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My names Helen. Im 17 years old. I go to Blue Hills Regional and I major in Graphic Communications. I love giving advice, and I am a good listener. I like to help people and find answers to peoples problems. I joined this website because I know that it's hard to figure out all your problems on your own and you need an unbiased opinion to help. Feel free to ask me anything.
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solve by graphing.
y=2x-1
x+y=2 (link)
im doing this in math right now.
u need to make it so the y is by itself to make it into
y=mx+b - slope intercept form

example y=2x-1 is already done for you
to get the other you subtract x from both sides
x+y=2
-x -x

y=-x+2

2 is the first point u make on the graph (or the negative one)
the x number is always a fraction (mostly over 1)
how you find the x is rise over run the firs number is how many boxes you go up and the other is over. if the number is negative then you go down instead of up.


Hello! I have a big stye on my eyelid. I've had it for about 3 days, and I went to the doctor for yearly physical the first day it started. They said it should be gone in about a week. My question is will it stay longer if I am around allergens, and anything that can irritate it? Is there anything that can make it go away faster ( I've been warm-water compressing it)? (link)
Hey. I recently had a stye and the way I got it to go away the fastest was to not wear eyeliner on that eye and hot compresses all throughout the day.


i've been having a lot of family problems lately. my dad is pushing me to get a second job and i don't want to, he's taken my phone and my drivers license away already. i have never cried myself to sleep for a long time but over the course of february i've been crying almost every night now. and the other day i was so angry and upset that i burned my leg with a steaming hot rod. to let all my fustration out... does anyone know if that will leave any long lasting/ noticable marks? and was i wrong to do it and i was just over reacting? i don't know what to do i'm just not good enough for anyone anymore. and everything that i do wrong now i get yelled at and blamed for everything even if it's not my fault. and i feel that i can't talk to my friends about it becase it might seem really stupid. but i'm scared and i need help. (link)
Hey, first of all did your dad take away your phone and your liscense because he wants you to get a second job or for another reason? And why do you need to get another job? Thats too much work for someone to handle, especially if you are feeling so overly stressed out. Burning yourself is VERY bad and yes it will leave a mark. Hurting yourself is never good and it can get addicting. You should find a close friend to tell. If they are really a good friend then they will understand and not think its stupid. You are good enough, but you need to believe that first. If someone blames you for something that isn't your fault, then call them out and let them know they are blaming the wrong person. If you need anything else just write to me -helen


does anyone have ne quotes for AIM profiels about "Ex best friends"?
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if you go on google and type in emo love quotes there will be a site that pops up in the search called xanga blogs .. those have a lot of cute quotes .. all types -helen


15/F

Basically this guy (19/M) broke up with his girlfriend for me and at the time it didn't bother me. We dated for about 8 or 9 months and it was great and he told me he loved me and I loved him and then he decided to go to Africa on a missions trip for 9 months. So we broke up at the end of July and he left to go to Africa in the middle of September. Breaking up was mutual and we continued to be just friends with just a little drama. We've just been emailing and talking online once a week...usually 2 AM Saturday my time so it's 10 AM Saturday his time and it works out okay. Anyway, it's a long story but basically I found out that he told his brother that he picked me over the other girl just because I was easy so what the hell why not. He said I was too easy and a baby and that our relationship was crap in so many ways and that he wishes our relationships only lasted like a few weeks, not 8 or 9 months like it did. He said he would trade all of the times that we had together for another chance with the girl he didn't choose. I am obviously totally and completely crushed and heartbroken. I feel like I'm nothing. I feel empty and used and chewed up and spit out. What am I supposed to do now?? I feel so far gone...like there's nothing left of me... (link)
Hey. Im am very very sorry that this happened to you! It must be horrible! But at least you know that you don't want anything to do with scum like that. Although you are going to feel sad and used. You have to realize that no matter what YOU ARE BETTER OFF!! You will find someone better because you deserve someone who loves you. Try going out with friends and doing fun stuff to get him off your mind. And you should confront him and tell him that you know what he said and that you don't want to hear his excuses and that its over forever. -helen


me and this guy are pretty close, and as we get closer the more i like him. all of his really good friends say that he likes me, alot. but he doesn't know that i like him... he's not very perceptive. lots of people are telling me to just tell him i kie him... which is really hard for me, i'm deathly afraid of rejection... so your all gonna say "just tell him", right? well here's the harder part, he has a girlfriend... me and her arn't really friends... but a little more then aquantences...he cheats on her... and if i made a move i know that he'd respond positivly... but then on monday it would be like nothing happend, and i'd feel guilty. so should i tell him that i like him, even though i'm pretty sure he wouldn't breack up with her... or should i just enjoy being his friend and try not to kiss him or anything?

thanks so much for any advice, sorry this question's soo long (link)
Hey. To be honest, you shouldn't tell him you like him! Just think if you were in his girlfriends position, how would you feel if you found out that he cheated on you. Plus, once a cheater always a cheater. It seems as if you already treat this boy different then other boys. It is never a good idea to get involved with a boy that has a girlfriend. Enjoy being his friend, but thats it. Sorry. -helen


I have been best friend's with a boy for two whole years. he always makes me laugh and we always have a good time. He broke up with his girlfriend in October. since then she has not left him alone shes basically like a stalker. and because there not dating she takes it out on me, calls, IM's, and talks a lot of things behind my back. She told people she wanted to kill me and that she wanted to hang my dog, now thats just immature. i am sixteen and she is fifteen and im not the least bit intimidated. Today as i walked by in school she yelled shit at me and now im just frustrated i tryed being nice and telling her i dont like him like that but i shouldnt have to explain myself or be nice to somone whose arrogant. I am not a fighter, but i honestly believe the only way to gain respect from her is to hit her. The only thing that is holding me back is im an honor roll student, im one of those kids that cares about school and hates missing it.. stupid i know. I dont want to go tell a conselour or anything, because things like that always get worse, because my friends have been through it. I just need some advice on how to approach this girl, and what exactly i should do to avoid getting hit back. i really need your help, thankyou (link)
Hey. Well first fighting is no way to solve it. You never know, this girl might be trying to get you to hit her so she can press charges or something. You should have a talk with you best friend and have him try and talk to her to get her to leave you alone. What she is doing is harassment. You should tell an adult because saying she wants to kill you and hang your dog is illegal. Stalking is illegal too. You should talk to your best friend to see if he can get her to stop, then maybe threaten calling the cops on her for harassment and if that doesnt work then really get the cops involved. With you being nice to her shes not taking how frustrated you are with her seriously. -helen


17/f
Last year I was head over heels for a friend of mine, let's call him John. We don't know each other too well but we had classes together and would talk through IM and stuff. I fell in complete love with him and it took me the better part of a year to get over him.

Since I've gotten over him, we've stayed friends, dated some people, etc... Now I'm single, and have been for a while.

I think I may be falling for him again. He told me last year he doesn't think of me that way, but we talk almost every night on IM about personal things and we can really open up to each other.

What do I do? I don't want to have to go through the heart break over John again.. after finally shedding these emotions.

He drives me crazy. I need help...

P.S. we've been talking about hanging out together outside of school, too. Any advice so I don't come on too strong for him? thanks. (link)
Hey. Well first of all, he already told you that he thinks of you as a friend. So when you hang out then you should treat it like that. If you plan to hang out more than that and it starts to seem as a "more than friends thing" then you should start to tell him how you are feeling. Do not come on to strong maybe just hint to him a little that you thought he looked really cute when you saw him. You never know, he may begin to like you the way you like him after he sees how you are outside of school. And to make sure that you dont have to go through all that pain again, dont get your hopes to high. If you move slow enough, then you should be fine. -helen


my boyfriend always says really nice things to me and then i dont know what to say back because i cant think of anything.he asked me yesterday why i never said anything sweet to him,i told i dunno because i can never find something really sweet to say to. i really luv him and i wanna make him happy (link)
Hey. Just say how you feel. If hes making you happy tell him, or if he looks handsome let him know. Boys might not seem like it but they are also very insecure and they need a self esteem boost sometimes. So that means you could just tell him that he looks really good in the shirt hes wearing. Its little things like that boys look to girlfriends to say. -helen


i dont know what to get my boyfriend for his birthday or just something as a gift to him when i feel like it. i just need some ideas. he luvs to play guitar and he wants a new electric gutar and i was thinking about saving up my money for that and then giving it all to him, but i dunno i wanna get him random gifts cuz i didnt get him that much on valentines day (link)
Hey. Well first how long have you to been together because if its only been a short time then getting him that guitar may seem like you're moving too fast. But if you to have been together for awhile then saving up to get him a guitar is a good idea. You might also want to maybe save up and get him a gift certificate to the guitar shop so he can pick out what he wants. $100-150.00 is a good limit for a birthday present. You could also make a "memory box" of ticket stubbs from movies u saw or pictures of you two. Maybe make him a card it would show that you put a lot of thought into his birthday. You could also make him his favorite dinner for his birthday and maybe cupcakes or something. I hope I helped. -helen
p.s. keep me posted


my boyfriend's internet was down and he didn't call me for 3 days so i was wondering if he was no longer interested. i checked his myspace page and found that this girl left him a comment saying "i'm talking to you on the phone right now. i loveee youuu" that got me pissed because i didn't know what she meant by "love". i asked her if they were going out and she wouldn't answer me. so then my boyfriend calls me 3 days later and he asks me if we are still going out because he said he's not going out with that girl and he said he's really sorry for everything. my friend had a feeling from the beginning that he was a cheater and a player so we put him to the test. i made up a new screen name and pretended to be one of his friends and here is our conversation


his friend - heeeeey its _____
my boyfriend - heyyyyy =)
his friend - i have something really important to tell you
my boyfriend - kay go ahead
his friend - well your not gonna believe this but i like you.....
his friend- more than a friend.
my boyfriend- oh really ??? =)
his friend - yeah are you going out with anyone?
my boyfriend - no (HE SAID THIS WHILE HE WAS TELLING ME HOW MUCH HE LOVED ME)
his friend- on you dumped that girl?
my boyfriend- yeah she was weird
his friend - did you ever like her?
my boyfriend - no i liked you

^^ that was me talking to my boyfriend who really thought it was his friend

so then i told him that he had been PUNK'D and i saw the whole conversation and i said "if you were so sorry why would you cheat on me?
his first reaction was "i think im gunna cry for the first time in my life and i cant believe this"
and then after he was done being shocked he was like oh my god im soo sorry. he said "i KNEW it wasnt my friend the whole time so i was just leading them on" and i go "uhm yeah right"

and now he tells me he STILL loves me. how can i believe it??? he'd probably cheat again

i haven't broke up with him yet but i'm really really mad and i just can't trust him. what if he was going out with that girl on myspace but just lied so i'd think he's single?

is what he did considered cheating?

what should i do? (link)
Hey. Well first of all im glad that you took initiative to find out the truth, however that is also considered "looking for trouble." It is totally understandable that you wanted to know that truth so i believe in this circumstance it was necessary for you to make up a new screenname. What he did is cheating and it is lying. There was no way he could have known it was you unless you messed up and said something that would have made him think it was you. But otherwise hes lying. Im sorry to have to tell you this but it is a known scientific fact that once a guy cheats it is more likely to happen again. You should breakup with him now, who knows what else went on throughout your relationship. Im not trying to make you doubt him but from what I understand he doesnt seem like the greatest guy in the world. If you cant make a decision maybe make a pros and cons list and then show him, talk to him about how he messed up and he doesnt deserve to get you back and he cant just get you back like that. Cheating is a big deal whether its physical or emotional. Please think about this, you dont want to stay in a relationship with a guy who doesnt treat you like a princess. -helen


Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and things have been great recently. We have been through alot but we have stayed together through it all and are doing amazing. He goes to another school than I do. At his school he can go out to lunch. Well there are these rumors going around at his school that he has cheated on me twice, with two different girls. Both days he supposedly cheated on me was on a Tuesday. Every Tuesday his parents are never home because they go to bowling tournaments that day. He also doesn't have a car, but on Tuesdays his parents let him drive their truck. So he always drives to lunch those days. Well one of his friends said that he had heard that my boyfriend had had sex with these two girls at seperate times. And what makes it more ironic is that my boyfriend's friend dated both of these girls before. Now his friend won't tell me who told him and everytime I ask my boyfriend he denies it of course and said he will get the number to each of the girls if he had to so I could actually talk to them and find it out for myself. Now I don't like to jump to conclusions so I try to manipulate a situation to see if I can make a liar tell the truth. Today I told my boyfriend that I had gone to the store and bumped into one of these girls. And that she had told me that it was true and that they had sex. Of course I lied and made that story up. I said it to get a rise out of him so maybe he would be honest and cough up the truth. But he didn't and actually said he was going to go to his school and have a talk with the girl and ask her why she would say a thing like that. So I am in a difficult situation. I don't have much prove except for substantial evidence, since he actually could have cheated on me those days, but that doesn't mean he actually did. I just need help on calming my worst fears and how to handle this. I don't want to believe his friend, because his friend has been trying to date me ever since me and my boyfriend first got together. So he might not be the best source to believe. Should I push the subject or give my boyfriend the benefit of the doubt?

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(it is really funny how common this is to me.. LITERALLY the exact same thing happened to me!! IM me HElENJAMiNANA X3 and we can talk more maybe i can help!!


i have been in almost the exact situation .. same thing except that whole tuesday night thing and 2 seperate girls so i kind of understand better how your feeling. it is kind of sketchy that it supposedly happened on the one night hes alone and the one day a week he has the car. but the one who is telling you wants you to dump your bf so hes not exactly reliable. manipulating the situation is looking for trouble because ive done it many times and because i did i had to play the "why would you believe her over me" card which is not a good thing to use alot =] .. you love him and he loves you or you wouldnt be together after 2 years. heres what you need to tell him though say that whether or not its true if theres another situation like this then its over because you dont deserve to have to feel like this and have to hear that stuff =]
i hope i helped keep me posted


there`s this guy... he`s completely gorgeous.`ve asked him who he likes and he says that he likes someone but I later found out he was saying that for reasons that are too long to type [and not its not to push me away, its different]. we used to like each other, but now i don`t like him anymore, I just kinda have this lust over him because he has a perfect body & he`s always teases me [by lifting up his shirt, giving me sexy looks, inviting me to places like his room, shower, etc.]. I'm thinking that maybe I should tease him right back, because hell, it makes me want him more. if this is a bad idea? if not, what can I do to tease him? thanks (link)
you should only tease him if you think that if he decides to take what ur putting out .. you can handle .. because he may think oh she wants to have sex. but you just wanna tease him make sure your comfortable with the situation - please stay safe =]


Last semester for me wasn't really well for me. I was without the person that I truly cared for and obviously missed. I know he has a g/f and I understand that and i KNOW he has a j.o.b. But, when i asked him about it some months ago, he said he was just being a guy b/c that's what guys do.And yeah, I called him my x,x b/f's b_____, but we've talked since then and we seem fine. But I don't get it, you know. How can you be friends with someone for nine months and tell them that they're your friend and that you love them, and totally ignore them for the next 3 months? How, why, and how do I deal with this? I'm ready to let go, and believe me I will for my sanity, but I don't want to. Why is he doing this?
Also, the same guy hooked me up with his friend? Why? Anyway, we went out for 5 months.And he ended up cheating on me with his x g/f. And I feel so screwed up now. I mean, I find myself thinking about him daily and this was like 5 months ago. I don't feel really passionately about him but for some reason I can't get rid of him in my mind and it bothers me so much. My x,x, b/f's friend (the one I'm having problems with) tells me that my x,x b/f wants me back. But he hasn't asked me b/c I look too mean. I don't know what I would do if he asked me out again.
I'm so lonely and desperate. My social life hasn't been that great and my life at home sucked so much. But I was fine as long as I had...as long as I had them. And,now they're gone and I feel so screwed when I usually am strong enough to deal w/ stuff like this. So, why does it hurt so much and how do I let go? (link)
ok well first off .. once a cheater always a cheater. move on dont even deal with his s**t. hes not worth it if hes putting you through hell. if your lifes not that great dont let him add extra stress


i am from australia, im 16. my name is alice.
well, i met this boy a couple of months ago. he works with me.

i went to work one day < i wasnt working > just syaing hi, and he was there and i hadnt normally seen him there before because he works in the day and i work weekend and arfternoons.. i introduced my self and we started hanging out in the arfternoons when i would go there after school. and then i fell for him. a couple weeks later he moved out of home and moved in with a couple of his friends. and he decided to go back to school for a year to finish year 12, ( i am only in year 10 ) so he stopped working for a bit and we kind of lost touch because he didnt have much money so he couldnt call me or anything. that was about 2 montsh ago.. then i saw him again recently because its holidays,, we hung out and had lunch and just caught up. he has these gorgeous blue eyes that i cant stop staring at, and blonde hair. he's the sweetest guy i have ever met and i really love him. we started workign again toegther recently and we flirt alot. things like tickling me all the time! and calling me cute names. but i dont know whether he just wants to me friends with me or he likes me mroe than a friend. i really want to find out before we go back to school beacuse chances are, we will loose touch again. someone please help me out i just dont know how to tell him how i feel. i cant stop thinking aboout him. when i'm with him i feel happy and secure, but when im not with him i miss him so bad and cant stop thinking about him. please could someone help me out here?

Alice. (link)
ask him out on a date. she him that you want to see where it could go. dont let him get away.


Me and this boy used to date. We really liked each other a lot, things went wrong and friends got in the way, we both got hurt end of story. We always feel diff.about each other at dif times.and its been like 6 months since we broke up/ We been hanging out a lot lately, and we got into this jealousy fight, and then i just spilled it all out that i liked him. He pretty much said what i just said, i hurt him before, and he never knows how i feel, but he has thought about us gettin back together. We hung out the past two days, flirt soo much, but nothing more. I know i cant force something to happen, but i know somewhere inside of him he likes me, and im sometimes afraid to show him howw much i like him cause i dont want things to feel awkward for him, and just rush things and f*** it up. But idk, we might hang out tm. I jsut need to get some advice on what to do from here, i dont wanna hear juts wait it out, i wanan hear from someone who has once been in this situatoin and got past it. Like in my mind im thinkin talk to him about it in person, then see what happens, instead of the comp like we have been

thanks (link)
you should tell him how you feel. be honest because he deserves to know. and if it freaks him out give him time. hes a guy they exaggerate. if he feels the same you will know. and if he doesnt then dont waste your time because hes not worth your love


Hi well im having troubles,i really feel i love my ex boyfriend.We had a really intense relationship and it got to the point we actually said we LOVED eachother and meant it.He is a "player" he has had many girlfriends in his life and im the calm girl who only has had him.He did so many things for me,he went back to school...and my parents(specially my mom) didnt like him and he fought against them until he was given permission to be my boyfriend,NOT MANY GUYS ACTUALLY STAY WHEN PARENTS GIVE THEM A HARD TIME.The point is that it has been five months since we broke up,we have talked...and in our first conversation after we broke up he made it seem that he wanted to get back together but he hasnt done anything.He did do a lot,he lied to my parents and lied to me,Making up the lie that he got his ex girl pregnat which after he told me that he did it to "test" me.I feel that we broke up because he missed being single.I still love him and.But is he really worth fighting for?? or should i just forget about him and move on??Please help me (link)
im not exactly sure hes worth fighting for. testing you is a way to look for trouble in the relationship, you should move on. hes a playa .. and its hard to get a playa to forget the game. if he initiates getting back together and he proves that he really wants to work at your relationship then go for it otherwise find someone else.


So I`m dating a great guy named Mike.

Yesterday we got into an argument & we started questioning our relationship. After we were done fighting, I thought it was all over & done with..

UNTIL

He called me tonight, and he said that he wasn`t personally ready for a relationship. Even though we`ve been together six months. :/

He broke up with me & I started hysterically CRYING. I couldn`t help myself, I just felt so sad that he would do something so random. Then like half an hour later he said, "Why would I do this to such a wonderful girl? I`m sorry for putting you in this position!" Then I asked him what we were, and he said we were back together.

Now, I`m totally confused.
Do you think he actually wants to be with me, or do you think it`s because he just doesn`t want me to be sad? :[ Please help. Thanks in advance.

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he wouldnt be with you if he didnt want to be. he probably made a mistake and after thinking he realized how big of a mistake it was and how he was going to lose such a wonderful girl. give him another chance but let him know that you arent always gonna be around to take him back if he decides to pull another stunt like this


i know this is random, but do twin girls or triplet girls get their period at the same time or around the same time? (link)
im a twin and my sisters period still is weird for awhile we were basically on the same schedule but then hers changed =]


Hi I'm just looking for advice about good music.
Preferably songs about friendship, love, heartbreak, moving on, etc.

Thank youuuu! (link)
irraplacebla-beyonce
hate me-blue october
tangled up in me-skye sweetnam
leave the pieces-the wreckers
before he cheats-carrie underwood
hope i helped =]




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