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i just want all the arugments to stop.
im 17f, my mother cheated on my father 2 or 3 years ago its broke my dads heart which it would, me and my mother have never got on she used to be voilet to me and ive always wished bad things to happen to her, when she cheated and she moved out i was soo happy, i didnt fell guity, ive have younger bother and sister they were heartbroken which at that point they didnt understand what she had done, but then dad said im going to take her back, i just wanted too say no! after the way she treated me and i was being selfish, she came back and dad promised me that she would never lay a finger on me again which she hasnt but now shes got sumthing over my dad and shes told me she hates me and that she wants me out and that ive broke the family up she seems to forget whats she had done and ive never forgiven her and i will not, its seems like all my family turned agaist me like it all my fault , i can be cheeky but i cant understand why my mum hates me soo much, dad gets home and have a go at me and always on her side never listen to me but when shes not around well he says you no what she like blah blah, i used to be soo close to my father so its all changed, half off my family have stuck by me, i just think that my mum has no family after they kicked her out, she has to this? , family member said we all no whats she has done but you will have too forget it for your fathers sake, but i just cant shes hurt me so much and doesnt respect me and they want me too forgive and forget ive tryed people dont just understand!, i just dont no how to forgive her? but will i ever forgive her ? i would love if she moved out and i never got too see her again, ive even gone aways for a week or too, or could she see me as a treat? i just wanna get along, i realy dont want this family too fall apart.
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I know you don't understand why your mother is doing this. I'm not sure anyone understands and that's whats hurting the most. You can't be mad at your dad for forgiving her for cheating, because sometimes love over-powers all other feelings. You shouldn't hate your mother or wish bad things on her, because no matter what has happened, she's still your mother. She gave you life and was there for you for 17 years.
People change for all sorts of reasons. Don't blame yourself about any of it, it's not your fault. People change themselves. You're almost 18 which means you can move out and get away from that whole situation.
As for your dad, he probably wants his family back to normal and is trying so hard to make your mom happy again. Don't get mad at him for not defending you. It's not because he's chosing her over you, it's because he doesn't want any more problems coming out of your family.
I would suggest maybe talking to your mom alone. Let her know how much you do care about her and just wish she showed the same back to you. Let out all of your feelings to her and maybe that'll be enough for her to appreciate you more. If it doesn't help, it still won't hurt because at least she'll know what she's making you feel towards her.
Good luck.
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i think that you should distance yourself from your mom try not talking to her so much maybe she will realize that she needs to treat you better
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