hi every1! my name is katie, im 17 years old,i feel that any1 who can diss someone and say that there giving advice, are so totally retarded and messed up! but there are some WEIRD peeple out there.even though im only 17, i have been through alot, i have been raped, molested, beaten, my parents are divorced and i have ran away from home so theres not much that i havent been through. so u can imagine how much advice i have 4 all of u troubled peeple.im listening, u just talk! thanx!
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I’ve been brought up by a religious family. This October, I had this epiphany where I realized that I don’t believe in god.
Now, I’m a little obsessed with death. Not my own death, but the death of people I love. I function normally but when I think about someone close to me dying, I get really depressed because I realize that once they’ll die, I’ll –never- see them again.
It’s come to the point that every day, I think about death at least once and every time I hug my mother (who I love more than anyone in the world), I feel so scared because I know that at some point she’ll die and I won’t ever be able to look at her again. I keep trying to add up how old she is and compare it to the average life expectancy and count how many years she has left and I keep hoping I’ll die before her. It isn’t just her either, I’m really afraid of my sister dying or my close friends dying too.
At first, I thought it was a phase and that I would come to accept it but it’s been four months and it doesn’t seem to be going away. I also a little OCDesque, I’m obsessed with germs and I rinse a lot. Do you think I should go to counseling or will it fade? I don’t know how I’m ever going to be able to go through a week without thinking about people dying.
Also, please don’t try to recruit me to your religion. That’s not what I’m looking for and I don’t want any of those messages. I will rate you very low for them. (link)
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ok well first off, that is NOT something healthy to be thinking of, it can drive you nuts, though its seems you already know that. but its kinda difficult to give you advice for this, without telling you to try to be religious. um well you COULD possibly try to not overdo the whole religion thing on yourself, but the bible, or talking to someone who KNOWS somethings about what hapens to you when you die might help and comfort yourself. your outlook on death is very scary and haunting, but if you try to beleive and have faith that when your family or loved one passes on that you WILL see them again, and that untill you do, they will be taken care of. you dont have to beleive in god to beleive that you will see them again. sorry for the religious advice, but its better than you constantly thinking about the worst. i hope that i didnt piss you off at all with my advice, and that i might have helped at leat a smidgen.
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my hair is very dry, and kind of thick. im sure there are a lot of people with the same problem. but i was wondering, what do you think is the best shampoo for me to use? like, to hydrate my hair and actually repair it, instead of causing it more damage. thanks =) (link)
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ask your barber to thin out your hair a little, just a little but. it makes your hair a little lighter, easier to blow-dry, and easier to style. i would strongly recomend TIGI's BedHead products, plus they smell DELICIOUS! =)
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ok, so im designing a website, and im short on inspiration. i need some people to give me random ideas (they can be like a list of random words or actual ideas) to help me come up with the website design. thank you sooo much! (link)
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well if it can b on anything you want, then maybe design it on your favorite actor/actress, or a fav. movie or something. thats what i'd probly do it on. or u can also do it on somthing you know alot about
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Okay, so I'm a 14 year old female. There's this guy in one of my classes, and he's a junior. Since the beginning of the year, he has always paid "special attention" to me, like teasing me and stuff. I even recall a while back in October-ish, I was walking in the hallway afterschool, l and he was with his friend, and he stopped to talk to me.
Now, he's always like looking at me in class, especially when I talk to any guys. But I don't know if I'm just imagining the signs or if he teases me just to look cool in front of his friends. Or maybe he's just a friendly guy. Eh, help, please? =] (link)
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ok you didnt really get to detailed on the sitch, but it seems as though he does like you. how much? dont know, but if those signs r true then he probly has a little sumthin 4 you. he IS a junior, so his way of thinking is more advanced then the average freshmans, so there might b a chance that if he DID like you then he's probly tell you straight out, but i dont know him. so you might want to wait untill the signs are more obvious, like him trying to cath up to you just to speak with you, or trying to sit next to you whenever he can...ect. well i hope i helped a little
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I know this is the WORST way to remove blackheads, but I was squeezing my skin with toilet paper on my index fingers.
Since I've done that, I've rubbed some skin off. Whenever I do this, I usually get a pretty nasty scab.
Any way to make it less noticeable besides piling makeup on the scab? It makes it more obvious. (link)
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get the Proactive solution moisturizer, it help wonders
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My friends really make me mad! They say that if I bring my boyfriend to the dance that there not going to go. Thing is, I really like him a lot and we have been dating for like 4 months now. Should I let what they say affect my decision or not. Im so confused and I feel like crying!! Nothing even happened between them. They just do not like him. I asked them why and they said they dont know why but they just dont like him. (link)
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well you might need to have a sit down with your freinds and your boyfreind. ask them what the heel there deal is? what did he ever do to you guys? why punish you for something stupid that they have a problem with, its YOUR descision to date WHOMEVER you want, there your FREINDS there suppossed to comfort and be there for you, but it seems as though they are doing the EXACT OPPOSITE. they arent acting like true freinds. if they really are your freinds then they will listen to you and try and work things out.
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How do you get a guy to notice you that doesnt know you exist? (link)
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k, first off, if he has a myspace or sumthin, get it and put cute comments on his, or sumthing to make him notice. then doll yourself up, and walk by him or something, mabye have a freind talk to him about you, or do the most obvious thing, direct approach, become his feind, get to know him.
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I'm 22, F: Last semester I had a class with this one guy that I really like. He's very kind, outgoing and smart. I'm drawn to his personality. To make a long story short, I only "talked" to him a couple times, and even then, I didn't really feel myself...not because he's uncomfortable to be around, but because I feel so shy and akward when I'm really attracted to someone. When I feel comfortable, i open up and have tons of things to say, but getting to that point is the problem.
Anyway, today I saw him on campus and we talked a lot, but I felt so jittery. He's so outgoing, and I felt like I was talking a lot too, but I felt like something was holding me back from really speaking up. At times I was outgoing and comfortable, but I felt like I had persistent butterflies.
So, how do you open up to someone of the opposite sex? Any tips as to how I can be more confident, relaxed, and myself are appreciated :) (link)
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mabye you dont feel confident, or have exellent self esteem, you might want to doll yourdelf up to boost your esteem and make you feel better about yourself, then go talk to him, it might work, also talk to him more often and mabye tell him that you like him and that it is kinda hard to talk to guys sometimes and mabye he will understand and make you feel more comfortable, its worth a shot, even if he doesnt like you like that, you said that he was a nice understanding outgoign guy and so mabye he wont get all weird. its worth a shot.
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I was to easy
and i gave a guy what he wanted.
Yeah, he pretty much used me and screwed me over.
He said he hated me for a good amount of time because everyone found out about what we did.
After a good 5 monthes, he told me he didnt hate me anymore and he was being nice to me again.
I like him alot, and i always have no matter how mean he was to me.
And I know he doesnt like me like that, but i'm pretty sure he would want to do that stuff again and the thing is, i dont want him to use me and screw me over but i really want to do that stuff again too.
We havent really talked in about a week, but im just so confused
help? please (link)
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welllll....it seems like you and i are both in the same EXACT boat here arent we? Let me guess, you call him alot, ALOT, just hoping that he will answer his phone just to hear his voice, you are basically in love with him, EVERYTHING about him. he either doesnt want a g-freind, or cant have 1 at the moment, so you decided to become freinds with benefits....or something of the sort but YOU WANT to be his g-freind....and when ever you see each other (at school or whatever) you give each other hugs or sumthing, chat 4 a sec, and then other then that you ignore each other. you cant tell anyone cause he will get pissed(like he DID find out in your case) but you still mabye told sum of your freinds anyways. You KNOW that you are just a booty call to him, but you dont want to beleive it so you ignore it. you are up all night long thinking about him, and you have even told him that you either love him or like him ALOT and he SAYS he likes you but wont tell you that he loves you back no matter what. every 1 tells you to end evetrything completely with him cause hes just using you, and YOU KNOW IT, but you just cant find the strength to do it cause you like him too much.
well the answer to BOTH of our problems is what i have been avoiding 4 a looong time, hes just an EFW (an emotional fuck with) he might seem like at times that he cares alot about you, and he might, but seriously, he PROBLY is just trying to get into your pants. it might either hurt alot to do it, and withme, I havent even done it yet, but i think im gonna try. you should too, cause he will KEEP FUCKING WITH YOU UNTILL YOU STOP IT! he will, trust me. its the ONLY way. i hope everything turns out ok 4 you, oh and sorry 4 typing so much. =) hey email me sumtime stupidcupid12@verizon.net kk?
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My dad is an alcoholic and hits my mom all the time. Can I do anything about it even though he doesnt hit me? He calls me bad names a lot though. Oh and Im 16. (link)
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i had this problem 4 years straight. what you gotta do is talk to your mom and tell her how you feel. tell her that your unhappy and you want this to stop. help her realize that whats going on is NOT healthy. this going on in your life can cause you serious mental damage, like you will always be afraid of your dad or any guy and it might also perhaps affect your marriage if you ever do get married. talk to your dad and tell him your point of veiw in the situation. tell him that you love him but you dont want him to hurt you and your mom anymore. Offer fior him to get some help. and if he doesnt stop then talk to your mom about leaving him. well i hope everything ends up alright. hey if you need more help or advice, contact me at my email, stupidcupid12@verizon.net or my mysppace URL www.myspace.com/bonkersbritishbabe12 it seems like you need a freind that can help you right now. and im always here. =)
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How can you make your boobs look bigger naturally without surgery or water bras? (link)
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ok um u can:
A. wear a push-up bra
B. wear padded bra's
C. don't sleep with a bra on.(dont know if its true or not but just to b safe)
hope i helped a little
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I am having to make a decision about whether or not I stay in my relationship with my boyfriend of just over a year. To clear my head I wrote down the good points and the bad points. Could anyone take a look at this list and tell me what they think - does the good outweigh the bad or vice versa? Are any of the 'goods' enough to keep me with him, or are any of the 'bads' indications that I have to end it? What do you think?
Thanks
GOOD
It is comfortable.
I understand him absolutely.
He understands me absolutely.
I need him in my life.
He loves me and finds me sexy.
He never looks at other girls.
I can tell him anything.
He is my best friend.
I don’t think I will ever find the connection I have with him with anyone else.
He is willing to work for our relationship.
BAD
The sex is not satisfying.
He irritates me.
I have little respect for him.
I often dislike him.
He doesn’t know how to touch me.
I am jealous of him.
I think he is arrogant.
I don’t find him sexy.
His self-importance frustrates me.
I want him to be more subtle and mature.
He thinks he is wonderful.
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hhmm well he needs to learn to satisfy your sexual needs, thats for damn sure, but if u find yourself not attracted to him, then trust me on this one, you WILL start hating him and start being nervous when hes not around in fear of him holding you, or even talking to you. and if you have very little respect for him, then that wont help your relationship any. you guys need to both be fully into each other and care about each other enough to not care about how much the bad things upset you or bother you and focus on how to work them out. and you cant work on a relationship if the other person isnt putting any effort into it. well i hope my advice helped and that everything works out. =)
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ugh i have a myspace and my friends wont stop talking about how "dangerous" it is. first of all, you choose your friends and you can decline and accept friend requests, so people you dont know cant leave you comments and stuff if you decline them. also, if you set your myspace as private no one can even see your myspace if their not your friend. so if a pedafile cant even get into your myspace then they cant have a conversation with you! and its not like i put my last name or anything, the most i put is my nickname, not even my first name!! i dont put my state or city or school, nothing like that so even if i did accept someones request that i dont know (which i wouldnt) they could find any info about me since i dont have any!! so, if your smart about it theres no way they can track you down. and my friends say that im gunna get raped or killed, but the only people that got killed over myspace are the fucktards who say "i live on_____ in the state of ____ in the city of ____ my name is bob smith. come to my house so i can meet you!!!!" seriously who would do that?! its not myspace's fault people die, its the fucking person who gives them all of that information.if you know what your doing,then nothing can happen. no one knows that myspace is safe until they try it. its this simple: if you dont know a person who sends you a friend request, just decline it. right?? i mean my friends wont stop giving me long lectures about myspace (link)
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you make an EXELLENT point, i understand where your coming from, but your freinds are just concerned about you, they do care about you and want you to be safe, but you need to tell them that you understand that they are just trying to look out for you but you are sencireley alright and that you DONT want to hear them hound on you. you might even want to try to get on my space and show them what its all about, and all the safety issues so that they listen to you. if they are freinds then they will listen to you.
i hope i helped at all. =)
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Me, always happy, always smiling..always good in school, always!! I tunred depressed. I mean I didn't really realize it until my school contacted my parents saying "she needs a therapist and probably anti-depressives" I know it sounds bad - but I used to look down on depressed people. Well, not look down on them, I felt sorry for them..because they go through stuff, but like I've been licing with my family (=HELL!) my whole life, and i still managed to be happy and have fun, so I figured "they're weak" kinda thing when they all got depressed..but now im there too. And i hate it, i hate the fact that im gonna look back ta these few years, ten years from now, and say "I hated highschool! i was miserable!" You don't understand, this has been my dream! Being a teenager i mean, i used to dream of reaching 16, having a boyfriend, lots of friends and parties..always fun, and it really looked like that was gonna happen since my whole life ive lived happily, lots of friends, lots of admirers, always good in school..and so on. SO WHAT THE HECK? This is what I've come to. I hate myself..because I know I'll walk out of this school a year from now saying "Thank G0D im out! & I'm never coming back!" And I know I wont come if there's ever a class reunion, and i completely HATE it.
Please help me, cheer me up, give me advice, do anything you can, please!
thank you so much! (link)
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well you shouldnt focus on the things that seem to bring you down and depress you, and if somehting bad happens then you should try to think positive, try to see the good in the situation, and mabye you should join a club, sport, or some kind of activity to get your mind off your depression. get involed. Do more things that YOU love to do, and you shouldnt settle for anything less than you think that you deserve, you c depression is all mental, you gotta get it out of your thought process.
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Ok, whenever me and my boyfriend try to have sex.. I panic. I have panic attacks, where I just suddenly get nervous and scared and just want to cry. And that's how it ALWAYS ends up when we're trying to have sex. I'm really into it and everything, and I want to.. he never forces me or pressures me to have sex with him, so it's not like I don't want to do it. I'm ok while we're making out, but then more physical stuff comes, and I'll be ok for a few minutes, but then I get scared, like somethings wrong, and I get nervous, and I end up crying. My boyfriend has no problem with this, I mean he worries about me, but he doesn't care to stop, or have no sex at all.. When we first started being sexually active, I was fine.. but here lately this started happening. I just don't understand that if I want to have sex and I'm into it, I'm in the mood and everything.. that I get nervous and panic, and end up crying?? I thought that maybe I'm really not ready, and should wait a while. I really don't know what to do.. (link)
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well ur in a tight stop arent you. well if you guys have had sex before, then if you try to do it again, then just talk to yourself, and try to calm yourself down. its not something to get yourself worked up about. mabye inside you feel that you are ready for sex, but mabye you really arent ready mentally. and mabye you guys are just moving too fast. i dont know how sex is exactly because im a virgin-by choice, i was raped so i do kinda know-but i do want to have sex with a guy but we can never do it cause something always gets in the way. i know i want to do it, mentally and physically, but i do kinda freeze up a little sometimes, but i can talk myself out of it. so try talking yourself till your calm or have your boyfreind talk to you and go slowly. you should soon, get over the bump, and get on the hump! jk i hope i helped.
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me and my boyfriend waited 9 months before we had sex .. now WHENEVER we hang out we do it like 5 times .. i dont want it to get old .. and i think we do it too much .. he feels differently but im not sure how to talk to him .. please help =[ (link)
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well if you dont want to have sex with him every time you c him then talk to him and explain that you dont want to have sex every waking moment with him. let him know that its bothering you, that-well if you do want to have sex with him still- you still want to have sex with him, but you would rather do other things to, like go out somewhere and have fun. and if he dosent listen to you or dosent agree with you, remember that its your FEELINGS that hes not listening to, not just what you think, ya know? and you dont deserve sum1 whos only seeing you as an "hey im with her so im gonna get laid" attitude. you deserve sum1 with an attitude that thinks about you personally and wants you 2 be happy and also-if your comfortable- be intimate with sexually. And if they reallt do care about you then they wont pressure you or make you feel uncomfortable to do things that you obviously dont want to do.
i hope i helped!
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im a twin and i feel as if my dad treats my sister differently than me .. she snuck out of the house and got caught and she didnt even get grounded while me on the other hand didnt tell my dad all the details about my friends sweet sixteen and i was grounded from my boyfriend for a week .. does anyone know what i can do? (link)
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well i myself am not a twin, but i have many freinds who are, but i d have a sister that is similar in age to me and the same thing happens with us, ill do something and get punished 4 it, then my sister will do the exact same things like a day later and she might even do somthing worse then what i did and she wont get punished what so ever. all you can do is sit down and talk to your dad and your sister about it and dont make it seem all about you like by using the words, me, I, myself, ect., if you do than include you, your, us, or we. for example, dont say to your dad, " I hate the way you treat me", try using, "can you please treat me and my sister the same?" and tell him how you feel, like how he treats you both differently in how he punishes you, and talks to you mabye, or even mention that you "feel" like hes playing favorites, and also discuss how you could try to work it out.
well i hope i helped a little.
=) i hope everythings works out.
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There's this girl I'm interested in annd I plan on taking her out on a date buut I dont know where to go! I want to take her to dinner and go do something that is interactive, which allows us to talk and get to know eachother (unlike a movie where you just sit there...).
I want to make our first date incredible and I really want to impress her. I met this girl in first grade and when we graduated into Jr. High our paths went seperate directions. we've seen eachother a few times randomly over the years but it wasnt untill this year that she transfered to my highschool that we've truly reconnected. I dont know why I care so much about impressing her, its weird because Im normally not that way.
Any and all ideas/suggestiosn would be greatly abpprecitaed!
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It depends where you live, if you live near a beach or a lake, you should take her there and do like a picnic or sumthing romantic, or go bowling, miniature golfing go to the mall, or you could take her to a little theme park, nothing big, unless you want to. you could even go to a pretty park and have a nice quiet picnic. And if she likes animals, like horses, you could, if possible, take her horse back riding. i hope i gave you some good ideas! let me no what you decide on!!
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Alrite so I'm 15/f.
Theres this boy that really likes me and I sort of like him. He has the pretiest blue eyes ever and everyone is saying that I should give him a chance.
Then thers this other boy (of cours). He's cute and does says/does sweet stuff to me IN PERSON. Only one of my best friends knows about him though. Who should I go with, boy1 or boy2? (link)
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in my opinion, boy 2 because he has ACTUALLY donr things 4 you in person, or so you claim, but has boy 1 done squat 4 you? you shouldnt base ur actions on what your freinds think, they dont know whats best 4 you, only you know whats best 4 urself. just cause a guy has "pretty" blue eyes dodent mean crap, he has to respect you, be nice to you, and at least care about you. now THATS what a good guy is about. =)
i hope i helped at all.
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My mom and dad are having some problems and I've been pretty upset about it. My mom basicaly told my dad that she doesn't like him much anymore just because of their arguments in the past. My mom, dad and I always used to go out on Satudays and do things like go out to eat, go to movies and things like that. Now, my dad and I are the only one's that do that while my mom is out with her new friend drinking at bars and things. Most of the time she even just spends the night at here friends house. I've tried talking to her but its just to akward. What in the heck should I do? Is she mabe having an affair? I don't know what to do or think. Any good advice would do me some good right now. Thanks everybody! (link)
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hey, first off, let me say that im very sorry that you're stuck in this crapy thread. I know what its like to have your parent(s) ignore you and go off and do things wrong and other stupid things. My parents are divorced and when im at my dads house, my dad pretty much either ignores me or yells at me for styupid things. and when im at my mom's, she drinks and smokes every minute. my sister yells at me every night, and since my mom's drunk all the time, she hardley even spends time with me. and on weekends she goes out drinking with her freinds, doing what? i have no freaking idea. she is also very very abusive when shes drunk so that's another problem i have to feal with. but with your mom, when she IS home, go over to her and try to spend as MUCH time with her as possible, show her that you love her and care about her and make her feel like she is needed and wanted in your life. just show her that you need to desperatly spend time with her. if she calls herself you're mother, than she will listen to you. you're her daughter, she MUST love you. and if she dosent listen to you, then theres nothing much you can do for her, and be glad that you at least have a good dad that looks out for you and is always there for you. even talk to you're dad about your mom and tell him you're conserned about her. well i hope my6 advice works, and if you decide to take it then please write me back and let me know how it all turned out. k? thank you. good luck =)
xoxoxoxox
katie
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