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shy around my boyfriend
16/f...my boyfriend's 15/m (almost 16 though) i'm kinda awkward around my bf. i mean i REALLY like him, and he REALLY likes me. but he's my first and i'm not HIS first..
so i dunno what to do around him and i'm afraid i'll do something stupid and make a fool of myself. i'm afraid he won't like me anymore. like, when we were about to kiss, i freaked out, and we just pop kissed instead. he knows he's my first boyfriend and he's taking things slowly. but i dont want them to be TOO slow. i'm not usually like this around my friends. i'm just really scared that he's staring at my imperfections or something or that he thinks badly of me. and when we're going to kiss next time...but for REAL, i don't know whats going to happen...ahhh..
any experienced people...lol what do i do?
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well, if you guys have been going out for more than three months i feel you either way lol. we all have imperfections, emotionally or physically and even mentally. if you think your boyfriend is picking out your flaws then that means youre insecure. nothing buig, but it can affect the relationship. jus relax and let him know how much you like him or love him. if he really likes you he will put your "imperfections" aside and he will care for you as if you were the only beautiful girl in the world. looks shouldnt count, and he has flaws as well. u might have not noticed because you like him as well he probably feels the same. good luck love and i hope your relationship progresses for the better ^_^ im trying to make mines progress as well hehe
Belkis =)
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Finally! Someone who has my acute shyness. I was in the same boat around 9 months ago. I'd been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months and all I'd been able to bring myself to do was kiss him on the cheek. So the first kiss came and I can tell you it was nothing special... in fact it was horrific. I clambered into a bed after school and tried to sleep it off. For a LONG time. Attempts had made me do that before. Anyways, same day my sister and her boyfriend broke up - she was heartbroken. It put things in perspective. Anyway, have you told this guy how nervous you are? If he's experienced you're at an advantage girl!! He can teach you and if one of you is a good kisser, you're naturally going to follow and copy what he does - meaning that he can't say you're any worse at kissing than him. Me and my boyfriend had both never 'snogged' anyone before and we were BOTH dismal - but with time and practice it gets better. Remember, this boy REALLY likes you - as you say. He isn't going to worry too much, and far from feeling bad about it he probably wants to encourage you and help you as much as possible. If you don't want to go to slow - try it. Chances are, if its spontaneous then it'll be fine - just do as he does! If you don't have the confidence to just turn around in the street or something after you've had a really happy conversation and kiss him, try it slower. But it'll be so much better if you just do it lightheartedly, no pressure. Kiss him - kiss him again - kiss him again - then go for tongues. 4 point plan didn't fail for me the second or the third or the fourth time... :) If he's with you he wants to be with you. He's not there to pick you apart for what you do wrong. He's there to help you get better - and he's male. He'll love having someone to be good at that stuff with!
;) good luck
Faye
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You're probably freaking out and working yourself up for nothing. He didn't want you to be his girlfriend based on your imperfections. There's obviously a reason why he likes you. If you really like him, try to be comfortable around him. It's hard, I know. When you guys are about to kiss again, just put whatever you got into it, if he reacts in a weird way, don't apologize or be weird about it. Tell him he's a good kisser, he'll probably say the same right back to you, it's not an incredibly difficult thing to do. If you feel to uncomfortable, play the cute/innocent role, "you have to teach me how to kiss." He would love something like that, boys love innocent girls, and they love feeling like they're better at everything they do.
After a month into our relationship, I got my 19 year old boyfriend to make out with me for the first time in his life, 19 years old and never made out with anyone, he had done other things, he just never made out. I was very supportive, and I even TAUGHT him how to kiss, I taught him. He's a pro now. Don't sweat it hun, if you guys really like each other, it'll be great no matter what. Keep me posted and good luck! ~Love Angel
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okay, i no it seems like it's impossible, but you really need to just RELAX. just act like you normally act, if he didn't like you yall wouldn't be going out. he ISN'T looking at all of your little imperfections, he's probably to focused on his. if you would stop thinking about all of the things your doing wrong you would probably see his flaws to. since he no's that he is your first boyfriend, he probably isn't suprised that your nervous. you just need to stop analyzing yourself and just go with the flow, act like your true self. i hope i helped and good luck!
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