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Sex for the second time
okay well i am going to have sex for the second time and i was wondering if it was going to feel good this time and if i used the condom properly if i would get pregnant also we are using spermicidal lube.
thanks
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Sex feels better each time you do it. It's always possible to get pregnant, whether you use a condom or not. Condoms do lower the risk, however. Have fun.
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1. Many, many women have sex and NEVER in their entire lifetime actually enjoy it, orgasm, or have a "feel good" time. Only 25-30% of women orgasm regularly from vaginal penetration (penis in vagina sex) alone. This being said, there are fairly good chances you won't ever have sex that feels "amazing" or anything that you imagine it should be.
A lot of young women keep having sex with various partners because they're looking for that magical, mind-blowing sex they've heard about from their friends. The problem is, everyone really thinks sex should be awesome the first go-around--or the seventh go around--but you need to realize that it simply isn't for most women. This being said, when young women now say they have been with 15 guys in 6 months because it's so "addictive and wonderful" it tells me that they had sex with those guys, trying to figure out WHY it isn't mind-blowing.
Of course, nobody is going to admit that, but I will. And, no, love has nothing to do with it--you can deeply love someone but always have awful, unfulfilling sex.
I've had really, really bad sex before. I've had really, really awful sex with two men. Sex I pretended was fairly good, sex I ended up figuring out as, "This must just be normal...wow...what a freaking waste of time." I never told my female friends that the sex I had was boring, uneventful, and stupid though. Who wants to be the girl that says, "My boyfriend really SUCKS in bed. He's horrible," or, just simply, "I NEVER have a good time in bed..."
After the first time, I figured it would get better but it didn't. After the 5th time, I kept expecting it to get better--but it never did. Eventually I had a second partner and I expected that sex to be better than my previous encounters--but it wasn't! Turns out, I was just finding out that what all my little girl friends at school were saying about their experiences with so-and-so-boy were all very stupid lies.
See what I'm saying? ;)
Don't expect miracles at any point. That's all.
2. Spermicide typically increases the condom effectiveness by ABOUT 5%. Condoms are, typically, about 85% to 88% effective on preventing pregnancy anyway. This being said, a condom coupled with spermicidal lube would be about 90% to 93% effective with typical usage.
Spermicidal lubrication, foam, and films are not very effective alone when not coupled with another method of "protection."
Hormonal Birth Control is actually only about 92% effective with typical usage.
The Pull-Out method is only about 25%-70% effective on preventing pregnancy with typical usage.
Note that NO "protection" method--this meaning condoms, spermicide, hormonal birth control, etc--are effective in preventing STD and STI transmission. This means you are still very much at risk for contracting an STD/STI.
Spermicidal lube (nonoxyl-9) has been linked to: increased urinary tract infections (UTIs) in women, vaginal yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, skin rashes, itching and burning sensations of the genitals. There is also now a large concern over nonoxyl-9 causing minor-to-severe birth defects when used during early pregnancy.
Yes, you could very well become pregnant using this method (or any other method, really).
I hope I was clear about all of the information I provided for you. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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sex for your second time no doubtably will feel better than the first time but its not going to feel great, at least for most people. once you start having sex more often it will start to feel real good and progressively feel even better. as for a possibility of getting pregnant, its always a possibility, nothing is 100%,you see a condom is about 90% effective and spermicide is about 71% effective, it is good you are using protection though. but i suggest if you are planning on having sex on a regular basis to go on birth control just to take extra protection, birth control is 99% effective, and remember that birth control does not prevent any stds/aids so be sure to use a condom on top of it.
anything else i can help you with feel free to ask.
Brittni
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