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Having sex under aged
Hi, im 14/f and my boyfriends 15. I'm an August baby, and all of my friends are september - even though we're in the same year at school, their almost a year older than me. In septmeber, when they turn 16, they'll be starting to have sex with their boyfriends. Even though i've been with my boyfriend for just as long as them (coming up 9 months)i wont be having sex until august 2011 - im not sure it's worth waiting that long.
We both love each other, and i'm not on about having sex now, maybe may next year? but i wanna know why its such a big deal to be over 16?!? should i wait - obviously i only would have sex if im ready. can i get some opinions?
Bearing in mind he'll be 17 next year. Thanks x
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Heck yeah it does matter when to have sex.Its going to affect your life.You might think you love him but you don't sweetie.Dont give your virginity to no one at this age.Your way to young dont make a mistake you can regret your whole life.You can get pregnant or get a disease.Wait until your old, that you have a job,a place to live and that you mature enough.Theres time for everything in life.If he really loves you he will wait for you.Wish you the best!:)
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1. You're the one that is older because you were born in August. That makes your friends a month younger then you not a year older. Next year your boyfriend will be 16 because he is fifteen this year.
2. It does matter how long you've been with your boyfriend when it comes to sex but if you are not ready then don't do it. Just because you turn Sweet 16 doesn't mean you have to jump the gun and have sex. If you don't feel ready then don't do it because you may end up regretting it later even if it feels right now sometimes later down the road you may feel it wasn't such a good idea. And as for your friends they may say they are having sex but are they really? sometimes people say to feel more "Mature" or to "Fit in". Don't let age decide when you're ready to have sex. You decide.
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Okay, I'm 13 and just like you I'm an August babyy. I was with my boyfriend for about 8 months when I was 12. I lost my virginity to him when I was 12. You don't have to be 16. It really doesn't matter how old you are. You shouldn't plan when your going to have sex. When it happens it happens. you don't plan it. Just make sure he's the right one for youu. (;
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I dont get why you have to be 16 to have sex.. like why are you basing it all around turning 16. who cares when your friends are having sex.
if you want to have sex and he wants to and you wind up doing it, well who cares when it happens, just be protected.
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The Age if Consent varys from state to state and country to country. In most places, it's sixteen. It’s doesn’t mean you are magically ready at sixteen, and just means the law had to pick an age where it seems likely you are capable of choosing to have sex with someone else without being too bullied or ignorant about it.
Also, in most place, there is a 'close in age exemption' that makes it legal for peers to have consensual sex. Genearlly, that means you can have sex with someone within two years of your age without it being statutory rape, even if you are under the age of consent. So, legally, you could have sex right now. It’s not a good idea, but your boyfriend wont go to jail if the AoC is sixteen.
Frankly, I wish I’d waited until I was 18 or 19 to have sex. Being out of my parents home, and being responsible for more of my own choices in life made sex way more enjoyable and made it me smarter about it. I didn’t wait that long, but when people ask me my opinion on whens a good age, my advice is pretty much always: Wait ‘till college. It’s more fun then, and you’re probably ready for it and you are in an enviroment where people are frank and can give you good information about sex.
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You don't plan to have sex, Sex just happens when the time is right. I have no idea where you heard the whole 16 thing but it is all a bull faced lie. Sex, is NOT a race, A competition or even to see who is better than who. Sex is a very serious thing two people share because they love each other, they trust each other. 14,15,16, in my opinion is all WAY to young to be having sex. If you decide to have sex make sure you are mature enough, You are ready, and you are also ready to take on any responsibilities that could happen. However like I said...People don't plan when they are going to have sex. That is just plain weird
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I don't know where the number 16 came from.
Legally, as long as you're both under 18 or both over 18 it's fine.
But I can think of why it's important to be old enough. Not like "ONCE YOU TURN 16, YOU ARE MATURE ENOUGH." It's not like that. Adults think you should wait to have sex because when you're older, you're more likely to be aware of the ramifications.
Think about it. DO you really know all the possible consequences? Not just "i can get pregnant lol", but every other possible outcome? STDs, infections, etc.? You shouldn't have sex until you KNOW what diseases you can get from it. Because if you do get it, it can be too late.
Are you aware of any contraceptive methods? Are you prepared to deal with what will happen if your method of contraception FAILS? What if you get pregnant? Do you have a backup plan? If not, can you support a child?
Anyway, sorry if I went into Lecture Mode, but that's about it. You shouldn't tack a date and time onto when you should start having sex. And you also shouldn't do it just because your friends are. It's a matter of whether you're ready or not (mentally & physically), and whether you know enough about it and the consequences. it doesn't matter how OLD you are; numbers are meaningless. it's a matter of maturity.
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