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Changing
i'm 14/f
LAtely i've been thinking about my life and things i think i want to become or do for myself. The thing is i've been getting really scared because the person i wanna be is the exact kind of person my friends don't like. I want to move on in my life, but i don't wanna loose somthing really special. I love my friends but the more i spen time with them the more i realize we have pretty much nothing in commen and it seems i don't fit in, and somtimes it really seems like they see it. So what do I do ? Do i stay with them pretending to be somthin im don't want to anymore or do i change and risk loosing my friends?
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i know how you feel babe. i did it. it was hard man, a lot of tears from my friends that i left and stuff, but i look at it now and i realize me and my old friends are happier now that we aren't friends because i am finally the real me and they are the real them. we aren't trying to just make eachother happy. think of it like this, if/when you lose your friends, your able to expand your horizons. you can be friends with whoever the you want now! but if you don't wanna then don't i mean its up to you. in my opinion i think you'd be happier if you would finally be yourself
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hey, dont ever be soemthing that your not. if your friends are your real friends they will love you whether you dress like a fashionista or punk. if they cant accept you for who you are then there not your true friends. if you want to meet people join a club and then youll already have the same interests as them and then from there being friends with them should be easy =].
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The one thing you don't want to do is be something or someone that you're not. You will be setting yourself up for a lifetime of misery if you make that choice. I've known people who have made that very choice and as they got older they couldn't ascertain simple things like what they like or don't like. Then the simplest things make them angry. They can't seem to find happiness in anything and want to make those around them as miserable as them. You don't want to end up in a life like that.
It is always best to be who it is that makes you resonate in the world. When you choose to follow your true instincts then you will accomplish far beyond what you ever thought possible. If you should choose to be who you're not, you will flounder and find your achievements are less than what your true potential is.
You may be selling your friends short here. Talk to them and let them know how you feel and what it is that you wish to accomplish. Coming from you, their friend, you may change their opinions about this matter. I know I have changed my opinion about a lot of things simply because someone who was close to me decided to be or do something I never thought was appropriate, right, or cool. Don't let other's opinions rule who you are.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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if you want change, then change!
i'm sure with that change will come more frieds.
and besides, if your friends really liked you.. they would deal with the change.
and if they ditch you because you change, they're not your real friends.
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if they are your real friends they will deal with the change. if they dont you know they aren't real friends
HOPED I HELPED
♥ Flaggal
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How can they be your friends?They cannot be your friends if
-you dont fit in
-you have nothing in common
- they dont like the real you
Why spend the rest of your life being something your not , trying to please people who dont even like you?
Why fall behind in life?
Be free like a butterfly!Here is my advice...
1)Be your true self
2) If they dont like it, tough.Deal with it.
3)Tell them this is the real you, and if they dont like it , you;re gonna find people who respect you and like you for who YOU REALLY are.
You wont be losing them because really, you didnt have them to begin with.They dislike people who are "you" and they make you feel as if you dont fit in and you have nothing in common.
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If you friends don`t like who you truly are, they just aren`t friends - it`s as simple as that. Change & see what happens. They may surprise you. But, honestly if you change and they hate you because of that. They aren`t worth anything, and they shouldn`t mean anything in your book. =]
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