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Too easy
I was to easy
and i gave a guy what he wanted.
Yeah, he pretty much used me and screwed me over.
He said he hated me for a good amount of time because everyone found out about what we did.
After a good 5 monthes, he told me he didnt hate me anymore and he was being nice to me again.
I like him alot, and i always have no matter how mean he was to me.
And I know he doesnt like me like that, but i'm pretty sure he would want to do that stuff again and the thing is, i dont want him to use me and screw me over but i really want to do that stuff again too.
We havent really talked in about a week, but im just so confused
help? please
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why is he saying he hated you?it takes two.he had just as much involvement in it. if your allowing him to do that stuff again then your allowing him to use you because thats all it amounts to. thats probably the reason he was being nice to you but that stuff he did with you he can do with anyone its not the seventh wonder...so dont be that anyone...you shouldnt waste your time really liking someone who doesnt like you at all and will just use you for a play thing,when you can be spending time finding and really liking someone who really likes you and respects you.thats not a good guy and believe me im sure he wasnt quiet about what happened word gets spread.you can either choose to be someones little rag doll that gets walked on played with and then thrown in the junk pile or you can move on and eventually find someone who truly loves and respects you and handles you like porcelin.
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If you want it go get it..have you heard of the term fuck-buddy?
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This is a pretty common situation, but yet simple. It was generally your fault for giving in to him. Okay, we both understand that. Moving on. It's perfectly fine being his friend and what not, but I'm sure you wouldn't be comfortable if you gave in to him again, so, DON'T. Now, if you wanna be the way you just are, and do whatever you did with him, you shouldn't even be asking for advice.
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welllll....it seems like you and i are both in the same EXACT boat here arent we? Let me guess, you call him alot, ALOT, just hoping that he will answer his phone just to hear his voice, you are basically in love with him, EVERYTHING about him. he either doesnt want a g-freind, or cant have 1 at the moment, so you decided to become freinds with benefits....or something of the sort but YOU WANT to be his g-freind....and when ever you see each other (at school or whatever) you give each other hugs or sumthing, chat 4 a sec, and then other then that you ignore each other. you cant tell anyone cause he will get pissed(like he DID find out in your case) but you still mabye told sum of your freinds anyways. You KNOW that you are just a booty call to him, but you dont want to beleive it so you ignore it. you are up all night long thinking about him, and you have even told him that you either love him or like him ALOT and he SAYS he likes you but wont tell you that he loves you back no matter what. every 1 tells you to end evetrything completely with him cause hes just using you, and YOU KNOW IT, but you just cant find the strength to do it cause you like him too much.
well the answer to BOTH of our problems is what i have been avoiding 4 a looong time, hes just an EFW (an emotional fuck with) he might seem like at times that he cares alot about you, and he might, but seriously, he PROBLY is just trying to get into your pants. it might either hurt alot to do it, and withme, I havent even done it yet, but i think im gonna try. you should too, cause he will KEEP FUCKING WITH YOU UNTILL YOU STOP IT! he will, trust me. its the ONLY way. i hope everything turns out ok 4 you, oh and sorry 4 typing so much. =) hey email me sumtime stupidcupid12@verizon.net kk?
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I'm sorry but this is going to be a harsh advice.
I usually believe in giving people second chances but in this case, you shouldn't. He used you and you were just a sex toy to him. Now that he got rid of you and don't have you to screw, he wants you back.
This is going to happen again and he's just going to use you like a sex toy and when he gets what he wants, he's going to ditch you again.
He has no right to treat you like that and then take you back and manipulate your feeligns just like that. So sure, be friends. But nothing more.
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I believe in second chances, but when it comes to respecting you for sexual "favors", you should NOT give this guy another chance. Even if he is being nice to you again, how do you know this guy isn't back for seconds? I know you like him & I know you would like to do that stuff again, but have some respect for yourself. Most girls have been in your shoes; a position where they wanted to be liked & wanted to experience those kinds of things...with guys who don't have any respect for them. If you can't trust the guy, why would you want to have any sexual relations with him? The truth is, you need to get out, meet a wonderful guy; a guy who respects you as a person & doesn't use. A guy you care about & can trust. Once you do find this guy, you'll practically mature over night, have new standards & will never have any desire to look at someone who screws you over like that again. Trust me, I've been in your position. I've been a little desperate to jump into things & liked a guy who was extremely mean to me. But all it takes is some time & some maturing & you'll realize that those are not the guys you want to get involved with. I really do hope you make the right decision. If not, you're only lowering yourself to him & a losing any respect you have for yourself.
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