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Ex problemsss!!!
Im 17 years old, I haven't been on here in atleast 4 or 5 years and I decided to make a new account and start fresh! Ok, so here is my problem. I dated this guy, Mike, for 3 1/2 years about 2 years ago. I was younger and he was 4 years older then me, but thats beyond the point. He was my first love, and I was his first love. Things were kind of shaky in the relationship, but we were both really immature and new to the whole "love" thing. We broke up a few times a week, but it was almost to the point where we were expecting it. Eventually we broke up for good but it was almost impossible to stay away from each other. We'd talk about getting back together all the time but it would never fall through because we knew we needed to end it and just live our young lives apart for awhile. Eventually we stopped talking as often and I started dating this guy like 6 months after we broke up for good. He would still text me occasionally and ask me how I was doing, and to let me know that if I needed anything he'd be there for me. Although I dated this other guy, Keith, for a year and a half, the love I had for him was NOTHING compared to the love I had for Mike. Around 6 months ago me and Keith broke up and I haven't talked to him since, which doesn't bother me one bit. But since Keith and I have been broken up, Mike and I have been hanging out occasionally and talking on a more regular basis, but he has a girlfriend that he's currently living with but claims he can't stand her and wants to break up but is scared how things will work out between me and him and if they ended up shitty he'd lose his current girlfriend as well. I do feel bad that he plays his current girlfriend, but its a first love type of thing, I cant get enough of him. I do want to be with him again, but he has awhole other life with another girl. He invited me to the beach for the weekend with him, and said we could talk about getting back together when we go, but why would he invite me to go with him and not his current girlfriend. I hate being a second choice to him, but I dont want to be like "break up with her and get back with me" since I'd forcing a relationship that may end up not working in the end and I have no right to be telling him what to do. I really want to be with him again, because of course I still love him, but I dont know how to react to everything. Thanks everyone, I know this was long..
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I totally get how you feel. There is this guy that I am crazy about. I've had a thing for him for about 3 years. We've been on and off for 2 years. I've have boyfriends in between but I couldn't even compare them to the first guy.
Anyways, like you said before, you don't want to be that "other girl" or the "second choice".
So don't talk to him about getting back together, don't hook up with him when he's still with his girlfriend.
If he was so unhappy with his girlfriend, then he should break up with her and not keep playing her. You deserve better too, you don't deserve a guy to talk to you while he's with another girl.
When they break up, that's when you should start talking to him about getting back together.
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Well I believe you should just move on there ALOT more guys out in the world I have had the same problem as you..you'll get through this but I really think you should move on because mr right might be closer than u think;) hope I helped
Kennaloo
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Heres what you should do, and i apologize for how this may come out but GET OVER HIM AND MOVE ON! your young. and you know can get someone else, i mean i know you love him and everything but i mean come on, whatd you think youd be together forever, look, hes gonna always be in your mind, but you know that it needed to end. you can still be friends but if your Someones SECOND choice, He dosent have the right to choose you, remember you are a priority not an option :)
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