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Hey im Porsche and im 16! finally! I am a christian with strong beliefs and i am proud of it! I live in England and love to advise people and be able to help them. I do it alot with my friends and they have wacky problems sooo ive probably heard about quite alot! My friends think my advise is good and i hope you do to! I can only really give advise on relationships and mental health becuase thats what i studied soo anything else i will suck at haha! If you need help or advise dont be affriad to ask send me an email! God Bless!
xox Porsche

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okay so yesturday i asked if anyone though i was pregnant i got back mostly no but anyhow so the other day i had sex with my boyfriend and i started bleeding and then i woke up at 5am and throw up this happend friday morning now today saturday came around and i started bleeding again? BUt im not do for my period for another 15days whats going on?

Hey i think theys is a very slim chance you could be pregnant but it sounds like you could have damaged some tissue or got an infection but im noo doctor but i advise you goo see you as soon as possible.
Everyhting will be ok!
xox Porsche

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http://hs.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=286174&id=501790220&op=1&view=all&subj=2204961060&aid=-1&oid=2204961060
what is on her stomach??

shes got some sort of belly ring or fake flower and tape taped around her belly :S
xox Porsche

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i like my best guy friend. but.. i try not to like him because i know who he likes for once, he's my bestfriend[cant ruin that],he doesnt see me in that way, and he goes to me with his problems. i like him lots because he's soo sweet and nice. i need help.

hey
you cant deny true feelings, ive tried and its horrible. But youve got to decide. You should try and think what it would be like with him. Would he treat you the same and come to you with his problems. You could try flirting and seeing what his reaction is and decide then whether it is apropriate to like him or if you would rather saty friends. its really up to you but hes your best friend and would you want to ruin it or would you want to keep what youve got because it sounds awesome. Try and look for other guys to have your eye on. I know it might be hard to start with but it will pay off.
i hope ive helped
xox Porsche

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okay i really need advice. i'm desperate.

i have this friend since i've known for almost 4 years, and we were extremely close last year and people said we were unseperable. this year were still friends but were just not as close and i miss it because last year she was always there for me when i was really sad and she always made me feel better.

this year i'll see her in school (i usually hang out with her in a group) and A. she'll completely ignore me. or B. she'll be like "i really not interested in what you have to say" but when it's just me and her with no one around she'll talk to me really nice and stuff. but im really getting sick of her acting like this but i just don't know what to do because last year she was always there for me and she made me feel soo good and she made me feel like i was loved she was like the sister i never had and i dont want to just ditch her but ughh i just don't know what should i do? thank you soo much

heyyy
its really hard too loose such an awesome friend like this trust me i know! i really dont wana say this but it sounds like shes using you because when shes around others she doesnt talk 2 you but when your alone you get on great. Best friends are supposed to be there for you whenever not just when they want to be! im sorry hun but i think the best thing to do would be to try and find another best friend because people change and she sounds like she has. Try not to spend as mcuh time with her and make new friends and i know it might be hard but its horrible the way shes treating you. You deserve better than that everyone does. Honest hun its for the best but its really up to you. Or you could talk 2 her about the way you feel and if she is really your freind shell change the way she is with you and if she doesnt your better off without her. Try and talk!
i Hope ive helped
xox Porsche

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Ok, Well About 2 Months Ago I Started Cutting Myself(Dont Wory I Stoped 4 Good) And I Told My Friend, And Then The Next Day She Comes To School And Shes All Like Look I Cut Myself Too. We All Know Shes Doing It 4 Attention But We Cant Get Her To Stop, And She Dose It Non Stop And Rillie Badly,She Always Tells Us Shes Gonna Stop But She Never Dose And She Keeps On Doing It, And Its All Up Her Arms. And To Top This Of She Has And Eating Disorder, I Dont Know What To Do. She Went To The Docter About The Eating Disorder , But She Wont Tell her Dad. I Dont Know What To Do Cuz Its Getting Rillie Bad =[

Hey!
well i did that for a couple of months and i could never understand the amount of pressure i was putting on my friends. But i understnad now how horrible it is for a friend of someone doing this becasue they care about you soo much. Your friend obviously has a problem now becuase she cant stop. after a couple of weeks for me i just began to do it out of habbit! i could have been the happiest bunny ever but i would still cut something on me! it was addictive. This could be exactly what your friend is going through because she started for attnetoin but now its out of habbit and she possibly just couldnt stop. youve got to talk 2 her about it and talk 2 her about how upsetting it is for you because your her friend and hate to see her like this. Also one way to help her stop is to tell her Dad or convince her to do it! i know if you tell him for her she will not be happy at first but in the end she will thank you for it! it sounds like your friend has some problems/issues she might not be telling you about because she also has an eating disorder. Not Good. Try talkin 2 her about all her problems. really let her get it all out. A problem shared is a problem halved. ALso your a fantastic friend to her becuase you really care about her. If its an addicitive thing tell her that everytime she cuts her self shes causing soo much more damage than she realises. I stopped over a year ago and well my scares are still with me today and everytime i see them i think what on earth did i do that for. it really pains me and sometimes i cry about it! soo just tell her that it may feel good now but when she finally realsies what shes doing later in life shell really hate it. Also try and get her mind onto somehting else like chocolate! Everytime she feels like cutting herself get her to eat chocolate. Or to do something she enjoys like one of her hobbies! i played hockey when i felt like cutting myself and i really helped. Shes lucky to have you as a friend you really care.
Sorry its sooo long XD
xox Porsche
Hope it goes ok hun!!

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I really fancy this guy (lets call him J) in the year above me and I know he knows who I am and I've hung around with J and his friends, although never directly talked to him and I'm not sure whether he's interested in me or not.
Recently I went to this youth club and didn't know J would be there, but he was. When I sat down I was talking to this other guy (D) and then when I looked round as we had stopped talking me and J somehow managed to lock eyes and then we both quickly looked away. Then later, J came up to me and jokily warned me that D fancied me, I just laughed because he had made a joke like 'watch out, its dark!' but I didn't say anything back.
For the rest of the evening J sort of hung around with me and 2 of my mates, one of them who is like his best mate. He never said anything specifically to me though. When he and his best mate left I said bye to them and they both said bye back.

The next day me and my friend were on the train and so was J, when he saw us he went, 'Wow, its the girls from yesterday!' and I noticed that although he was talking to one of his girl mates, he kept looking back at me, but we never made eye contact.

And at school once he just stared at me for ages but he wasn't making eye contact so I couldn't be sure whether he was looking at me or someone behind me.

Then yesterday I went to the youth club again, he didn't really hang around with us for the first hour but I noticed him watching me when one of the guys got me up to do strange dancing (I felt like a total prat) and when another guy I'd never seen before came up to me, told me he loved me and then stood there hugging me for about five minutes, J smiled and made eye contact with me in a way that said 'He's crazy isn't he?' and I said, 'Riiight' (signalling that hug guy was strange) and smiled back at J. Then later we were sitting down and J sat near and when someone asked if we all (people in the area we were in) hung out together, he looked at me and then said 'yeah' (which is strange cos I don't hang out with him) and later on we made this eye contact and it was like no one else was there and it was just me and him, like we had this secret understaning, I looked down after a while. It was weird, but good.

I saw him today and it seemed that whenever someone talked to me he sort of looked at me in interest. But his eyes are really hard to read, when he's not making eye contact I don't know whther his eyes are just glazed over and he's just looking in my direction.

He seems to be not the type of person to approach someone he doesn't know very well and I'm the same, so I can see that it's going to be hard to get chatting to him.

Sorry if it was long, but do you think he likes me?


Hey
it sounds that he is a really shy guy and well it sounds like he could like you! espesially from all the eye contact! i think if you really like this guy then if hes not likely to come over to you and talk then you should go over and talk to him. If you make the first move then he will feel less uncomfortable and this youth club sounds the perfect place to begin to talk to him. You could wait and see how it goes if you begin to hang out more because if he likes you then it will become really obvious in time. Or you could tell one of your friends who is good friends with J also soo and they could find out for you and then you could ask him about it, if you feel brave enough!!
i hope i helped! XD
xox Porsche

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so basically me and my ex broke up about 4 weeks ago i think ha. Well i have not spoken with him in about 2weeks. We had a fight and i told him i was over him and he said he just wanted to get in my pants. We havent talked since because being friends with him was always a competition. He still is calling my friend for i duno what reason it is getting really old. Now he called me the other night on a withheld number, normally i do not pick up but i forgot about him. He started pressing a bunch of buttons and what have you, then i hang up and he calls back and makes up some stupid prank phone call line. I told him to grow up. Then he didnt call. This is an 18 year old here. I am trying to get over him i even found a new love interest, but it is so hard, he was my first love and i had sex with him. Now it makes it even harder that he keeps calling me and being extremely immature. As of now ive been ignoring it, Should i confront him about his actions? But, im afraid if i do that he will think i want him again. Should i just keep ignoring it? Why do you think he is acting like this? I mean he is back with the girl he dated before me. HELP.

heya! If you try and ignore it then he should get bored and give up but if a week or two and it continues then you could confront and if he says anything about getting back together then just tell him clearly how you feel and that you really do not want to get back with him. He cant get back with you if you dont want to its impossible! Youve done well to move on and he is probably acting so imature because he hasnt moved on himself. he shoud move on soon and if you ignore it he will probably help him move on faster and this may cause the prank calls to stop!
I really hope this helps
xox Porsche xox

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Well i lately have been falling for one of my good friends. Part of me is not sure if i should be because i love the relationship we have as friends. The other half of me wants to, who knows maybe its just my hormones. But i know he is interested bcause he told my one friend mike(im friends with mostly guys)
he was going to hook up with me but this one kid kept getting in the way. I duno i really i am interested, i dont think this will ruin our friendship, but its just different i guess. I am debating if i should just go for it and tell him how i feel if he hasnt already got all the hints ive been passing. Should i just go for it and tell him how i feel?

Hey if you really think its something you want to do and you do have feelings for him then it is the best thing to do! Just tell him how you feel and because you are good friends already then it may be easier for you. Also if it doesnt work then just say to him that you stil really want to be good friends and would hate for you to lose what youve got! Not that you should need to tell him that becasue i have got every faith that you two will be fabulous together.
I really hope this helps and just go for it hun!
xox Porsche

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In books you always read about a girl leaving
everything behind to stand strong and alone by
herself. (Anna does it in the A-List series by
throwing her phone away when Ben calls, I noticed
it in several Sarah Dessen books as well) I
recently left my best friend and my boyfriend
in a horrible situation, I wanted to see if I
could stand on my own two feet. Now, in the
books they never show how the girl moves on and
stands strong on her own. I feel so empty and
alone without my comfort people around me.
How do I go on and let the world see I can be
strong and I can live on my own two feet?
This is really important to me, but its really
hard as well.

Your rele brave! one thing youve gota understnd is that it will be rle hard becasue books are books and make it look easy! but if you want to do this and i think its a good idea then you cant let the world see you cry and you gota stop listening to anyone elses opinion cos yours is the only one that matters! What you think is right wil be right for you! Good Luck and you can do it
xox Porsche

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i really really like this guy, we broke up a few months ago and we've been hanging out occasionally recently because his best friend is dating my best friend. my friends say that when we hang out there is alot of a sexual tension between us. the first time we hung out after our break up was 2 weeks ago and we made out a lottttt. He's kind of a man whore and has realized it recently and says it's a bad thing. He's been acting differently lately and not flirting as much, what does this mean? should i start talking to him more? we're still friends and we still kinda flirt but idk what to do. HELP.

it wont mean anything bad its just hes realised hes a bit of a whore and wants to change cos he knows it nt gd! bt i think you should talk 2 him about how you feel cos you nevr no he probs feels the same way for you! but you will never know if you dont talk!
Good Luck xox Porsche

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okay so my bestfriend got this bf who she has been dating for awhile now and im really happy for her. But i just feel like she is always with him. she sees him every weekend bc he doesnt got to our school. she will ask if i wanna hangout with her but i dont want to bc her bf is there and it would feel weird help plzz

heya i had a similar prob but i think if you talk to her and say u would lik 2 spent some time with her on a weekend and explain that you dont want to dirft apart from each other then things should hopefully change for you. They did for me. Or you could hang out of a weekday night! bcos there is 5 of them and onli 2 weekend days! Tis just an idea! also just say that you dont want to be a goosburry and it makes you feel uncomfortable and since shes your best friend she would totally understnd!! i rle hope this helps xox Porsche

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okay i have a best friend name jackie, i've been friends with her since freshman, is an amazing friend to me. Well i found out that couple of days ago that she was going out with a freshman on our bus which i kinda knew that was going to happen anyways becasue they have been talking to each other alot and wirting notes and stuff. Well i don't feel werid about or anything iam just happy that jackie is happy whose she is with, well like whenever we want to hang out she doesn't usually hang out with me anymore as much as we used to or writing notes in school, well i asked her if i was still her best firend and all she siad yeah i love you as my best friend, but i have a feeling that she is going to talk crap about me her "girlfriend" because yesterday she was being mean to my sister, i don't remember what she siad, but like sometimes she is hanging out with her "girlfriend" she inviting her other friends, not me, that makes me not a friend to her, like did i do something worng, and she thinks that i give her dirty looks at her when she is around her girlfriend, which i kind of do, iam just jelous thats all, its that i don't know iam just confuseddd...someone help me here please.



thankss.

Heya! just an idea!! have you told her that you miss her and want to spend more time with her? I think that the earlier you tell her the happier you wil be! ofcorse she is going to spent alot of time with hte person she is with but you are evidently her best friend and there is soo nothing wrong with being jelous because you miss her! my best friend did the same to me! i missed her soo much that i told her and now i see her alot more! and i am so happy i did! i think you should to! If you just explain the dirty looks are just because you miss her and that you want to be her best friend still then she should understnd fully!! i rele hope this helps you!
xox Porsche

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were britney and justin married?

no they were just together for a while.

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okay so my best friend [ashley] and this other girl from her school [that i know] got in a "fight" & now they telling me to talk to the other person with their words. i always have to be this kind of person with ashley. im always stuck in the middle of these kind of situations with her. and sometimes i agree with the opposite person. but i dont want to make her feel that *I* dont want to be her friend.
omg
HELP
should i tell whats the truth even though it might mess up our four years of being best friends and should i try to stay out of the situation even though it might give the impression that i dont want to help?

Hey if she has been your best friend for the last 4 years then you will have created that relationship where you can tell her anything thats on your mind. You could tell her that you really feel uncomfortable being stuck in the middle in her fights and that you dislike it alot. and with therbeing your best friend she should take your feelings in concideration and stop making you do these things. You should tell her because she is your best friend and im sure shed hate to hear that she has been making you feel uncomfortable! She may not have realised! I rle hope this has helped.
xox Porsche

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how do you lose a crush? im a 13 year old girl and i cant stop liking some guy! well, hes cute and nice and all, and sometimes i remind myself of their flaws if they really have any, but it doesnt help. infact, ive never really stopped liking my crushes.. when i was younger, from like first grade to 3rd, crushes were basically meaningless. then from 4th grade on, like my main crush in 4th, 5th, and 6th, if i saw them, i'd still kinda have a crush on them.. and now i like 2 guys, but i dunno who i like better, either............... gosh middle school is hard. and like whenever i hear love songs and stuff i always think of the guys i like! lol

my friend kinda has the same problem. well for her, she thinks of this guy ALL THE TIME. and she cant get him outta her head. i dunno what advice to give her.. i mean, clearly he doesnt like her back, ever since the beginning, and i didnt tell her so it wouldnt be mean, but i kinda nudged at it, by like saying that she should focus on other things and not worry so much over him and such. and she overreacts over every little thing.. like he even asked her out on AIM and she was all jittery and excited.. when hes probably just joking, cause a guy's done that to me too, but it was a joke. but i guess i kinda see why she does that, but what can i do to help her move on? its hard.. shes liked him for like almost 2 years now, and she doesnt have alot of self confidence, and she thinks hes like amazing cause hes funny, nice, popular, and plays football. she doesnt even try to get him to notice her. like she keeps stalking him on myspace! seriously! she saves his pics, and even got his phone # without the guy knowing. but she wont call him, either, or post on his myspace. in my opinion, if she wont even try, then she probably doesnt want it bad enough. so like.. yea.

Heya well for you just lik people and you cant help who u like n if you have liked them for a long time then you will still have feelings for them a while after. You should try and focus on how goreous they are and try and not notice the flaws in the guys you like. Everytime you think of a flaw think of a possitive and then think of how happy ull probs be if you were together!! i find it helps alot!!
As for you friend you should try and persuade her to make him notice her, like leave him a message on myspace. Try and get her to understand that if she doesnt do anything then it will not ever happen. If she refuses then try and attract her attention to other guys who she is closer to. A guy is only amazing if your close to him and he is al of them things and is amazing in your eyes! Try and convince her to either move on or find another guy cos there is plenty of them out there!! I hope this helps. If you need anything else that ive not answerd or helped with just ask!! Good luck! xox Porsche

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there's this guy who lives like right near me. And i knew from the first moment that he liked me. lets call him 'L'. I dont like him that way..i really like another guy who happens to be his friend too but he doesnt live near me. I'll call him 'J'. Anyway a girlfriend of mine confided in me that she likes 'L'. i thought that was fine because i dont even like him and ive known it for ages. anyways last night i think i led him on too much and didnt mean to and we ended up kissing and now we're going out. I feel so bad...i dont even really like him, he's like my best friend and he's great but i dont think im doing the right thing by myself, my best girlfriend, 'L', or 'J' for that matter. omg, what am i doing? please help me i dont want to hurt anyone.

Heya i think the best thing you could consider doing is stop going out with 'L' because you are certain that you dont like him in that way then when he finds out he will be heart broken. If you say something now then its going to be easier on you. Just tell him that you preferd it when you were just friends and you want to stay just friends and that it would be fairer on both of you. Also going out with L may upset your best girlfriend and if you didnt mean it she will probably get over it. I think youve got to do something hun! But i hope everything works out ok 4 u!!
xox Porsche

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Okay well I gained weight. I want to loose like 20 pounds. I feel horrible abut the way I look and how clothes fit on me. I love clothes but I hate the way they look on me. I've been eating better. Also, I'm starting to do 100 crunches a night, increasing by 50 each day. At this rate, how much weight will I loose in like 1-2 monthes? Any other simple workout techniques/tips? I'm really stressed and desperate!

You shouldnt be stressed and depressed you should be happy and proud! I am unhappy with my weigth too and i wish i had the will power to do something about it and stick at it like you have! You should try saying to yourself infrount of a mirror that you look lovely and gorgeous! And by doing this you will have a differnt perseption on how you look and then you will believe that you do look lovely! By telling yourself you are fat then you will have a very negative perseption on how you look! Ask a family member how you look and they will tell you you look wonderful and this could also help you feel better within yourself! Workout techniques/tips well just keep doing what you are doing and try doing different excercises to make it more interesting for you! i also look up to how you have such a possitive attitude to what you are doing! Good luck with and i hope i have helped!
xox Porsche

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okay, well. i started a new school back in like, September. and I still dont' have many friends. I have a group of people i talk too and stuff, but i kind of want to make friends with other people too. I'm normally really shy and hate to start conversations. and i'm always afraid of messing up or embarrasing myself.
any tips on how not be shy?

I am really rather shy but what i find with people i dont know i think that "people love to talk about themselves and everyone has a story to tell" soo to start off with i usually find myself listening to them and asking alot of questions and this is how i get to feel more comfortable aroung them and then i find its easier to talk about myself and then if you continue to listen then it should be less nerving about feeling like you may mess up! And everyone messes up and if you say something wrong then just pass it off as a joke! it usually works and its helps with your self confidence i find!!
I really hope this helps and good luck with the friend making!!
xox Porsche

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okayy. i need help on flirting. i like to talk to this one guy online, and i want this boy soooooo bad. he's really shy though, but if i talked to him, i think it would go pretty good.. but the thing is, i'm shy too. so how do i get the guts to go up to him and talk to him???

You could try telling your self if you want this then you gota work at it! And also what is the worst that can happen! What are the chances that it will fly back in your face! they are very little. Just say to yourself no pain no gain! then find something you both find interesting like something you talk about online and it should feel less nerving for you. But it isnt easy and you will get used to it the more often you try it! But dont not do it or ull regret it! Go for it !!
Hope it helps xox Porsche

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i thought this guy liked me, actually, i was pretty positive he did. & then today, he wasn't as friendly as he usually is with me. which made me like tottaly sad. i was practically positive he liked me, everyone told me it sounded like it. idno, maybe i just got my hopes too high? i dont know..anyways, what do you think was up with that? i mean i didnt talk to himn alot today, but he was kinda mean on the phone, even though he was kidding. anyways, what should i do?

He could have been less friendly because he could have just had a bad day! And he wouldnt mean to but if hes not in the mood then he wouldnt be as friendly and flirtatious as usuall! See what he is like tomorow becuase it could have been that it was just not his day! it twill b ok!!
xox Porsche

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