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Fiends with benefits
I have had a friends w/benefits situation for the past 5 years and I have developed feelings for my partner. Well, recently I told him that I could not continue this (but I did not tell him how I felt about him) and he said he understood. He has other girls that he can get sex from but he still wants to have sex with me. Why? Could he possibly have feelings for me?
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If he had fallen for you and just like you didn't want to say anything, how could you know? Then again, he said he understood instead of looking stricken.
Now if you had said, "Dan I know we agreed on a friends with benefits situation only. Since my feelings are getting stronger than that, I feel I need to stop this relationship because it's not fair to expect more from you." he would know why you were cutting it off and that gave him an opportunity right there to say something if he was developing strong feelings for you.
Keep in mind for any future situation to give a person enough info to reveal how they feel without having to ask them how they feel. If he keeps contacting you saying he misses the sex... you could take your chance then to reveal something. 'Dan, I miss the sex too, it was great. But I didn't tell you enough earlier' and then explain why you'd rather cut your losses. That you can't do the FWB thing while having fallen in love with him. If he's a really dense guy, at least now he will get it and have a last chance to tell you how he feels if he does have feelings for you that go beyond friendship.
Otherwise, don't over think it and just go on with your life. You deserve to find the man who can't stand being apart from you, not cus he's needy but because all of life is more fun and exciting with you in it, even the mundane tasks like grocery shopping and doing dishes.
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He probably just finds you really attractive and you've probably always been a good sex partner for him.
Then of course, maybe he does feel the same.
Could be either one so maybe ask him why he still wants to have sex with you.
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Well he might like you, but It might be that youre just a great sex partner , if he really liked you, he wouldve been more concerned about you stoping relations with him. But maybe if you tell him how you feel he could feel the same. You never try , you never know.
Xx, Tatianna
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