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HE BROKE UP WITH ME? NOW WE'RE TOGETHER AGAIN.
So I`m dating a great guy named Mike.
Yesterday we got into an argument & we started questioning our relationship. After we were done fighting, I thought it was all over & done with..
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He called me tonight, and he said that he wasn`t personally ready for a relationship. Even though we`ve been together six months. :/
He broke up with me & I started hysterically CRYING. I couldn`t help myself, I just felt so sad that he would do something so random. Then like half an hour later he said, "Why would I do this to such a wonderful girl? I`m sorry for putting you in this position!" Then I asked him what we were, and he said we were back together.
Now, I`m totally confused.
Do you think he actually wants to be with me, or do you think it`s because he just doesn`t want me to be sad? :[ Please help. Thanks in advance.
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hey, well there must have been a reason to why he wanted to end your relationship. before you guys stay in a relationship you should have a serious talk. ask him why he wanted to break it off. tell him you want a true and honest answer because you dont want to get hurt. to me breaking up with you and then calling back an hour later to go back out with you is a big no-no in my book. i wouldnt let a guy do that to me without talking to him first. you need to get the facts straight on this guy and see if he really wants a relationship wiht you and made a mistake by breaking it off or if he just a guy that wants to play with your heart. good luck =].
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he wouldnt be with you if he didnt want to be. he probably made a mistake and after thinking he realized how big of a mistake it was and how he was going to lose such a wonderful girl. give him another chance but let him know that you arent always gonna be around to take him back if he decides to pull another stunt like this
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Until you two can have a serious talk about this, your relationship is on borrowed time.
There was some reason why he wanted to break it off. Maybe he was frightened of the level of commitment. Maybe he hasn't gone out with very many girls, and didn't want to continue a long-term relationship that was exclusive. Maybe he needed validation, to the effect that you really WANTED him. It may simply have been that you had a major argument; for those inexperienced in adult relationships, that can seem like an inevitable end.
Whatever the reason he suggested the break-up, the reason he gave for the two of you to get back together was to spare your feelings. He mentions nothing of his own feelings. Perhaps he still has them, but it's very likely that he is continuing this relationship for the sole reason of sparing you heartbreak. If that is the case, then you're doomed, because his heart just isn't in it anymore and eventually he will be unable to live the lie.
Of course, it is also possible that he THOUGHT he wanted to break it off, but then discovered that his feelings for you were deeper than he realized. I speak from personal experience here; there was a time when I almost broke it off with my girlfriend, but something made me decide to give it another try. We will celebrate our 10th anniversary as a loving husband and wife this year.
In other words, it's impossible for any of us to answer your question. Only he can answer it, and whatever that answer is, you will need to be prepared to handle it without breaking down, or he might find himself unable to give you a harsh truth. Then you'll be back on borrowed time.
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You shouldnt worry hun because he could have genuninly felt bad for breaking up with you. He could have got all confused and then regreted it later. If you are still worrid about whether he does want to be with you becuase he likes you, try and talk to him about it. He is your boy friend and he is there to talk to. Also after talking to him and your still worrid it may become obvious in time. But dont worry yourself becuase he was sorry and cared for u enough to apologise and carry on goin out with you soo Smile.
hope it helps hun xox Porsche
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maybe he did regret braking up...maybe he cares about you soo much and even he doensn't want a relationship he doesn't want you to suffer ..think it over and by his actions you'll know if he really wants to be in a rlationship..but i'd think you should just wait what happend with his thing about not being ready, maybe he got confussed and took that drastical desicion...you'll feel if he still cares and wants to be with you not only for you not to feel bad =)
Diane (please rate =P)
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