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why?
18/male.
now i don't know why i do what i do, and yet i do it anyways. i have a nice relationship growing with a female friend of mine. and things are going good. and then i always always do or say something stupid to push her away. like tonight for example she said she would call me back in a few minutes as she had to get off the phone momentarily. and so i sat there for a while then my friend rodney came by and asked me if i wanted to go see a movie. and me being the idiot i am went along with it and left this girl who i have such intense feelings for hanging. and so i came back around and tried to talk to her online and she was mad at me which was to be expected. but the point of this question is: why do i do this crap? why do i always make an idiot out of myself and ruin things between me and a girl? why can't i just leave well enough alone and stick around? is it just because i'm immature and stupid? or is there more to it?
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First off, you're not a jerk. I get it. You leaving on the spot with a friend doesn't mean you don't care about her. You got side tracked and it happens to the best of us. If you really love this lady and you know you do, you're Doing eerything right. Just try to balance love and guy time equally so everything will work out and everyone stays happy. Good luck
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maybe cos you're a jerk. or you dont like her well enough. but knowing that you care about her, i would say you're just clueless. however the way you're treating her even if she likes you she'll probably be thinking 'he's just not that into me'. so if you really like her, show it to her. treat her as if she's your number 1 priority.
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What you described really isn't that big a deal. The point at which you fucked up was disappearing when she obviously was coming back for you.
In the future, in a situation like that, send her a text "my friend dropped by and he's kidnapping me for a movie, I'll call you as soon as we're done" both shows that you're a courteous guy who's thinking about her, and shows that you have a life which is just kind of attractive to girls in general.
In the mean time, go and apologize. Tell her that you're sorry, that you're scatterbrained sometimes and you didn't mean to disrespect her by not being there when she called back, and tell her that you'll do the above in the future so that she's not sitting there waiting for your asshole self. Do this face to face.
Then tell her she looks beautiful. 99% chance that apology plus compliment will net you complete forgiveness, even if its transparent as hell. Girls think its cute when you try.
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You shouldn't be so down.Guys always make these mistakes when they really like someone. You second guess yourself I bet like ''Am I being really eager waiting to see if she calls you back '' and ;;would you come on a stalker if you wait for her like that'' . You may not know it but you are. And Girls easily get mad if you never answer when you call them back, They LIKE you for that and just Don't second guess yourself .... Just be you!!!
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First of all stop being so hard on yourself sometimes people dont realize what their doing and things happen accidently just think things through before doing something and make sure its the right thing to do and just think about you female friend and if doing this thing is going to make her upset in anyway im sure by thinking before doing anything will make things better for you. :)
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