bit of paper and nothing much else. I am not a member of any kind of extracurricular activity or anything like that: I am too shy and awkward. I actually hate turning up to classes because I feel so awkward, but I know that has to be overcome. Does anyone have any wisdom/advice/good thoughts? (link)
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my god!!!!!I´m wordless!!!just cheer up!!!I´m a student of English at University as well!!!and I´m 26!!!look, just do what you have to do and that´s all!!!just keep on trying your best and study a lot!!there are no efforts without rewards!!you´ll thank yourself later,believe me!!I ADMIRE you and I dont think you are awkward at all!!
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Well I'm 17, female. Im still a virgin. I had the opportunity to loose it about 2 years ago but I wasn't ready but I am now. Since I'm a virgin an I'm single I don't want to just find a guy I'm friends with and be like "hey, wanna take my virginity?" because that seems kind of slutty. I don't really know how to go about this so I'd just like opinions. (link)
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honey,just go ahead!!!!nobody actually cares about how slutty u may sound!!!when it comes to sex,everything is allowed!!feel free!!!just like i do!!lol
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