Question Posted Thursday September 11 2008, 1:44 pm
Ok, this is really long but if you answer this you will help me get my smile back.
I broke up with my boyfriend 'A' of 2 years. Things were'nt working out between us,. However we continue to be friends.
The thing is, immediately after the break up I fell for his friend 'D'. They're friends but not that great. It's not that it was sudden. I had liked him for almost six months but always tried to convince my self that it was just infatuation.
But now I realise its way more than that. Way more than even liking him. Its more like Im in love (yes, LOVE) with him. Its not that he hasn't shown any signs. You know the way he looks at me. Its not like normal looking its the kind as if he wants to just hold me. Even when he talks to me there is this softness in his voice which I noticed isn't there when he talks to other people.
'D' has a gf. But she's in India studying. So far away from him. She's been a bitch to him. She broke up with him and then got back again and then left for India for the next 3 years.
The thing is I want him to know I love him. But I'm afraid f the following:
1.He might think I'm desparate.
2.I jump from one guy to another.
3.Im a player.
4.He probably loves his gf.
5.HE MIGHT TOTALLY FLIP.
6.I might lose him as a friend.
7.'A' might try to tell him stuff about me which might freak him out.
In what way can I approach him.
Ps- I dont talk to him or meet him that much.
I hope u understand I love 'D' and Advicenator people are the only ones I can turn to when such miserable things happen to me.
Thanks a lot.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? beautevil78 answered Thursday September 11 2008, 7:29 pm: OMG!!!! i hope i help cause i just got out of this crisis! ok so dont be stupid and do what i did.......you really dont need to know...........so anyways the thing that i needed to realize but didnt is that maybe you should hint to him not exactly tell him but hint at it and see if you guys can ever hang out alone if you can then confide little things to him but dont give him the whole picture just yet and if you guys start to grow closer then tell him how you feel about your ex and how you think your ex feels about you and then he will know ahead of time what to expect from your ex after things go smoothly for a few weeks then whenever you guys have time alone you can tell him lightly (dont just blurt it out cause that might freak him out) [ beautevil78's advice column | Ask beautevil78 A Question ]
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