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Hey I'm Tricia.
I've been through: alcoholic parents, divorce, depression, anxiety, moving, making new friends, relationship problems...etc. Feel free to ask me anything. I'm always here for you. =]

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okay so i know the song is called robbery but who sings it? it goes like this "all my thugs cock your knives like this, shoot a b**** and don't you miss" and " your money, your keys, get on yo f-in knees." thanks!

yepppp it's nappyheadz.
i love that song :]

i need a new screename
my name is nicole
and i like it simple

so nicole said
x nicoleee
wtf nicole
BAMitsnicole
OMFG its nicole

Sorry for the length please consider helping me.

So I started going out with this guy Tony from school. Tony is a stubborn and cautious guy, of anything, not just girls. He has this wall, like mine, just way stronger, he says it's to keep from hurting anyone, not getting hurt. Well we started going out, we fought about it on Friday but we finally started going out. I didn't see him/talk to him over the weekend at all so I sent him a message on Facebook and I said, " I miss you. =] " and his response was, " ok...so how did your weekend go. " I just responded back as quickly as possible and my message back to him was,

" Uhm thanks for not saying it back.
It sucks cause I thought about you all weekend.
So yeah
How was yours?
Are you still gonna hang out w/ me tomorrow? "

Well today he didn't hang out with me but when we were friends he did all the time in the morning, he also gave me hugs, but today he didn't, don't know why. He usually talks to me a lot at lunch since we have both lunches together, and I sit on his lap all the time, even when we were friends. Today I came over and sat by him and he got up and walked away. Some kids locked him out of school so I opened the door for him and he just walked past me. He didn't say hi to me even, just completely ignored me. He came over by the group of girls I was with, looked at Melanie ( his friend/ my friend ) and looked at Karen, and walked away. No eye contact between me and him. After lunch, as we're going to class, I was going to stop him and ask him what was going on, he just stormed off. Said not one word to me all day. Did I do something wrong... Is he mad at me? What's going on?

I care about him a lot. I don't care how much I go through to get his trust (he says I already have it) but I don't know what to do.
I'm really sorry for the length...please consider helping me if you can in anyway.

The best thing for you to do is get him to talk to him. That means just walking up to him and saying we need to talk. Don't try to make a lot of comotion though, just calmly ask him why he's ignoring you. If you want to have a good relationship, you're going to have to make more effort, even though it seems like you already are.
If you know you don't have his trust, make sure to bring that up. Make sure not to call him a liar or antying, because that will just make everything more tense. Just ask him, "if i have your trust, why donn't you act like it?"
Make it clear to him that you really like him and want this to continue, but he's going to have to put effort in it. If he's not willing, he's not worth your time.

does anyone have any good myspace proxys to go n at school cause they blocked all the ones i knew thank you in advanced!

rednecktranslator.com
aussietranslator.com

usually they aren't blocked, but some kids might have already tried that and been blocked. but that's all i know.

sorry i know this was in the wrong category..
but whats on 4.20.? details please. thanks.

National smoke pot day. : ]
everybody skips school and gets effed up.

im 15/f. if i find out a guy i like likes me back, i usually lose interest in him. am i not ready for a boyfried or what? its seriously annoying and id love it to stop

This always happens to me as well. I'll be like head over heals for a guy then they tell me, and i'll still like him then all of a sudden, BAM! i don't like him anymore. It sucks right?

It probably means that you liked him because he didn't like you, not because you had a ton of interest in him. When you find someone that likes you back and you still like him, then you'll know that you like him for him.

I know it's super annoying, but just hang in there.

in one of your questions you sed you have A cups but when someone was talking about girls having big boobs or small boobs & fussing over it you sed you have big boobs and alot of people tell you that.. are you lying?

uhh. no? why would i lie about that?

ok so i really like this guy but i dumped him cuz he was going to dump me but i still want him but hes going out with one of my good friends even though she said she wouldn't i think shes a backstabbing slut but shes my good friend and if she likes him i want them to be happy but i am still in love with him what should i do get him back and how or leave like it is him being happy and me being so lost and sad

luv ya like a sista

yeah. please use punctuation.

but, so what. if she likes someone she likes them. he's not your peice of territory, so she has a right. you dumped him, not she gets him.

sorry.

what usually happens when they take your braces off..,

doees it hurt? some of my friends said it kinda hurt :S

Heyy. :]
I've gotten them on, then off, then got them on, then off AGAIN. so i'm pretty much a pro ;]

anyways. orthodontists do it differently. my first orthodontist just kind pulled them off. it sounds worse than it hurts though. it might hurt for a moment when the brace is being yanked off, but it goes away quickly. it might hurt a tiny bit after the fact, but you'll be so glued to a mirror you wouldn't have time to notice ;]

one of my orthodontists put numbing stuff on it, but it's not that big of a difference because it doesn't hurt that bad.

don't worry about it. just be excited & get ready to look gorgeous!

My friend and I went to the movies the other day and the whole movie she was making out with her boyfriend.

I found this weird because no one in my grade really does this. But I kept seeing her like rub his private parts over his pants.. and I know this sounds weird but I could hear him like moaning.

But question is, is this normal? Is this just like giving a hand job?

I know this question seems stupid, I'm just really uneducated.

Thanks in advance.

It's pretty normal around 8th grade and up. When a new person kind of discovers being turned on and turning others on, it happens. It's completely normal.

I'm a teenage girl (raised catholic) who has been atheist/agnostic/unsure since the summer. I have encountered several recent events in my life that have lead me to believe that there really is a God after all. All of my friends are really strong christians- but I just don't think that God is real.

I don't know if Christianity is right- or even real... but I'm feeling compelled to recommit my life to Christ. What does that mean anyway? How can you "commit your life" to someone who isn't even real? Who IS Jesus? I mean this whole thing makes no sense. How can there be a God when there are so many other religions like islam and such? My prayers never came true as a Christian.

Oh, by the way- I hate going to church and i don't see the point in doing it. It never even brought me closer to this so-called God. To be a true Christian (not a poser) do you HAVE to attend mass? What if I just want to have my OWN faith? I also don't believe in Bible verses and stuff- like I don't think that the people in it were real. Why can't we just have faith in GOD and not all the crap that goes along with it?

well. i'm a christian, so this is my view [warning].

i personally do believe that God is real. you CAN commit your life to God because he IS real. Jesus is the son of God who came to earth in the form of a man about 2000 years ago. He died on a cross to save the world of our sins. That doesn't mean that we DONT go to hell if we don't repent, but it means we CAN go to heaven even though we have sinned. The reason that there CAN be a God with so many other religions is because people like you have different beliefs. God made the world so that we can have our own choices.
God always answers prayers, it just may be a yes or a no.
and, God lets things happen like the Holocaust and 9/11 because this whole world is a test to prove are faith. God would never put us through something that we couldn't handle.

And, about the chruch thing. I used to hate going to church too, and I thought it was a total waste of time. But I finally found a church with AMAZING people and AMAZING worship, and it really did bring me closer to God.

And why wouldn't you believe the Bible? If you study history, you can see that many of the events that happened back in ancient history match along with the Bible. So it actually is true.

And, Catholosism and Christianity are very different. Christians don't go to mass, Catholics do. Christians don't think that the wine and bread are ACTUALLY Jesus's blood and body, Catholics do. If you study into both, you can choose which one is best for you.

Just don't give up, k? :]

okay well my names taylor and i really want a new screenname with my name in it. i like things like taylor is a badass, team taylor, taylor x fcuk, etc. please help ill rate high.

here are some ideas.

taylor x bamf [bad ass mother fucker] haha.
BAMF to the tay
tay to the BAMF
tayBAMFbaby
fcuk to taylor
taylor intheface
tay in the ass
tay fcuk lor

something like that.
:]

I've been dating this guy for a month, we've gone on 3 dates, he's 2 years older than me. We're both gay and he's in the closet... I don't know whether or not I should ask him to be my boyfriend or wait for him to ask me... What should I do? His birthday is coming up and I was thinking we could have a candle lit dinner and then I'd ask him if he would like to be my boyfriend in a like proposal sort of way ^_^. He's going to be 19 and i'm 17. We both share roles so that it's not strictly dominant/non dominant. So... yeah any advice?? He's never been in a relationship before and i've been in two... Anymore questions just ask me!

I say ask him out. If he hasn't asked you out then do it. But make sure he's comfortable with it though. You don't want to ALWAYS have to be the dominant.

Haye yawl, this is kindof stupid n all but like me and my boyfriend hav been goin out 4 like a year this thursday and i kindof need a cute gift idea. i really love him and i need it 2 b awsome. he iz a country redneck boy cauz we r frum ga.so if u have a good idear id luv 2 hear it.thanx yawl :)!!
luv caroHaley

I'm from georgia too!
wellll. If he has a pick up, rebel flag stickers are always a good side to a great gift ;]
But, you could suprise him to a Bulldogs or Falcons football tickets or Braves tickets [not sure what sport season it is =) ]
If that is too much money, you can try going somewhere like a monstertruck rally [my boy is obsessed with those].
Stuff that has to do with him being a redneck is always a sign of affection because that's a thing you love about him!
good luck.
triciaXterror

what do i do if my best friend is going out with my exboyfriend?

It doesn't mean that she isn't a good friend. He's not your's and you're not his. So she thought he was available. I really don't see anything wrong with it. You can try to tell her how you feel about it so your friendship isn't hurt, but don't expect her to break up with him.

Female, 14.
I feel quite stupid for resulting to a website to sort out my religious beliefs, but here it goes.

I don't know what to believe anymore. I went to church for quite sometime, but I never understood anything they were talking about and I just felt so left out, confused, and stupid everytime I asked a question about the lesson. I eventually begged my mom to stop making me go because I just felt so uncomfortable at church.

If God comes to Earth, is he going to come as some random person, and just take all those who believe in him? How do I know if I truly believe?

If God controlled everything, why would he let people get sick, raped, or killed in the first place? Why do we have to beg and ask for things to get better?

Also, did God like tell people to run out and believe in him, or idk, how did he all the sudden become "God"

I guess I need things to be proven to me and explained. Anyone who helps or gives me any sites to help me would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much.

well.

God is not going to come as a random person. It says in the Bible that He is going to come on a white horse with all of his angels in the sky, and he is going to take the nonbelievers back to heaven.

God lets those things happen to people because if it was a perfect world, everyone WOULD believe in God and there would not be any heart in it. God wants you to CHOOSE Him, He is a very jealous God.

Please, for me, keep trying to go to church and make friends. Try going to different churches. I went to a church alone for a whole year!

You can look up some in your area, or you can have your own personal devotion time by reading the Bible and praying.

He'll help you.

triciaXterror

p.s. if you ever have anymore questions IM me at x123onthefelonyy

I'm always negative. I can not accept myself the way I am. I'm a 116-117lb girl who thinks they're fat. I think I'm ugly. No matter how many compliments I get, I always disagree. I worry about everything. I always think my boyfriend/mother is going to die in a car accident. I seriously can not control these thoughts. I REALLY want to not think this anymore. Is this a mental problem? I don't know what I should do; I can't really see a counsler, because I'd have a hard time explaining to my mother.

What can I do?

Thank you so much.

Wow, you sound like me sooo much.

I explained it to an adult who is like a couselor for me. She prayed for me, and about a month later I began excepting myself as a pretty girl.

You could seriously just see a school counselor without them calling your parents. It looks like the best thing right now in this situation.

Another road is GOD! He can help you through all of this if you just ask him too. You don't have to be embarrassed, or scared. Just do it and start walking in the way he'd want you too.

triciaXterror.
p.s. if you ever need to talk to someone, AIM me at x123onthefelonyy.

Hi, a girl in another school likes me alot but I'm not sure. I like her as a friend but not romantically.

When she first told me I said I maybe in the future but recently I said I'd think about it.

I really dont want to hurt her but I dont love her back. Is there anyway I can say so gently without hurting her or damaging our friendship??

I am 15 years old and a male.

Thanks in advance :)

Well, I'm a girl, and I know EXACTLY how I'd like to be told. here it is:

"Tricia*, I'm really flattered that you like me, but I don't like you in that way. Is it okay if we could just be friends? I'd really like that..."

*just stuck my name in there for the heck of it.

Make sure you are gentle!!! The most fragile thing in the world is a girls heart.

Make sure that you keep talking to her, but not more than usual. Try to make it as less awkward as possible.

And I think that it's really sweet that you want to be so gentle.

Usually guys are blunt. A+ =P

goodluck.
triciaXterror

okay im 13 and so are my 2 friends. and we`re girls haha. and we have no idea what to be.. what are some creative, tteenish cheapish costumes ? THANKS! =]

Me & my friend are going as Harajuku girls =P

One year, me & the same two girls were pirates. We just took striped socks, old black pants [cut them to the knee and made them jagged] a long sleeved stripe shirt, a bandana, and an eye patch. A prop like a sword would be good.

You can go as martigraw girls. You could wear a ton of cheap martigraw beads, a sequen eye mask, and a boa. A short party skirt too. [make sure you wear hose if you are in a cold place.]

You could all be slutty goths too if you are prep, might be fun to step in to someones shoes, ya know?

GOOD LUCK! =D
triciaXterror

14/f

RAWR. my brother was on the phone with the kid i like.. & my brother goes "My sister likes you!"

I was like mortified..

I see him friday...& hes comin to my party..
What do i do!? Do I say something to him?

Don't say anything. That will totally make it awkward. And if your crush DOES say something about it, if you don't want to tell him you like him, just be like "yeah, my brother says that to the guys i talk to on the phone all the time. It's really annoying."
Make sure you say it relaxed or he'll know you are lying.
If you DON'T want to lie, & your crush DOES say something about it, just say "Yeah, my brother is really annoying."
And that's it.
if you have anymore questions just message me.
triciaXterror

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