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I've got two girls after me and I need help deciding. For reference, I'm moving in 4 months which complicates things.
Girl #1, lives in current town. Has very similar personality, but not a similar lifestyle (not a partier and don't have too many activities in common). Easy to talk to and could be "the one." Somewhat dating her now.
Girl #2, lives in town I move to in 4 months, someone I have fun with, she's super gorgeous though so not sure if I have a longterm chance (although she likes me now). Has very similar lifestyle, but different personalities. I've also had a crush on this girl for like 4 months.
Everybody tells me to go with my heart, but I'm so confused on what to do. Both would be a lot of work to keep the relationship going (#1 would require long distance, #2 is a little high maintenance).
I haven't really had a real relationship in forever, so I really want to make one of these work. There are some things that bother me about girl #1 (political views, a little too nerdy) and #2 (a little too wild for me, crazy past and family).
If I start a relationship with #1 just as a spring fling, I know #2 would be hurt. But what happens if I don't do anything with #1, and then move to #2's town and nothing happens? I'll regret that for the rest of my life.
You're in a vexing situation, but who says you have to start a serious relationship with either of them?
There's not going to be a definite answer. Girl 2 would be the obvious choice because soon you'll be close together - but as you mentioned she's a little high maintenance and she's super gorgeous. You're going into a market with alot of competition, then. She likes you, so if that's enough for you - go for it - but bear in mind you're moving in four months. It's quite a long time when it comes to relationships, and your relationship could move on alot. You could become distant, or she could find someone else before you get to town. If your a protective person, bear in mind going out with this girl that she'd get alot of attention from other guys - and like every girl she'll enjoy it! She may give them attention back to exchange the nice gesture. If you're the type who gets insecure about that type of thing, then Girl 2 will probably cause more stress.
Girl 1 is easy to talk to and could be 'the one', but you are considering another girl - so at the moment, you're probably not ready to get really serious with her either. You're in the same town as her and she's available - you get along well obviously. I would say she was the easy choice if you weren't moving.
You need to consider some important things:
Who really is easier to talk to? There's no point in a relationship where you never know what to say because you're worried of being judged.
It doesn't matter about lifestyles. Can they both accept yours, and can you accept theirs, even though they're different? If you're bothered by theirs, bear in mind you'll probably have to bear it and in exchange, they'll accept yours.
Who have you known longer? Depending on how long they've been in your life, you're going to have a stronger connection with them.
You said that not doing anything with 1 and then nothing happening with 2 will be something you'd regret for the rest of your life, so why risk it? Enjoy your time with 1 while you can instead of hedging your bets on something that's uncertain and could end in tears.
And if you really don't want to risk upsetting 2, leave it with both of them. Leave it as it is and try and be friendly with both until you move, and then leave your opportunities open for other girls too. Try and enjoy your time with both of them as much as possible, for as long as possible. Chances are both girls might get upset that nothing's happening, though - so you'd have to risk that. That's the worst case scenario.
Make sure you give 1 a chance with you before you leave if you really feel strongly for her. If it doesn't work, you'll be able to appreciate that you had a good run and you'll have the peace of mind that now you can open yourself up to other girls when you move, maybe even 2 if she still like you. Bear in mind that if a girl likes you enough, she can be very forgiving :)
Cor blimey! All that tapping took it out of me. :)
Good luck and turrah.
Alright, so this isn't really an advice question, but I guess it is. So all you have to do is tell us about the guy you are crushing on, some things about him, and why you like him.
The boy I like is super cute, brown hair with little waves and the warmest brown eyes you've ever seen. When he smiles he becomes 40 times more adorable, if that is possible. He's pretty shy, but it works for him, and he's very athletic, but I have never heard him brag about it. When we talk, he likes to ask questions and he is one of those people who can make you laugh even when they aren't trying. He's a study buddy and a good one too. He is incredibly stubborn, but I seem to be able to talk him into almost anything, even though he is yet to convince me of the "awesomeness" of football. He is one of the few people who can put up with my excessive talking, and he even claims to like it. We can talk for hours on end, at school and online until past midnight. He loves dogs, and hates almost all cats. His favorite food is mine too, and we are both in love with the same kind of cookie. I know that no matter what happens between us down the road, he will always be my buddy.
Okay, now it's you turn!! Just tell us about the guy you crush on or who you are dating, and maybe add some basic knowledge about guys - thanks!
I've been together with my boyfriend for 2 years but we started dating when I was 14 so I still madly fancy him!
He's got the wierdest hair for a boy - it kind of grows straight, but its so soft! Not shiny, or anything, just the fuzziest straightest mop ever! Normally I'm not a fan of blue eyes on boys, but he has the most amazingly coloured blue eyes ever - I love them! He doesn't have much of a fashion sense either, and is mostly seen hanging around the house in a football shirt/hoodie, socks and jeans. He's clever, easily an A grade student - but one of those guys who makes everybody laugh. He was always in the 'popular' crowd - I had never been in that until he asked me out. I thought that just added to go against the fact he wasn't your typical 15 year old boy (we're 9 months apart) who only really cares about boobs and ass. He once dyed his hair black and I loved it - he's never had scene hair but he had a kind of shorter fringe cut in and spiked the back up a few times and that just made me fall head over heels even more.
He's really sporty too - he plays football all the time, and set the record for long distance running and 100m countless times, although he's not really the boastful type unless its history. In history he is the most irritating person in the world, because he's such a know it all. Teachers ask him to come up and teach the lesson. Sometimes he wears his glasses and I turn into a huge puddle. He's skinny and tall, but strong, and always warm and cuddly!
And the best thing???
Everybody's jealous ;)
The boy you like does seem like a catch though, I must admit... :P
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female/14
so me and my boyfriend attempted to have sex yesterday. im not too sure if we actually did it or not.
people tell me that it supposed to hurt like crazy, and the pain would last me 2-3 days. Although i felt the pain yesterday when we were doing it, I feel none today. is that normal?
also when he pulled out, there was blood on the condem. Now i heard of the expression "popped the cherry" and I am wondering if my cherry did pop, or if that was the starting of my period. and how long is the bleeding supposed to lasts?
thanks for helping.
It does normally hurt girls alot. It hurt me alot, but not half as much as my friends told me (who had to keep making him pull out everytime they tried for about 5 times) - it's random with every girl. The blood could indeed be due to the breakage of your hymen, which, if a virgin still has one (it can be torn by physical exercise like horse riding, etc) can sometimes cause bleeding. Whether it hurts, or whether it bleeds, or whether you even have a cherry to pop, depends on the girl. Mine didn't hurt for more than a few minutes after the experience. We tried it a few hours later, and although it hurt like a burning sensation, and wasn't all that great (he was a virgin too!) it didn't hurt too much like crazy. I remember first time it being very unpleasant for a few minutes, but not overly excruciatingly painful and the pain didnt last. Sometimes girls go away hurting for days afterwards and they just can't manage to even put it all the way in.
So, yes, it is normal for you to feel no pain today!
The blood from the breakage of the hymen can get on your partner so it would explain why it was at the top of the condom. There can either be very little bleeding or there can be substantial but quite light bleeding for a day or so, which you could compare to a kind of mini period. Whether it is your period or your cherry popping, you don't need to worry - it will either be one or the other, likely the latter.
In other words, its all completely normal and you have nothing to worry about - it sounds like your average all-round first time. Don't listen to the scare stories all the time!
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so is it true that girls find gay guys kissing hot?
it depends on the girl!
I think it's really hot; I've been brought up in a very laid back atmosphere, and my family don't discriminate at all. It luckily happens that just about the hottest guy on TV at the moment is John Barrowman. I found him attractive when I first found out about him; he was a whole lot more attractive when I found out he was gay!
I think the nature of gay guys appeals to girls. They're normally very friendly, very open, good to talk to, and a whole bunch of fun - for some reason, seeing them with a gay partner kissing sometimes makes a lot of girls really excited, and they find it very hot :P
But alot of girls still really object to it. It really depends on personal preference. Its about 50/50, but hellyes,
Gay guys kissing is VERY hot.
Funnily enough, the guys do have to be reasonably good looking. I think the hotness comes from the girl being attracted to both guys. Two male sumo wrestlers kissing would be scary.
Guys find hot lesbians hot, do they not?
So girls find hot gays, hot.
:)
i want to have sex and am ready but do not know how to let my bf know... he and i are both 17
I don't know where you live, but 17's a fine age to want sex. In the ghetto of Great Britain, 16's the legal age. It may seem stupid taking advice from someone younger than you, but I'm 15, 2 months till I'm 16, and I'm regularly having sex. It took me a year with my boyfriend to be 'ready'. By then, he was definitely ready.
When considering letting him know you have to realise
Unless the guy is really late with hitting puberty, he's going to have been wanting sex for a long time. The suggestion of it happening will probably get him very excited.... so theres no need to over-consider it.
How long have you been together? Have you done any thing like oral sex or any other heavy petting beforehand? If he's let you do other things to him, sex should only be the next step up. You don't have to be together long for sex, but if you have, it will make it more special, and if you've lasted a while, hes going to want it more, and hell react well to the suggestion.
Are you confident?
If you are, and if you've tried foreplay with him, while doing it one time or just making out, try asking it subtly...
"Have you ever thought about....?"
You don't have to have a long talk about it. Sex is natural XD.
If you haven't done foreplay, you might want to think about it before going into sex to figure out what's where :P And it'll be a nice starter.
Otherwise just ask him outright. There's nothing to really lose or gain. He's a guy. To be honest, he probably fantasises about sex. He's probably watched porn. Trust me, don't overthink. Just go right ahead with it sometime. It can be well timed or you can just blurt it out XD.
"WOULD YOU HAVE SEX WITH ME?"
Eassssy.
Good luck, I hope I helped :)
Yours,
FiayieEss
ok so there is this guy at my school who i really like and i think that we have a "connection" unfortunetly i learnt that he didn't like me and that he liked my sister (were twins) and my sister doesn't even like him so do you think i should just let it blow over he changes crushes quickly?
Twin/with boyfriend for about 1 year and half now.
My boyfriend used to fancy my twin sister and I hated it - it sucked, but I couldn't do anything about it. My sister liked him too at that point, but she changes crushes very quickly and went off him. In that case - don't be afraid to get involved at all. At this point you don't need to worry about who he fancies, or about it blowing over, you need to get in there and flirt like crazy! But be cool and don't be needy. He probably like your sister because that's the point - she doesn't like him so she doesn't give off a kind of needy sense. With twins, its always going ot be a sticky situation but the great thing is your going to be similar so he likes her - he'll probably like you too. Same with my boyfriend. Then you just have to work on making him like you more. Just chat more, talk more, make jokes :). You can't just wait for him to start fancying you, you have to get in there and then wait it out, not wait it out then get in there :D.
I don't know how competitive you and your sister are, but me and my sister are very competitive. It helps to have a competitive sense so you always aim higher :D!!
While its just a crush its ok for him to like your sister too :)... its when you start getting serious that it matters that hes gotten over your sister :)
My boyfriend and my sister are still quite close friends but I trust him and I know thats all theyll ever be. Once I got in there and after a while, told him I liked him, there was no question who it was going to be.
But I had to put a little effort and I had to tell him I liked him (I had a friend egging me on)... (that was after about a month and a half of flirting on top of our friendship) and after that he asked me out.... and now it's been ages.
Don't wait about, get in theeere! Yeaaah :).
Best of luck mdear :)
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Hey guys!
okay, so I am writing something for school and some of my characters are the total preppy stereotypes. I need help thinking of things that a preppy person might say.
I know the obvious:
all forms of omg
like
whatever
totally
super!
stuff like that, but I need more. Any answers are awesome and greatly appreciated thanks soooo much.
love ya!
like, what did you say???
Oh no you didn't! :O
Later Girlfriiiend.
That is like SO cute!
I know right?
All variations of the words slut/whore, etc.
He's dreamy.
SO not cool.
No! (other person says yes actually.) No! (yes..) NO... Ohmygawd, you CANNOT be serious!
Right?
That sucks.
Bitch
Fit
Dreamy.
Gosh, sawry.
Any of them good?
Feel free to ask me for some more... there's some rattling around there but its eleven at night and the old tickers being a bit slow.
(14, female) i always have a really hard time explaining this...so anyways, in between my boobs there like this little dent type thing. it dips in a little instead of just going straight down. i cant wear the "triangle top" bikinis. its called a concave chest. i know boys that have it but usually no girls have it. Whenever i have a boyfriend im so nervous about them letting them touch my boobs, or taking my shirt off for them cuz im like what would they think!? what would boys think? i mean, what should i do?
Ainne1992...
what an inconsiderate answer! Next time you ask about whether its normal to have developed a crippling arthritis at the age of 40, I'm sure you won't like the answer that - oh you're too young to worry about THAT.
All boobs, my dear, are different. Every single girl has a problem with them. Some have one two seizes smaller than the other. Others droop and others are perky - some are far too small/big, or you get spots on them. In fact, they're just a bother if you ask me - the thing is, these are typical girls, every girl, like you or me. And boys just love boobs - they see a breast and they're in seventh heaven already. No one picks ourselves apart like ourselves. Boys are happy with any type of breast and they don't look for detail. Besides, even if a boy were to notice they wouldn't be deterred. When you notice imperfections on people you don't mind, do you? Your friend has a huge spot, you're not going to stop liking her because of it. And besides, a huge spot would be far less attractive than a concave chest ... after all, you wouldn't want to touch it, ne?
I worried about the same thing as you but my boyfriend doesn't seem to care a jot (although I don't have a concave chest theres alot wrong with the girls and also I have mild scoliosis meaning I'm straight on one side and curved on the other). He loves me for who I am and all my attributes are just an added bonus. Even if someone were to say something, it would only be joking.
Trust me, you're fine the way you are. Boys are probably far more worried with thinking they're too small down there or too hairy or whatnot after seeing your breasts, than you are about your dent :)
Be proud of your girls!
- Hope I helped :)
ok so first off i'm an 18 year old guy. i've been in a relationship with my dream girl for now 7 1/2 months. she's 17. she's the first girlfriend that i've ever had. before me she dated a guy for 7 months, they broke up about a year and a 1/2 ago, but that was pretty much it for her. we're both deeply in love with each other. before her i was depressed and miserable but she changed all that and since we've been together i'm happier than i ever could've imagined. i know that she's really happy with me too. so basically we can't get enough of each other. something that has really been getting to me lately is the issue of sex. in 7 1/2 months we haven't done anything sexual at all, no blowjobs, no handjobs or anything like that. i kind of thought that was a good thing for the first couple months because we were able to make something great together without sex or anything but lately it's been getting to me. i'm really sexually attracted to her and it's just driving me crazy. i know that she's strongly attracted to me too, she's said so and i'm exactly her type. we've both sent each other alot of nude pictures and there was no big deal about it. i feel completely comfortable sending them to her and she feels the same. we do touch each other alot, not sexually however. for example, sometimes we'll just lay on her bed for 4 hours snuggling up with each other really tight just talking about how much we love each other and stuff. we have this thing where we tickle each other alot. we tickle bare skin like the stomach, back, and she likes tickling my "man boobs". she also likes giving me wedgies. she's jokingly admitted that the whole wedgy thing is just an excuse to touch my ass. lately all that touching stuff has intensified. i get the feeling that i really need to do something. i know that alot of the time sex is bad for young couples but its been 7 1/2 months and we've made such a solid foundation already without it. i don't really want to go into like real sex until maybe prom night, which is in 2 months. i want our first time to be special and romantic. i do want to do some of the other stuff though. i want to go down on her so badly because i feel like she deserves it and i want to make her feel good. i don't even want a blowjob or anything else all that badly because i just want to make her feel good. she has told me that her ex went down on her while they were dating but she never had sex with him, she's still a virgin like me. it's embarassing to say but i know how to do all of the stuff because i looked it up online. there are alot of times when we have the opportunity to do stuff, both our parents work alot. i really don't know how to even get into that situation. people have said to just kind of "explore" while we're making out and go from there. i'm kind of an awkward kid and i'm somewhat unconfident and very scared of failure even though i've gotten all the info i need from websites and friends, both male and female. so if anyone could help me out i would much appreciate it. i know i probably sound weird but i'm just really confused about the whole thing.
female. teen :)
I've been with my boyfriend for one year and a few months and I have to say at around the eight month mark, the most we had really done was take our tops off, and then not even everything for me. It was kind of frustrating because we had something so good without sexual activity but at the same time I could have related to how you are feeling now: we had never actually touched each other in that way. I had no idea hwo to go about it even though I'd told my boyfriend I was okay with the concept of it all, mainly because I didn't know whether he'd like it or not or anything! I had no experience. Foreplay is soemthing that most girls are completely clueless at to start with unless they've done things with a previous partner and then even if they have, they find it hard to muster the courage to do it that spontaneously unless they have a HORRIFICALLY brave moment.
It's okay to feel frustrated in this way. :)
So anyway, me and my boyfriend were stuck because we both kind of wanted to - it just didn't happen. I personally think it's because he suggested it too much and I thought about him suggesting it too much - but in the end he solved it by taking initiative. I'm sorry to say, but alot of the time guys need to take initiative in relationships because girls are a bit grey in that area. We played the dare game. Juvenile as it was the basic idea was obviously to dare each other to take items of clothing off and whatnot, and finally set a deadline as to when the game would finish and the game would be won by someone should they postpone doing the dare (e.g. - like you say, let me go down on you?' - I didn't let him do that until about two months ago, that's mainly because he was my first boyfriend and I'm very self conscious, whereas your girlfriend seems much more open from what you've said). Obviously no one wants to lose a game as trivial as the dare game!!
My suggestion isn't that you should get a spin the bottle set out and challenge your girlfriend, but you need to see it as a challenge. Not the kind of challenge you see it as now, like an obstacle to be made to get out of the way, but as something that should be embraced and had fun with. Yesh? :) That means you can do it any way whatsoever.
It doesn't hurt to take initiative and suggest it either. The worst thing she could say is no, and with girls that's probably because she starts to feel nervous or thinks that you might be disappointed in some way. Even if she says no, at a later date try again. Every time she's going to be more accepting of it. She might even accept it first time! Either way, me and my boyfriend got to where we are now (that covers everything) by making it fun, a challenge. Taking it in turns. Him, especially, being persistent.
It'll be fine - just remember, nothing is going to happen unless one of you makes a move. And neither of you can presume it'll be the other, so you have to try yourself. Who knows, she might be thinking that right now! She probably wants you on another level just as much as you want to move to another level.
Hope I helped
And MUCH good luck :)
x
I get a boner eveeeeeeery time my girlfriend and I make out... Thats normal to any of you losers going eww... well anyway I'm feeling pretty hot when we french how do I make her hot and well.. How do I know when she wants me to do stuff to her...
I'm 14 and I am not a loser -.- I just need help from some girls..
Thx in advance.
15/female
From someone with experience :).
For a start, making out and turning her on isn't all about kissing and stuff, make sure you do stuff with your hands. Don't be afraid to suggestively move your hands down or something - if she doesn't want you to she'll make it clear that she doesn't, but there's always the chance that she's secretly hoping you might. There's not many signs girls give out about that kind of thing because we get a bit embarassed about our own sexual needs but alot fo the time we could be thinking about it, or wanting to say something about it but not. Even if you do do it and she stops you, don't be too worried about persistence because the only way you'll get further is if you keep trying :).
Firstly, only do this however if you and your girlfriend are comfortable with it. If you do it all the time and you haven't been together for long and the trust between you two hasn't built up she could get worried that you're only in it for one thing - and trust me, girls think that alot, and it's not something they like unless they've planned the arrangement to be like that.
When girls are turned on I've heard the neck and shoulders get extra sensitive? Well, whatever, all girls love it when you kiss their neck and stuff. Who knows why :). I've also heard massaging and stuff for fun can be quite a turn on, and hey - that would get the top off?
It takes varying amounts of time but once the tops come off in a relationship, in my eyes, its on the road to everything else.
Just remember equally as much as girls can enjoy the sexual stuff knowing that you want to cuddle them and stuff as well is the easiest way to their hearts. You can try all the suggestions these people or I give you but at the same time you need to show your girlfriend and assure her that its not all about that which I'm sure it isn't.
That way, she'll be much more inclined to get turned on in the bedroom. Hahs :]
hope I helped, and good luck ;]
(PS. If it's any help, I've been with my boyfriend for 13 months and over now, and it took me a full ten months or so to let him touch anyway of mine that wasn't my chest. That was probably because he went completely the wrong way about it and is the type of person who makes stupid jokes in inappropriate place. God. DON'T make his mistake :). )
haha. okay. so this may sound ridiculous, but i don't know. so like, i can't find my vagina. like, i just can't. i've searched for the hole in the mirror and pressed around and i can't find it. :| that's where tampons go too, right? so, i've had my period for quite a few years, and i just use pads, because i never really needed a reason for tampons. i've even looked at those anatomy sites any everything. haha, i feel really stupid asking this. but, um. any advice?
Don't feel ashamed that it's a bit hard to find :). It feels stupid admitting it but I felt the same way you did about 4 months ago, and I didn't want to tell anyone in case they thought I was strange. (the situation had developed after my boyfriend and I attempted three times to have sex and couldn't find the damn thing). It sounds crude, but don't worry. You definitely have one :P. At the front you have the urethera, so your vaginas somewhere in the middle between the back and the front and its likely either you still have the thin piece of skin covering it that makes it hard to see, or find in general called the hymen, (which isn't a problem at all, loads of girls still have one), or you've never really explored yourself that well like some sexually active people like to. That's fine, like I said, I was the same :D. Either ways I found it, took a bits of poking around but you will find it. DO NOT WORRY :) It's much easier to find when you're sexually aroused and the muscle relaxes, but until that time just continue the search. :D:D.
Basically, sounds gross but - it's the same place where your period comes out, right? And it's pretty hard to not notice where exactly that happens, so just remember to focus around that area...
Hope I helped :P
x.
Okkay, Me and my boyfriend started dating like a week ago.
I think I already love him but im scared to tell him. Im scared because I think its too early to say it. Should I wait for him to say it or what?
Thanks.
I would wait. As hard as it is to believe, even though you may love him now, love grows. So in a few months you might look back and think how you are feeling now was almost trivial compared to how comfortable and how close you feel to him then. Last year I was contemplating the same thing you are now, saying that I wanted to tell him. I mean at the very start, even two months in, we were nowhere near as comfortable with eachother as we were a month or so later. And while I was trying to figure out when to say it, he said it. Now its a year in and I remember how last summer, I missed him so much when he was on holiday in France! But now, if he went away again, I'd miss him so much more :). Love grows, and it takes time before you say it. It's got to be special, and it will be comfortable when you say it. If you said it now, would you go home embarassed if it went wrong? Don't rush things my dear, let it all go accordingly and it will work out fine :)
I wish you the best of luck. :)
(Dont necessarily wait for him to say it, just wait in, maybe a few months, before you do. 'I love you' is a big obligation and commitment and scares lots of people. But when you feel you're both comfortable with each other and you think he does, say it. Or if he gets there before you... whos complaining :D?!)
does a real boyfriend ask you to suck their dik i dont think so because if they really love you they wouldnt ask you no question like that help me please?
Oral sex for boys is simply a sexual desire, just the same as girls get :). So indeed a guy might ask you to do that - even if he loves you. You might say with love, it's even more alright for him to ask you to do that because you two have a connection that means you're close enough to ask you such personal questions :) it's nothing to worry about if he asks you to unelss he said it rudely, in an offensive way (as in kiss my ass! or some such).
If you didn't want to and said no, however, he'd have to respect your decision. I would only go so far as to doubt his love if he persists after you have declined his offer, or if he goes in moods or becomes rude. If you comply and he ever asks for it again, don't ever do it with doubt okay hun? If there's even a bit of doubt tell him you don't want to and why, because he's been asking too much and its making you feel uncomfortable and coudl you take a break?
So no. Just because he asked doesn't mean he doesn't love you. But if he asked and you said no and he reacted badly, there's an issue. he's bound to be a bit :/ if you decline, but as long as he RESPECTS the decision and understands to leave off, then everything's good :)
Hope I helped
(from someone whose been in a very similar situation) :)
when you pop your hymen during sex does blood get all over your partner?
During sex if you still have one, then there's no garuntee that you will bleed. Alot of girls dont have one anymore anyway, due to physical activities such as sports, and its already gone so theres a chance that you don't have to worry at all about it :). Some girls do bleed a bit but the bleeding is very light, and I doubt it would get on your partner. Even if it did, it wouldn't be much. Bleeding happens in a few girls but it does not happen in alot of other girls, so there's no way of telling whether you'll even bleed at all, if you still have a hymen. Bleeding is light and would only last up to a day or so at most, and it's not much to worry about. If you do still have one though sex could be painful on entry, and even without. The pain does not last though, or it rarely does, throughout the whole experience. Some girls like I said before experience alot of pain - I did, and I didn't even have one! - but some girls don't at all. I think this is probably more of a worry than blood on your partner; the chances of that would be very slim anyway, I think :)
Hope I helped
Fiayieess.
ok my brother is in 7th grade and he is very curious. he always trys to look at porn but my mom always catches him. So tonight i turned on my laptop and a bunch of porn videos with boobs and stuff came up. I guess my computer died before it could get off the website. I don't look at porn but i am 100% positive it was my brother. also a website was up and it was a video game website. and i dont play video games. So my question is, should i tell my mom or not? i am thinking i should just so she knows he hasn't stopped.
Well, for a start, all boys look at porn. Its normal to be sexually interested, from whatever age that they're comfortable with. It's not like your brother is doing something horrendously terrible, or that he's the only one. I'm 15 and all my boy - friend people have been looking at the stuff since they were 12 or so. Also, your mother may not like him looking at it because its, well - to us girls - its crude and we can't see how anyone would like it, and also she might be worried he could become sexually active. Generally in teen years he's going to do that anyway, whether on your computer at home or round a friends, and you're not going to be able to stop it whatever you do :D. Also, watching it is NOT ILLEGAL. In some places, yes it may be. But worldwide, everyone does it. FURTHERMORE, I do have to add that in The US in most states (I live in the UK so it doesnt effect my friends), it is illegal to watch porn under the age of 18. If you live in the US you might want to consider that, too. In which case, it probably would be best to tell your mum.
Anyway back with the real answer:
Why do shops sell porn in magazines and such? Because its a normal thing to watch for men :). I think by telling your mum you'd just be getting him into trouble for something that he's not going to stop doing anyway. How close are you to your brother? You might also want to consider that before you tell on him. You could tell him that you know, but I wouldn't tell your mother just yet if I were you. He's just exploring, and everyone does it. If your mother does find out let her do it normally, I say, don't break the trust between your brother and him unless he starts internet dating or some such... :)
Faye.
I know Hitler violated the Versailles Treaty. I know HOW he did it. What i don't know is WHY no country held him accountable for it/ stopped him?
England? USA? France? Any of the hundreds of countries who knew what was going on!! What were their reasons for not doing anything?
VERY simply,
no one stopped him because they didn't want a war - it was called appeasement. They thought by 'appeasing' Hitler, they would stop him starting another war, because the first had been so terrible. Appeasement literally meant avoiding war at all costs, even if it meant letting Hitler have what he wanted. Later, they held the Munich Conference where they told Hitler to stop invading countries - he agreed, and shortly after took Czechoslovakia for his own. At this point they were forced to act and later on they declared war on Germany (that is Britain and Co.)
Appeasement was Neville Chamberlain's the current prime minister's of the times policy and was put in place because they thought war with Germany should be the last possible option. However, it is admitted they let Germany go too far. Had the League Of nations Been efficient, they could have effectively stopped them through peaceful methods but many wars beforehand like the Manchurian Crisis and the Abyssinian War had made the League ineffectual.
Anyways, appeasement didn't go down too well after the war started. People thought it had been pointless. Chamberlain resigned soon afetr and made way for Churchill.
Hope it helps :)
Ok, So I downloaded Lime Wire!Result!But everytime i try to search a song it says "lime wire is currently connected to the network.you may not return many results until you are fully connected with the network" and I dont know why!
- i downloaded it perfectly
- internet connection is perfect
- it has downloaded....fully
What could be wrong? how can i fix it
Ok! Firstly limewire isn't illegal, but downloading things you haven't paid for is. I'm warning you, 'cause I used to Limewire, but if you're in the UK it means that if you get caught the government could get rid of your broadband connection :)
either way, it's probably not connecting because your Firewall is still up. Go to your control panel and click windows firewall, and select off (not recommended). I used to do that, and it didn't harm my computer. once I switched off the firewall everything downloaded perfectly.
However, I do strongly advise you to not download off limewire, simply because the act of downloading these things is simply illegal. I had my time, but now I know that I could get seriously done for it.
Either way, that's how to connect.
(I am giving this advice based on the information you didn't tell me if you were windows or apple or anything, so hope I helped)
remember to scan everything you get.
Aurevoi!
how old do you people think is an ok age to lose yor virginity?
OK personally, and no offence, this 'waiting till marriage' thing is bullshit. Why waste out on a good part of life just waiting for the confines of marriage, when you'll never be able to try it with anyone else either?
However don't do it before you're emotionally prepared. Don't do it until you're in a relationship where you can trust your partner or you will be HURT. Fine, if you want to lose your virginity for the sake of losing it and you dont care about a relationship, that is fine, as long as you are ENTIRELY comfortable with it. If you're sensible enough to know its a big step and you should always use protection, if you know the risks but are still willing, then any age is fine as long as you are emotionally ready.
18? Pshaw. If you want to before then, whether legal or not, alot of people aren't waiting. Here in the UK legal sex is at the age of 16 which I find much more practical. Teenagers start getting intense sexual desires at around this age and just before - why wait till 18? thats only my opinion on the US policy. The 18 policy doesn't deter people at all. When people are ready they'll do it.
So any age really. Not something ridiculous like 12,a lthough some people do and we shouldn't think that's a bad thing - its a personal choice.
Remember though, laws are made for a reason. However, I would go with sex. WHATEVER AGE I FELT MOST COMFORTABLE.:)
good luck!
I'm a virgin, and I will be for a while, but I have a question about it, when your "cherry pops" how bad does it hurt?
It's not just that that could cause pain. Basically, you might have already 'popped' it earlier on in life through heavy excercise or something, so it's not always the problem. Often first time sex may hurt because of this and there could be a little bleeding, but very often it does not, and also very often, you've already 'popped your cherry'! Sex can hurt often when your tensed and not prepared. It entirely depends on the person; some people find it agony for a long time before sex actually works for them, like one of my friends. Others will find it very painless.
I guess you'll just have to wait and see ;)
Hello,
My son is 15 and he's always been a ''rebel''.
Me and my husband are relaxed with him, so if he wants piercings, we let him get them...but we defenetly don't let him drink or smoke.
The other day I found out that he had been having sex with his two year girlfriend. It isn't like our family believes in ''no sex before marriage'' but it was kind of shocking to me because I always though that he would wait until he was (at least) 16.
He has been out a lot lately and yesterday he came home with an eyebrow piercing. I am not against piercings at all, in fact, I love them, but he didn't even tell me that he was going to get one.
It seems to me that he's not communicating with us anymore, and he sent me a text this morning, asking whether he could go get drunk with some friends. Now, I am defenetly against drinking...but I know he will do it anyway, even if I say no!
He smokes ''socially'' as he told me, I don't approve but I cannot do anything about it. He's always been a popular boy, but I want to know how I can make him talk to us more, trust us and also, not get drunk whenever he goes out!
What do you think I should be doing?
What are some punishments I could use?
And just advice how I could feel better?
Thank you.
PS! He gets mostly A's in school, some B's and he doesn't spend his time at home on the computer or playing video games...or watching TV. He spends his free time at home playing guitar, writing songs for his band and so on...so he's not a lousy student.
I'm 15, female, and I thought you might like to know someone's point of view from a similar age?
Lots of my friends are like your son, despite being intelligent. They're all good natured, they do well, but they do have the odd bad habit. The problem is, it's always going to be hard to control teenagers. I myself am not interested in drinking or social smoking, but I have a boyfriend and have been with him for a year. If my parents knew that we were considering sex they would be very shocked too - I'd probably be kicked out! (They're not so laid back as you sound. I obey or I walk :)) The problem is when you've been in a relationship for a long time with someone and when you're our age you're inevitably interested in that sort of thing, and also, whether adults think its real or not, I really do love my boyfriend. When you know you have something like that with someone it's kind of inevitable that it could happen. There's little control anyone could have over that, apart from making sure its safe and dealt with maturely. I guess you just have to be thankful for the fact that he wasn't one those 13 year old sexually active to-be fathers. :)
Does he drink alot, do you think? Alot of teenagers drink more responsibly than parents think. I've only ever got drunk once and I told my mum - she didn't mind too much, it's my dad whose the real figure of authority - and I have to say, it was reasonably okay but I wouldn't make a habit out of it. Your son sounds like he's mature enough and hard working. I guess he just wants to live a little in his teen years which he can't really be blamed for :)
I think, if I was asked to stop drinking/smoking by my parents, I'd most likely do it if they approached me in an un-authoritarian manner, and also without being patronizing. For a start, could you ask him, from the heart, that you know you can't stop him but ask him to be responsible. Teenagers try and get away with anything! The Best parents in the world are unlikely to stop this behaviour altogether. Once we've had a taste of that kind of stuff it is very hard to stop.
As for him being distant, the fact he's told you he does these things probably signifies he's comfortable with you knowing which is just the opposite of distance. Just make sure you communicate well with him!!
I have no idea if you'll find this helpful or not. I'm not sure if I even answered the question!!!
But I very much hope I helped :)