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me and my boyfriend waited 9 months before we had sex .. now WHENEVER we hang out we do it like 5 times .. i dont want it to get old .. and i think we do it too much .. he feels differently but im not sure how to talk to him .. please help =[
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All depends. How often do you hang out? Everyday? Once a week?
Do BOTH of you want sex that often? If only one of you wants it that often, then there could be a problem that you really should talk about.
Maybe you don't have enough other interesting things going on. Can you find other things you really want to do in addition to sex? Try some new things, like hobbies, working out, going out with your buds, finding some people who need your help and then helping them, getting involved in extracurricular activities at school, volunteering for something at school or in your community. Set some worthwhile goals for yourself and have your boyfriend do the same, and then achieve them.
As you get older and in college and stuff, you might find that there is just not enough time to get all the really important stuff done and also have sex several times a day. Just a thought, but it might seem pretty lame right now.
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it's just a new phase..enjoy it..
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dont worry i understand what you mean about haveing too much sex it can get in the way.. you just wanna go back to the way things were before the sex rite?? because you think that it will bring everything else back ?? well i think that you shouldnt go completely without sex but i think that you shoulde explain to him how you feel and just slow down on the sex and not have as much.. like not 5 times everytime you see him but maybe once each time you see him or even once a week.. i htink hell understand if he loves you
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Im sure if you just talk to him about it you guys can limit the amount of sex you have and still have a good time together. im sure he will understand. Hope i helped!
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thats alot of sex in one day there are other things you can do like foreplay talk to him and sugest the foreplay intead of sex al the time or you could try differnt being derein by howing sex in differnt places were you mite get court its a turn on for alot of people or just try differnt posishons good luck sorry if me spelling is crap
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Woahh.I think you just need to tell him you don't want it to get old & you guys just do it to much..just be open its not easy but that's the only thing you can do.♥
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I think you should tell him that you would like to slow down. If he gets mad and he really loves you then he will get over it. or you could make up excuses and tell him that you don't feel so well. Then he will think that maybe you are pregnant and he will get scared and take things more slowly.
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tell him exactly what you asked in this question. if he doesn't understand; make him. if he gets mad at you; dump him. if he's ok with it; problem solved.
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well if you dont want to have sex with him every time you c him then talk to him and explain that you dont want to have sex every waking moment with him. let him know that its bothering you, that-well if you do want to have sex with him still- you still want to have sex with him, but you would rather do other things to, like go out somewhere and have fun. and if he dosent listen to you or dosent agree with you, remember that its your FEELINGS that hes not listening to, not just what you think, ya know? and you dont deserve sum1 whos only seeing you as an "hey im with her so im gonna get laid" attitude. you deserve sum1 with an attitude that thinks about you personally and wants you 2 be happy and also-if your comfortable- be intimate with sexually. And if they reallt do care about you then they wont pressure you or make you feel uncomfortable to do things that you obviously dont want to do.
i hope i helped!
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Just explain to him when you guys are hanging out that you don't want your relationship to be based on sex. You want to do something else. Have him come over or something and just talk to him. The best way is to just get out and off your chest so that you are relieved. If you don't it will eat you up inside. A good idea is to get out more so that you guys can hang out more and don't have to rely on having sex so much.
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Talking typically consists of opening your mouth and making noise.
The words part comes much later in life.
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You just need to be straight out honest with him. You guys have been dating for 9 months now, so you should be able to talk him about anything and he should understand you and respect your decisions. The next time you two are hanging out, just sit down with him and be like,"You know I love you and everything, but I think we shouldn't have as much sex as we've been having lately. I think we're doing it way too much, and it seems to be all we ever do whenever we hang out anymore. I just don't want it to get old, you know?" And just talk to him about it. And like I said, he should understand where you're coming from and respect your decision. If he can wait 9 months to have sex with you, he can wait every now and then too.
I hope I helped.
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