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My real name is Christiana, but most people call me "Nina". I am 18 going on 19. I enjoy helping people--just not when they are still in middle school and asking about love or sex. I do alot of painting on canvas, creative writing, reading, and listening to music. I'm pretty mellow. I love sci fi and fantasy based books and movies. I love medieval history--really I like most history but sometimes I wish I could live in a time period that didn't deal with so many technological complexities. I guess you could say I love the simple things in life...



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Okay, I've tried tampons a few times and I know that when it's in you're not supposed to feel it so up untill now, I haven't got it right once because everytime I used one it was super uncomfortable.

So, I bought some lite ones instead of the regular ones I was using and I tried it and I can barely feel it but I'm still aware it's there and can feel it a little but it's not uncomfortable.

So my question is are you not supposed to feel it at all? Cause I would've thought that when you sat down you'd be vaguely aware it's there, it just wouldn't be uncomfortable.

As long as its not uncomfortable, all is fine and normal.

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I have this project in one of my classes, and we need to do a survey with 100 people. me and my group already have about 20, and i thought it would help if I could just ask people online too for answers. only answer for one candy, and for "other" dont say what candy it is, just say "other".

Nerds
Skittles
M&Ms
Gum
Hershey's
Snickers
Twix
Reeses

THANKS! :]

Twix.

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15/f

i'm jewish, go to a jewish private school with a dress code that's not strictly enforced.

so my boyfriend and i just broke up and i'm on the market again. before i had a boyfriend, i used to dress...well, not slutty, but let's just say i wore revealing clothes. unconsiously, when i had a boyfriend, i wore more modest clothes. now i'm single again, i just bought new stuff last week from h&m and urban outfitters, and i'm not sure what to do. should i continue to dress modestly or is it ok for me to dress...well, slutty? i didn't dress exactly like a slut...just bared some cleavage and wore short skirts. i have big boobs and small legs and i want to play them up to my advantage.

i know my teachers (and my mom) would like it better if i continued dressing modestly, but i know that guys...well, appreciate me being a little revealing. and i am looking, not for a relationship, but to have some fun. so should i be modest or be "slutty"?

I'm just adding on to "andalexissays" answer...
You will eventually find a guy thats actually worth your time by dressing a bit more modestly, simply because males are less likely to think of you as "easy". They'll base it more upon you're face and personality than the rest of your body and sexual access. Just a thought.

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My friend is having a 60's party but it's based more on hippies and not just any 60's style?

Could you tell me any sixties bands whose music we could play?

And any activities we could do?

And also, do you have any ideas for what I could wear?

Thanks in advance, xxx

As far as music goes:
The Beatles, Pinkfloyd (came out in the late 60's), The Byrds, anything like that.
Ideas on what to wear:
A long flowing skirt with either an "earthy" feel to it, or just plain old colorful. Wear a funky top and try to find some "peacey" jewelry.

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Ok so me and a good guy friend have been friends with benefits for awhile. It used to be just making out but recently we've been dryhumping a lot. He wants me to give him a handjob and he also wants to touch my boobs and stuff but I said it was against my morals. Am I being hypocritical that I'm dry-humping but won't let him touch me under my clothes? Which is usually considered more serious?

I'm still a virgin if I dry hump right?

Your moral character is way more important than what he wants. It may seem to him as if you've been leading him on with the dry-humping (and yes, you are still a virgin), but thats just too bad. You have to draw the line RIGHT here if you feel it is against your morals. Trust me, hes in no way worth it.

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lets start this off by saying im a and a virgin. and its really starting to smell even when i dont have my period? is there anything wrong? like its not infected or anything it just smells really really bad.

Since this question was already answered I'm just giving you a very handy tip--
If you take a bath just pour a little bit of vinegar (I know that sounds odd, but it works!) into the water and sit in it. It will get rid of and prevent any smell there.

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I know eww it's smelly, but it's weird. I am fairly thick. Like I have large inner theighs and I guess it is the main problem but my pussy has a smell Like it is an onion smell like from sweating I guess. But it is there as soon as I get out of the shower. I can't get rid of it..

Medical problem that I should consult my gyno about?
Or is it normal?

A good cure for that smell, and although it may seem a bit awkward, is to pour a tiny bit of vinegar into the bathtub and soak in the bath. Doing this a couple times a week should get rid of it.

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How do you know if you and your mate are ready to have kids but still have issues with how you want to raise them? We both want them, but what do you do when you cannot agree about certain issues. Our prob right now is how will we raise our kids relegiously? We both grew up in two different Christian churches and don't agree with things in both parties? I do not know what to do about this. I have tried talking to my husband about this, but we cannot agree. He does not agree with finding a church for "us". I need advice about this suject from someone other than my family or his. Has anyone went through this? Please help!

If I were in your shoes I would start out by just teaching the basic principles of Christianity, the child will still be brought up as a Christian from birth, but it will buy you more time to figure out what to do later on. Keep in mind that either way one day the child will make his or her own decisions based on denomination and whether or not they want to be Christian. My parents brought me up first as Catholic, then baptist, and now I have chosen to become an Eastern Orthodox Christian due to the traditionality. I believe this will even itself out over time.

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soo on my eye.. like the rim under my eyelashes and above my eyeball.. has been hurtin for a couple days and now theres a bubble on it. what is it?? is it a sti (sp)?? what should i do to make it go away??

Actually, if you put a warm washcloth with a wee bit of soap on it a few times a day it show go away. I've had them once or twice before, its much better than wasting an hour or two at the doctors office.

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I did (except i did it over msn) and we kinda resolved everything...were gonna b friends for now and then see what happens....the only thing is that my family and friends are totally against this, because they said if he can hurt me once he can do it again kinda thing...and i feel like the realtionship is doomed again before its even begun....wat do you think i should do? i mean hes up to getting back together he even said that he still has feelings for me and the reason he broke up with me was because he was afraid he was going to break my heart and he couldnt bare that (didnt knw wat that meant) and that the relationship was getting boring-now that i believe. the thing is im in university and hes in high school so im kinda awlways busy but i try and talk to him as much as i can. can you see where im going with this??? ooo and by the way thanks soo much for the help...if you could give me your opinion and advice again it would be much appreciated:D

Goodluck with that, time can only tell what will happen. A break will probablly do you two some good anyway--be very weary of the way he treats you. Be hopeful (:

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So what would u do?

this was ur answer to my question:

Sounds to me that it was mutual. However, (as much as I know you don't want to hear this) you also pushed him over the edge by saying "You can't be in the midd...lets just end it", he really could have been "in the middle" sometimes when it comes to these things its hard not to be indecisive.

If you still like him, and I'm sure you miss him, call him and explain your feelings---even if it goes to his voicemail leave a long message. Brace yourself for anything offensive he may say--but don't be offensive towards him, just stay calm and say what you mean.

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Ok I need help deciding something....me and b.f broke up after 6 months well i think we did, and i cant tell who broke up with who...so heres how it went...

the night b4 we had a fight..so the next morning i get a text asking.."so is this is? is it over?" i answered only if you want it to be. and then i called him later and we spoke and i asked him to you want to break up and he was like "i dunno im in the middle" and i was like "you cant be in the middle you either want to or not" and i was like wats wrong? and he said he was bored...so i said well theres ur answer..lets just end it..there was a pause from him and then he said ok. and then we said goodbye...

i have no idea who really broke up with who? wat do you think..?

Sounds to me that it was mutual. However, (as much as I know you don't want to hear this) you also pushed him over the edge by saying "You can't be in the midd...lets just end it", he really could have been "in the middle" sometimes when it comes to these things its hard not to be indecisive.

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hey,

this might sound like a weird question but can someone tell me what an SUV (car) is?

Thanx

Sports Utility Vehicle
(such as a Ford Expedition)
They are a waste of gas and space on the road (in my opinion)

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hey theres probaly a million questions like this but does anyone know how to get around blocked site?? My school already has all the peacefire sites blocked.
Its dumb they've blocked really important sites that i need for projects.
Thankyou.

https://www.w8.chickenkiller.com
Scroll down until you see an URL box and just type in "myspace.com"
Sometimes it takes multiple tries, but it almost always works.

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what exactly is Photobucket?

Photobucket is a website in which you can upload personal files: photos, videos, etc. It gives you special URL's to your pictures so you can post them on your actual website pages (i.e. myspace)

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when you go to a taning bed, do you tan with clothes or a swimsuit or underwear or what? and do you have to have tanning goggles or anything?

It all depends on what you are comfortable with. Generally, when I go tanning I go in the nude so I have even tan lines. You really should wear tanning goggles (any tanning bed will have them for purchase, or maybe even require them). Make sure to lotion up after every tanning session also, and days after so that you can keep your tan for a longer period of time and to avoid itching.

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Just a few little questions.
1.What is the average age that teenage girls get sexually active without seeming like a whore?

2.What do guys think of girls who believe in staying a virgin until they are married?

Keep in mind that teenage girls, by law, are not legally allowed to take part in sexual activities until they are 16 years of age. I personally think it is sad when anyone under that age decides to engage in sexual activities, their bodies are not fully developed, nor are they mature enough yet(although I did think differently when I was younger). The "whore" part of the question all depends. If a girl only sleeps with her boyfriend, she will not likely be seen as one that "sleeps around". Guys who do not respect girls who are saving their virginity for marriage are pigs, males that are worth your time won't care.

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Are there times in a relationship where a partner may have doubts? I mean I love my boyfriend very much. But I dunno today I just didn't feel good and I just thought he was soo annoying and too touchy and I didn't want to hug him. I'm fine now though and I very much want him to be at my house with me.. Is it just me?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now, and we've both had our doubts. I've had my "off" days...even weeks. However, if you really in fact do love him--the thoughts of leaving him will subside. Relationships cannot be strengthened without doubts, remember that!

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hi! well ive been into tight-skin pants for a couple years now. like...ive sewed them myself makin them skin tight. but the thing is, now that these new "skinny jeans" are in, i admit i like them better then my old skin tight jeans. Also, the real thing is, that whenever i wore my skin tight jeans (all i ever had) i would wear my black converse! but those are crappy now i had to throw them away and honestly they dont look good with my skinny jeans. So heres my problem: i dont like flats. but skinny jeans def. dont look good with my new reg shoes. so what do i do about my flats problem? What other shoes look good with skinny jeans? And its winter so i cant wear flip flops. thanks so much (long question) plz help fashion!

Why do you care so much about your appearance? Hmm... you're about as deep as a puddle. In the real world clothes don't matter--did you happen to know that? Why waste so much time worrying about fashion??? We live, we die...people don't generally remember us for OUR FASHION SENSE...but for who we actually are, don't get sucked into this stupid hole today's society has created!

How old are you??

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my boyfriend dumped me after a year of seein eachother Every single day and i spend all my time with him he was there for me wen no1 else was wen i lost all my friends and because wen we fight i take it too far he just had to dump me i begged for another chance but he said no i feel so sick im achining i miss him so much i see him everyday so its soo hard not to see him from now on i dont want to see him with another girl to thats going to make things harder please help because no1 is giving me good advice to stop the pain i love this boy i told him EVERYTHING and now its all over he dont want anything to do with me help!

Judging from your spelling/grammar errors (no offense) I doubt that you are old enough to know what true love is, or at least mature enough to have a REAL relationship. You will find someone new, break ups are meant to happen, you have to go through these things in order to have a mature relationship later on.

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