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my best friend is a backstabber!
what do i do if my best friend is going out with my exboyfriend?
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okay, well for one; your friend is not a backstabber, you and your ex borke up.. hence the EX part... but yea i can understand why that would bother you. But, if you think about it, if she is your best friend then you should be happy for her, that he and her are happy with each other. SO, pretty much the only reason that this would bother you enough to wanna do somethin about it.. that means you still have feelings for him, even if you don t wanna beleive it.
But, if you feel this strongly about them bein together then you should take your friend to the side one day and tell her how you feel and that you feel like shes backstabbing you by dating him.. she shouldnt take it as that bad of news.. but then again she might depending on how she feels about the situation.so be verrry subtle about the situation.. like no yelling or anything, she might get mad =[.
i hope that i helped in some way..
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get some leaves and paste them on ha it wuld be funny, pr you can tape them on.
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I hate to break it to you kiddo, you can't do or say anything really. Its over between you & your ex. He no longer belongs to you. 'All is fair in love & war' Thats an important qoute to remember, I hate that qoute, because I've been in the same situation as you, & yeah.. it sucks.
There is one little thing though, if she knew that you still liked him, I mean, like you've mentioned it plenty of times & stuff & she knew, then.. then shes not a very good friend. If she had no idea, & everything, you cannot blame her.
Even if you thought she knew, theres a chance she didn't.
You have to remember, its just a boy, & there will always be others. You've gotta think, would you really wanna lose your best friend, over a boy? Nahh.. i know I wouldn't.
You've gotta think of these things as if you were her & yourself. Tell her your upset, but you don't wanna cause a fight.. but it did hurt your feelings.. see where it goes from there.
Maybe you'll just have to deal with the fact that she may not be as good as a friend as you thought she was.. you know?
K. I hope I helped, kbyee.
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It doesn't mean that she isn't a good friend. He's not your's and you're not his. So she thought he was available. I really don't see anything wrong with it. You can try to tell her how you feel about it so your friendship isn't hurt, but don't expect her to break up with him.
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that means she isnt a good friend. you need to tell her that its not right for her to go out with him .. or at least she should have asked you first if you cared. number 1 in the friendship handbook is NEVER DATE AN EX! =]
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Well, that means you have the same taste in guys.
How long ago did you and your ex break up? Who initiated the break-up? Are you still interested in him? Does your friend know that? If so, then there could be a problem. If not, let it go. Especially if you broke up with him. There was a reason you let him go. Perhaps she will be a better match for him and you will find the right guy later on.
I say all this from experience. No fewer than three of my closest friends dated one particular ex of mine. One even ended up engaged to him, though that didn't last. I am now married to the guy who was his best friend at the time I was dating him. It really isn't a big deal unless you make it one.
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It's okay for people to like the same person. However, it isn't her problem you dumped the guy. That's your fault.
She'd be backstabbing you if you two were dating and he was secretly with her.
What you have to do is just cope with it. Everything now is out of your control. I suggest having a talk with this person, if anything.
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Honestly, there isn't much you can do but talking to her. I know it's one of the "girl codes" that friends can't go out with ex boyfriends and all, but if also wouldn't be fair if you made her break up with him. Eather way, it's just not right. You should just talk to her about it and see why she would do that. I understand if she likes him a lot and all but she's your BEST friend, and she shouldn't do that. Don't let a guy come in between your relationship though. It's just not worth it.
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I would have a talk to her about where her loyalties lie exactly. ( I don't know if you still have feelings for him or not, but ) even though you may or may not, she still should've at least talked to you about it and let you know she was going to go for your ex-boyfriend, and it hurts that she just sort of went behind your back like that and everything. And just let her know the rest of your feelings, but remember: watch what you say, and watch how you say it. People tend to say things they don't mean whenever they're upset, so that may result in further drama and hurt feelings. And just talk to her in a calm, but serious tone of voice to let her know you mean business about this.
Then just try to comprimise with her. Let her date him ( since you can't really break the two of them up or anything ), but tell her she needs to respect you and not talk to him infront of you or kiss him or anything and you don't want to hang out all together cause it'll make you upset ( this is if you like him still ).
And like I said, if you don't like him anymore, just try and resolve this issue and let her know everything you're feeling ; best friends should be able to talk to eachotehr about anything, and understand, and give eachother chances.
I hope I helped.
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if you really liked ur ex boyfriend and it hurts your feelings then tell her that it does. Dont hide your feelings because that is how i am and nothing gets better. Just write her a note or tell her face to face and everything will get on the right track again if she is a good friend. If she isnt then let her do her own thing! I hope i helped and let me know if you have anymore questions.
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if i was you, id take a little break from your mate, show her how much it's upset you, you don't turn your back on your friends for some lad! take a break from her and see how things plan out, if she still stays with and doesn't realise how much it's hurt you, then she isn't a real friend!
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That's an absolute don't, you never date your friends' ex... ever. Since I'm sure you already know this, and are really looking for some advice -- I'm here to help, lol.
I would talk to your friend about how this makes you feel, and listen to what she has to say. I don't really think that your friend, is really doing this intentionally to hurt you. She might really like, and care about this guy.
Either way, hear her out. Then, I think you have to take it from there. If you still want to be her friend, or not.
Good luck!
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