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stuck in the middle
okay so my best friend [ashley] and this other girl from her school [that i know] got in a "fight" & now they telling me to talk to the other person with their words. i always have to be this kind of person with ashley. im always stuck in the middle of these kind of situations with her. and sometimes i agree with the opposite person. but i dont want to make her feel that *I* dont want to be her friend.
omg
HELP
should i tell whats the truth even though it might mess up our four years of being best friends and should i try to stay out of the situation even though it might give the impression that i dont want to help?
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what i do is stay neutral as best i can. listen to each girl's side, but don't do the dirty work for them. encourage peace....but if you like both girls as friends, and don't want to lose either of them, politely and nicely tell them both that you don't want to be on either side, and that they can talk to you, but you won't say stuff to one girl for the other.
it may not help resolve the issue, but it should keep you out from between them. try and spend equal time with each friend, so that doesn't make the other think you are on the other's side.
well, hope i helped!
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This has happened to me before too. Don't feel like you have to get involved with it. It's not your fight, it's not your responsibility. You don't have to play referee here. Just let them work it out by themselves. If Ashley gets mad at you for not helping her out, just say, "I can't really help you with this, I'm sorry. I don't really know what's going on and I feel like if I got involved, it would make things worse." Let her know that you're her friend, and be there for her to talk to, but you shouldn't be bending over backwards for her, if you know what I mean. If she expects you to fight all of her battles and do every little thing for her, you should re-evaluate your friendship with her and figure out if it's the best thing for you or not. :]
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Hey if she has been your best friend for the last 4 years then you will have created that relationship where you can tell her anything thats on your mind. You could tell her that you really feel uncomfortable being stuck in the middle in her fights and that you dislike it alot. and with therbeing your best friend she should take your feelings in concideration and stop making you do these things. You should tell her because she is your best friend and im sure shed hate to hear that she has been making you feel uncomfortable! She may not have realised! I rle hope this has helped.
xox Porsche
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You know the right thing to do. It's to stay out of it. Don't give her your opinion on who you think is right or wrong. It's not your business. Tell your friend that you don't want to be in this mess anymore. You're tired of being dragged into messes she gets into. Tell her to deal with her own problems and that you have plenty of your own, including this problem.
If she makes a big deal out of it and go, "you're supposed to be my friend! you should help me!" Tell her, "And aren't you supposed to be my friend? Is a friend a person who forces her friends into situations that you weren't a part of in the first place? Because that's the kind of friend you're being." If she doesn't understand, then she's not worth having a friendship with. I'm sure you have other friends.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
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