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My name is Angel, and I'm from northern California. I come from a large family where I'm the oldest, and I've lived a long, strange life. I have just about seen it all. In the last couple years, I have kicked a bad drug/alcohol addiction, and I can proudly say that I'm a sober teenage girl. I have a job, I'm a nanny/family assistant, whatever you want to call it. I'm a senior in high school, and I'm genuinely happy. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for almost a year now. I have a lot of good advice, because I have a lot of life experience. I come from a broken family, I have step-relatives, and half-relatives. I just reunited with my mother after 10 years. My sister is a drug addict of the worst possible kind. I've been in all types of relationships. I guess it's safe to say that I know a little bit about a lot of things, and there's a lot that I know a lot about. Then there's things that I know nothing about, and that's when I ask questions. Thanks for reading my little rant, ask me anything. I check my email everyday, so if you can't reach me on my column, email me. ~Angel xoxo
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Hi there! I'm a seventeen year old, female. I'm currently a senior in high school, and I've built up a terrible case of Senioritis):
Basically from November onwards I've skipped classes like there's no tomorrow, and I never expected it to get out of control to where I skip every single day of the week, but that's what happened. My grades have plummeted intensely and I really don't think that if I continue at this school I will graduate.
I've always been good at school when it comes to my absences, and I've never told my parents about skipping so when I tell them I know that they'll be very upset because I lied to them, and they trust me because they think since I'm almost an adult I can handle going to school every single day.
There is hope in me graduating though, and that is to go to a Prep school which is where you learn independently and read out of a book and take a test to get your credits. (You can get your credits really fast!) I'll be able to receive my diploma and everything, if I'm able to finish all of my coursework by June.
Basically the reason I'm posting this is because I don't know how to tell my parents, I was thinking just to be like: "School's getting really hard and my grades are really crappy and I feel like I need to go to this Prep school so I can graduate." But then they'll be like, "Well let's go up to school so we can discuss it with your counselor" & Then they'll eventually find out about my skipping anyways.
:( I'm just scared, I know I need to tell the truth but it's just I don't want my parents to be upset with me, and I have to tell them NOW if I want to enroll in this Prep school on time.
Thanks so much for reading this, and if anyone answers I really appreciate it.
Thanks again.
I was in the same situation as you. I would drive my sister to school and then sleep in my car in the parking lot. My school would call my parents and tell them I missed school. It added up, and my grades suffered immensely. My parents were grounding me left and right, but nothing seemed to work. Explain to your parents that you are almost an adult but for whatever reason, you're finding it harder and harder to attend school every day. For me, I'm one of the only kids at my school that used to do drugs with everyone else, then I stopped, so it was really hard hanging out with everyone and I didn't feel like I had anything in common with anyone at my school. If you tell your parents the truth, explain to them that the mature thing to do would be to accept your consequences and not graduate this year and attend your school again next year. Then tell them how you really never intended on letting them down and you really want to graduate this year. Then bring up the prep school idea, that's what I do, but we call it independent study. The pros of independent study is that you do your work independently, just as you would in college. It's a great college prep but if you don't have the motivation to go to school it's going to be really hard to convince your counselor and the prep school that you can do all of your homework. I wish you luck please keep me posted and let me know how things work out for you!
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Angel
Hey, i'm almost 16 years old and I've had my period for almost a year. But anyhow, One time that I had my period I had used a tampon and I had only kept it in for a little over an hour. In this short time the blood, which was a fair amount, had soaked the tampon and almost got on my underwear. So, I was just wondering if I should be switching regular tampons more often or if I should just be using a higher absorbancy level.
~ thanks
i would suggest using a higher absorbancy level, especially during the first couple days of your period.
Do you know of any good ways to get my boyfriend excited and enthused about having sex? Do you know of a way I could possibly get to know his body better so that way when we do have sex I can use what I have learned on him to get more arroused?
Sex is all about communication, you both have to learn to communicate what feels good for one another. If he does something you like, let him know, and you don't have to necessarily be like, "hey I like what you just did." But show other signs of communication if you know what I mean. You have to understand what he's communicating too. You could also just ask him, "hey what is it you like the most about (whatever type of sex it is)" He'll give you the right answer. Sometimes you might want to ask him for tips, or feedback, ask him what you're not doing that he might want you to do, or ask him if you could do something better, how? Communicating is the first step, then you will both be more enthused about having sex. I don't know you or your boyfriend so I wont be like, "oh he'll like this..." because obviously I wouldn't know.
im 13/f and 6 days ago my neck started hurting like a stiff neck and i dont know why. when i lean my head any way it hurts the left side of my neck only. i recenly had strep about the same time this starrtedd and i wanted to know if they are anyway related. also ive tried different pain relievers and none of them work. if youu have any idea on what it might be or how to ease the pain...HELP PLEASE!
I had something like this a year ago. For me it was a pulled muslce in my neck. What I did to fix it was I wore a neck brace to bed, and underneath the neck brace, where the pain was, I wore one of those disposable heating pad things. It ended up going away after about a week. As far as what pain medications to take, I would suggest Ibuprofen because it is an anti-flammatory, that means it will make the swelling go down. It worked for me, I wish you the best of luck.
~Love Angel
17/M.........Iv been worrying that my Girlfriend has Cheated on me or is still Cheating on me.I would like to get some advice on how to find out if she is or isn't.Thanks in advance
Well, you could spy on her, track her phone, her car, and hire people to follow her around. But chances are that will ruin your relationship once she catches on. There's no real way to know if someone is cheating on you. You have to trust her. If you love her, and you really want to be with her, you have to trust her. If she feels the same way about you, she's not cheating on you. Hope I helped. ~Angel
Ever since my mom's divorce with her ex-husband, she has been really angry. She gets so sensitive and mad about little things that happen. I miss the mom I had when I was little who was fun and loving. Now she has a new feonce and is about to have a baby. I can barely stand her and try to lean on my friends a lot through this, but I don't want my little sibling to go through everything I did with my mom's emotional status. I know that since my mom is pregnant, she can be a little hormonal, but she did it before she was pregnant. It's just worse now. My soon-to-be stepdad and I have to sneak downstairs to watch basketball or football now. And she always feels so alone. I do my best to stay with her, and be the peacemaker through family fights, but it's never good enough. Yes, I'll admit it, I'm a screw-up teen, but I don't want to be treated like one daily. I want my old mom back, but I know I won't see her. I know my mom won't allow me to go to my dad's because of his financial stage and he lives in a city that I never want to go to school again there. If you could help at all with how I deal with things or anything that could help. I already know that I'm the one who has to change to save our relationship because she's too "proud" of a person to do so. Thank you so much.
~kelsi~
Hey girl,
Believe it or not, you're doing the right thing. Just keep doing the next right thing for your family, and keep being patient. You said you're a "screw-up" teen, I was once one of those, and my step-mom is real moody, and I had to deal with her through two pregnancies, so I know how you feel. If you absolutely can't take it any longer, spend more time with your friends, as long as you have genuine decent friends that care about you, and you have love in your life, everything will be alright. I know it hurts and you long for a better relationship with your mother, but from what I read of your side of the story, I think you're doing the right thing. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and make sure you keep doing the right thing. It's hard dealing with mothers, but imagine what they have to put up with, kids like us. If you feel so inclined, have a real heart-to-heart with mom, sit her down when she's in a halfway decent mood, and just tell her how you feel. Her maternal instincts will kick in and realize that you're unhappy, and if nothing else, she will feel bad. If she can recognize where she is wrong at, then there's even more room for change. Don't lose hope hun, you can always leave one in my inbox or email if you need anything. If you want more of my contact information, let me know. Keep in touch and stay strong. ~Love Angel
What are some different ways to eat white rice? I've tried it with vinegar, but I'm wondering other ways. I eat it often but I get tired of eating it by itself or with soy sauce. I'm just curious as to how I can spice it up and make it more flavorful.
When you cook the white rice, instead of using regular water, use chicken broth, or add chicken flavor to the water. It turns out really yummy, try it with some butter, and a little bit of pepper, it's delicious. If you're into mexican dishes, I like to make some white rice, and put salsa in in, once it's been cooked, then I eat it with beans and cheese, or I squeeze a little bit of lime over it and eat it as it is. White rice is great because you really can do anything with it. Good luck and bon apetit! ~Angel
I know that it's healthy to eat several meals a day, so your body always has energy and all that good stuff. Well, I also know that my dentist wants me to eat less often so the enamel on the teeth isn't worn away. I eat frequently throughout the day, and I was just wondering what your opinions and thoughts are. Like a good amount of meals that I should eat that's good for my teeth and by body. Thanks!
I don't think it's good that your dentist doesn't want you to eat as much, that's just my personal opinion. I would suggest enamel-strengthening toothpaste.
On the subject of food, nothing too acidic, and if you must have foods with a lot of acid in them, then eat those in moderation. Calcium would be good too, if you're not lactose-intolerant, try eating more cheeses, drink more milk, etc. Try to eat less crunchy food too, if you're going to eat anything crunchy, make sure it's some chips and not peanut brittle. You just have to be a little more aware of what you're eating. It's not the end of the world, it's the beginning of a new one for you. Welcome to watching what you eat. If you need any more advice or have any more questions, you can leave one in my inbox or email me. Take care, and good luck! ~Love Angel
Is there something I can eat with or after a greasy food to balance/remove the oil in my stomache? Water doesn't work, lol
Green food. Salad, vegetables, vegetable juice, all of those should help your stomach after eating something greasy. ~Angel
haha, i am new at this and dont really know the real way to "keep you posted"...but anyway...your advice really made sense and made me look at the whole thing differently. i think the most basic and sure thing to do is just keep on going with the relationship, having a good time, and just seeing where life takes it:-)
That's what I'm here for. I just like to hear when people follow up after I've given them advice, it feels good knowing that I helped someone today. Thank you so much for keeping me posted. I'm very happy for you. Best wishes to you and your relationship, I hope you two remain happy with each other. Enjoy life now while you're still young, these years are precious and worth enjoying every minute of. Good luck with wherever life takes you. =D ~Angel
i always picking on my boyfriend alll the time like hurting him something like that, sometime he got mad, but why i always picking on him not my another ex boyfriend? i do love my boyfriend i should show him love than picking on him, is that mean i don't love him or what? i want show him more love, but I'm not that good, i love begin picking on him, how can i stopped it?
Sometimes I pick on my boyfriend too. He doesn't like it either. What I would suggest, is to give him compliments as much as you can. Compliment anything and everything he does. If you're going to pick on him and make fun of him, make sure you make fun of yourself more. If he can laugh at you and pick on you a little bit, while it's all humorous, he won't feel as bad when you pick on him. That's a few suggestions, I wish you both the best of luck. Keep me posted. ~Love Angel
16/f...my boyfriend's 15/m (almost 16 though) i'm kinda awkward around my bf. i mean i REALLY like him, and he REALLY likes me. but he's my first and i'm not HIS first..
so i dunno what to do around him and i'm afraid i'll do something stupid and make a fool of myself. i'm afraid he won't like me anymore. like, when we were about to kiss, i freaked out, and we just pop kissed instead. he knows he's my first boyfriend and he's taking things slowly. but i dont want them to be TOO slow. i'm not usually like this around my friends. i'm just really scared that he's staring at my imperfections or something or that he thinks badly of me. and when we're going to kiss next time...but for REAL, i don't know whats going to happen...ahhh..
any experienced people...lol what do i do?
You're probably freaking out and working yourself up for nothing. He didn't want you to be his girlfriend based on your imperfections. There's obviously a reason why he likes you. If you really like him, try to be comfortable around him. It's hard, I know. When you guys are about to kiss again, just put whatever you got into it, if he reacts in a weird way, don't apologize or be weird about it. Tell him he's a good kisser, he'll probably say the same right back to you, it's not an incredibly difficult thing to do. If you feel to uncomfortable, play the cute/innocent role, "you have to teach me how to kiss." He would love something like that, boys love innocent girls, and they love feeling like they're better at everything they do.
After a month into our relationship, I got my 19 year old boyfriend to make out with me for the first time in his life, 19 years old and never made out with anyone, he had done other things, he just never made out. I was very supportive, and I even TAUGHT him how to kiss, I taught him. He's a pro now. Don't sweat it hun, if you guys really like each other, it'll be great no matter what. Keep me posted and good luck! ~Love Angel
I'm a 16 year old female...
About two days ago I woke up and my left breast was SIGNIFICANTLY, I mean like, ridiculously, MUCH MUCH larger than my right breast and also quite tender and somewhat painful to the touch. So my mother took me to the doctor and the doctor ran a blood test which proved that I wasn't pregnant and there were no cancerous cells in my blood, which were two of her guesses. Then she told me that it was because of my period, that my hormones were causing this to happen. She said to use a heating pad for pain and take Advil or Neprocin for the inflammation and that it would go away with my next period. The problem is, my periods are very very irregular because I used to have an eating disorder, so who knows when that will be, probably MONTHS from now. This sucks, I can't stand it, seriously, they are EXTREMELY different sizes and it's making me horribly self conscious and resentful of my body, I won't even let my boyfriend see me topless/bra-less because I am so embarrassed about it.
What can I do to make my breast return to normal size quickly? Has anyone else experienced this before? And I mean they're REALLY REALLY different sizes, seriously. I can't stand this, it's making me really really upset...HELP!! This can't possibly be normal!!!
Well, there's no way to immediately alter your anatomy if that's what you're asking. I had a similar problem when I was 14 or 15, and what I did was I bought bra inserts, they're basically gel pad things that you put in your bra. I wore one on one side for a while, then after some time my breasts gradually evened out. It's totally normal for your breasts to grow and become different sizes, try not to freak out, stress probably wont add to the problem. Good luck hun, I hope I helped. ~Love Angel
i eat nice full meals, but sometimes after i eat and i know i'm full, i want more or i get cravings
i mean im not fat but sometimes i go in the kitchen and get a cookie and i want to stop
so how can i stop these craving for sweets (im trying to eat better and healthier) and how can i cut back on bad foods?
*please don't say "don't go in the kitchen" or "stop the cravings" cause that doesnt help much
16/f - 125lbs (i know that's a lot but it doesn't show)
It's hard to curb cravings. Sometimes for me a glass of water will do the trick though. There are all kinds of gimmicks, diet pills and all that crap. Truth is, most people don't need that stuff to put a stop to cravings. You have to find a healthy alternative to the cookie until you can stop craving the cookie. You know what I mean? It's hard, maybe rather than eating 3 big meals a day, eat 4/5 small meals. Between breakfast and lunch have a fruit salad or something. Between lunch and dinner have a salad with a lot of lettuce and oil/vinegar dressing. It sounds gross, but during normal meals just eat whatever you would normally eat, just a slightly smaller portion. It's also healthier, I've heard, to not eat heavy meals after 3 o'clock. Good luck hun, I really hope I helped, if you have any other diet/food questions, leave one in my inbox. ~Love Angel
how can you make your face appear slimmer?
any makeup/other tips would help
thank youu :)
I have sorta chubby cheeks, and what I like to do to make my face look slimmer is find my cheekbones and just under them put on shimmery blush (bare minerals). I have olive skin though, if you have fair skin you may want to use a bronzer. If you make your eyes and lips appear bigger, it takes away the attention from your cheeks. Good mascara (diorshadow blackout), black or dark eyeliner, (m.a.c.,stila), and for your lips I would reccommend a lip plumper such as lipvenom or lipfusion. Long hair also makes your face look slimmer, if you're like me and have thin hair, I would suggest layering it (for more body). Those are just some tips/tricks I've picked up on over the years. Good luck hun! ~Love Angel
thanks for the advice but my mom has been to those type of supprt groups and well you see what happened i know i should be tolerant but i can't be her only friend you know. i need a life to. i'm stuck and i don't know howto handle it. i'm tired of having to deal wtih all her crap even when she isn't drinking she is way to overbearing and i don't know how much longer i can take it i love her to death but she trys to keep me all to her self and it can't be that anymore i guess what i was trying to ask is ow can i get her to meet people and befirend thelm instead of pushing them away like she usually does because i want to live a normal teenage life not one stuck in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment until god knows when.
Well, for your own sake, I would still suggest al-anon, or ala-teen. It would be good for you, and it would help you love and tolerate your mom, as well as be patient with her. Try not to make her feel bad about not letting you out, but just tell her that she's raised you into a wonderful person and that you want to be able to share your endearing qualities with people outside of home. Tell her that you have friends, and they wish you could hang out. Don't guilt trip her into it, because alcoholics can be very different people when they're drunk, or sober even. Try to approach her at her best, preferably when she's sober. I know my mother is better once she's had a drink, easier to talk to. But if you approach your mom when she's sober maybe she'll understand that you mean business. If you want her to get out more, take her places. It sounds weird, but take her to a movie, go grocery shopping together, treat her like a friend, give her suggestions, if you guys are so close, she should listen to you. You're not out of options, you just have to be compassionate, and be patient before you see any sort of gratuity from your mother. I wish you the best hun, do stay in touch. ~Love Angel
I'm 23 years old and I've never worn make up. I use a little lip gloss here and there, but that really isn't considered 'makeup'. My mom never wore it and I guess I just wasn't interested in it. I am now. I don't even know where to begin! Any help would be appreciated!!
I would suggest going to a department store, Macy's Nordstrom etc. and just have them do your makeup, and more importantly, show you how to do your makeup. Products I would reccommend right away are m.a.c., bare minerals, stila, but it all depends on your style. If you know where there's a sephora store nearby, I would go there. They have a very wide selection on all kinds of makeup and skincare. I learned by having a professional do my makeup, then I bought the products and practiced. Good luck, hope I helped! ~Love Angel
Hi i was wondering for the size of bras..do the numbers and letters have a certain meaning or is like 36 b to 32c just like one size up.
Well the number 32,34,36, that's the measurement for around your ribcage, not your actual breasts but just below them. Then the cup A,B,C,D, is basically determined by measuring around your breasts. The cup is the difference between the ribcage measurement, and the bust measurement. I'm not sure on specifics, but that's just how I've come to understand it. Hope I helped. ~Love Angel
How do you say "I'm in the 9th grade at" in French?? the words dont have to be the same wording in english, but just mean generally the same thing. if you know what i mean. more than one person post, so i know if your all right. THANKS!!!
Je suis dans la nouvieme classe a.
okay i dont know if this is a yeast infection but my vagina has ben red and EXTREMELY itchy and it hurts when i walk
is it a yeats infection?
and what do i do if it is?
The only way you would know if it was really a yeast infection is if you went to see a doctor. There is some over the counter cream you can get at any drugstore if it is a yeast infection. It could also be irritation, either from the fabric of your underwear, maybe the soap you use down there, there are a number of different things it could be. Go get checked out, worst case scenario, it's a yeast infection and it will be gone in less than a week. Good luck, hope I helped! ~Love Angel