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Cheating and Betrayal...Is it worth believing?
Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and things have been great recently. We have been through alot but we have stayed together through it all and are doing amazing. He goes to another school than I do. At his school he can go out to lunch. Well there are these rumors going around at his school that he has cheated on me twice, with two different girls. Both days he supposedly cheated on me was on a Tuesday. Every Tuesday his parents are never home because they go to bowling tournaments that day. He also doesn't have a car, but on Tuesdays his parents let him drive their truck. So he always drives to lunch those days. Well one of his friends said that he had heard that my boyfriend had had sex with these two girls at seperate times. And what makes it more ironic is that my boyfriend's friend dated both of these girls before. Now his friend won't tell me who told him and everytime I ask my boyfriend he denies it of course and said he will get the number to each of the girls if he had to so I could actually talk to them and find it out for myself. Now I don't like to jump to conclusions so I try to manipulate a situation to see if I can make a liar tell the truth. Today I told my boyfriend that I had gone to the store and bumped into one of these girls. And that she had told me that it was true and that they had sex. Of course I lied and made that story up. I said it to get a rise out of him so maybe he would be honest and cough up the truth. But he didn't and actually said he was going to go to his school and have a talk with the girl and ask her why she would say a thing like that. So I am in a difficult situation. I don't have much prove except for substantial evidence, since he actually could have cheated on me those days, but that doesn't mean he actually did. I just need help on calming my worst fears and how to handle this. I don't want to believe his friend, because his friend has been trying to date me ever since me and my boyfriend first got together. So he might not be the best source to believe. Should I push the subject or give my boyfriend the benefit of the doubt?
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i think you should talk to this girls as soon as possible, if i where him, and i where been accused of cheating , i'd give you the girl's number inmediatly to get over this whole thing, but he hasn't has he??
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hey, the first thing that you need to do is to stop making up lies. you will get caught if he asks that girl and then you will lie to get out of that lie. basically what im saying is that youll just end up in one big web of lies if you dont stop. i wouldnt beleive his friend if hes been trying to get with you since day one. you have to have a talk with your guy. tell him that you will be less mad if he just comes clean with the complete and honest truth. if he is still denying it then maybe he didnt do it. you have no actual witnesses or proof that he cheated. you have to decide if you trust him or not.
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(it is really funny how common this is to me.. LITERALLY the exact same thing happened to me!! IM me HElENJAMiNANA X3 and we can talk more maybe i can help!!
i have been in almost the exact situation .. same thing except that whole tuesday night thing and 2 seperate girls so i kind of understand better how your feeling. it is kind of sketchy that it supposedly happened on the one night hes alone and the one day a week he has the car. but the one who is telling you wants you to dump your bf so hes not exactly reliable. manipulating the situation is looking for trouble because ive done it many times and because i did i had to play the "why would you believe her over me" card which is not a good thing to use alot =] .. you love him and he loves you or you wouldnt be together after 2 years. heres what you need to tell him though say that whether or not its true if theres another situation like this then its over because you dont deserve to have to feel like this and have to hear that stuff =]
i hope i helped keep me posted
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Well, it all comes down to this simple question only you can answer for yourself. Do you trust him or do you not?
In order to have a healthy relationship with anyone, you have to have trust and honesty.
How do you know his friend isn't lying to you? Is this friend really a reliable source of information?
And now, you have gotten yourself into a bit of a pickle. You lied to him right through your teeth. He will find this out from the girl you lied about, and I promise you he will not be very happy with you.
Out of your mistrust of him, you broke his trust in you. If he asks if you lied, your best bet is to come clean about it. You don't want to be as dishonest with him as you assume he is being with you. Why should you ever subject yourself into sinking to such levels? Be the better person.
Should you push the subject? No, I wouldn't. What good will it do? It hasn't done any good so far.
However, that doesn't necessarily mean I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt, either.
I think you need to sit down and really think hard on that question I told you to ask yourself.
If you trust him, give him the benefit. If you don't trust him, is it worth your heart in the long run?
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