Hi I'm Laura. I'm a Christian and I am still at school. I joined the site to help people out. Quite a few of my friends come to me for help about various things and I've had quite a few problems in my life which I've sorted my own way. So I joined because if I can help my friends I can help others and I love helping people out.
Also, I'm a vegetarian, I take my beliefs seriously and I love people so much I just want to help everyone, although I often screw up. everything.
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yea so im having problems with my weight because some people tell me that im fat and need to loose weight. But others tell me im perfect the way i am so i dont know what to think. I think that im fat and that i do need to loose weight but i just cant, i love food so what can i do to keep my mind out of food, and start loosing weight, or to say to myself that im good the way i am. (link)
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this is a decision that you have to make for yourself. if you are unhappy with your body you should do something about it because then you will feel happier in yourself. do not mind what others say, it is not your bosy that is important but your personality. if they tell you that you are 'fat' then are these people you friends? if not, don't listen to them, their opinion doesn't even register. if they are then why are they telling you this? are they putting you down so they feel better about themselves or doing it for your own good?
as far as food goes, it is not the amount you eat, its what you eat and how. if you decide to lose weight, stay away from junk food, too much red meat, fried foods etc, and have nutritious, healthy meals with vegetables, fruits, white meat, wholegrain etc instead. there are plenty of nutrition websites with healthy recipes or check out books in your local library.
also, if you decide to lose weight, some exercise will help. don't join a gym, you don't need to. go running, not far at first, but stick at a slow steady pace and go as far as you can manage. don't stop when the first pain comes, running through it is easier than stopping and starting again. do situps, lunges, pressups if you can, just active things that you can do at home for little or no money.
finally, DON'T crash diet. it is the most unhealthy thing you can do to lose weight and you put it all back on once you stop dieting.
hope this helps you decide what to do,
laura xxx
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ok. for the weekend i'm doing a very simple latin project and its to just draw the country of italy. but the problem is i totally forgot my textbook! my latin teacher gave us a text book and said to copy everything EXACTLY like the page that has the country of italy. anyone know where i can find a map of italy and the surrounding countries in Roman empire form? like what italy used to look like during the roman times. (^_^'' sorry about my clumsiness but i didnt quite have a choice this grade is worth 10% of my latin grade i went from an A- to a B+ and i truly dont wanna go down to a C!) (link)
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i'm not quite sure what you're after so try some of these:
http://wps.ablongman.com/wps/media/objects/262/268312/art/figures/KISH106.jpg
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://nersp.nerdc.ufl.edu/~malavet/comparat/notes/romanmap.gif&imgrefurl=http://nersp.nerdc.ufl.edu/~malavet/comparat/notes/part05.htm&h=344&w=585&sz=18&hl=en&start=10&tbnid=-sw6XUXtcPP2jM:&tbnh=79&tbnw=135&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dmap%2Broman%26gbv%3D2%26svnum%3D10%26hl%3Den
http://www.wmw.ca/romemaps/romeover.gif
http://darkwing.uoregon.edu/~atlas/europe/static/map12.jpg
i hope you find something suitable amongst those, if not try google images: roman maps or something similar. that's where i found all those
laura xxx
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I straighten my hair like everyday..and i know that is VERY damaging on my hair...but it doesnt look good any other way besides a messy bun. i use a cream on my hair before i straighten it but its really for use when blowdrying your hair. I just apply it when wet, let my hair dry overnight, then straigthen it and leave it for 2-3 days. it seems to be working okay, but idk. Anyway i'm looking for great styling products for when straightening my hair and the prices. Also, any tips from anyone on how to keep my hair healthyy!! (link)
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you can get deep conditioning lotions and hair masks from just about any good chemists/ high street cosmetic stores etc (i am english so i can't give exact details) to keep your hair healthy.
but really the only way to keep it in tip top condition is to get it trimmed every 6-8 weeks, i know this is difficult if your hair grows slowly but as often as possible is good.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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so i have this friend joanna she just broke up with her boyfriend and they were going out for a year. jessica and this kid lenny were hooking up last week and lenny kept telling his best friend matt that he didnt even like her and he just wanted to have sex with her. on sunday joanna had sex with her exboyfriend andrew. joanna told me and i wasnt supposed to tell anyone but matt promised me that he wouldnt tell anyone. and he told lenny. me and matt like eachother but im not talking to him. he keeps calling me and begging for my forgiveness. i told him that if he tells lenny that he was lying that would help me forgive him. he is really sorry and he understands what he did.
should i forgive him?
sorry its long.
thank you (link)
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hey
you should always forgive someone particularly a friend, no matter how difficult it is. remember also that it is not simply his fault and that you should never have told him this. i know that when you trust someone you tend to want them to know what is going on in your life, but you have to try and resist the temptation to tell other people's secrets. i've done it and i probably will again.
also, as he is clearly sorry, if he really likes you then he won't do this again. he will be hurting and worried right now and you need to forgive him so he can feel better.
also, can i just add that i don't think him lying to lenny should have any effect on whether or not you forgive him. i am a christian and believe lying is a sin but even if you do not believe, lying is still a dangerous game. the chances are that it would eventually be discovered and then your friend will be more hurt as more people are likely to find out.
i hope you make a wise decision, but you don't have to follow my advice. please fogive him,
laura xxx
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i know this is a weird question to ask on here but ive tried googling it. how do you make your poop harder so its not soft all the time. does it need like calcuim or whatever to help harden it? (link)
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its more fibre
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How do you kiss a guy on the neck? Whenever i'm making out with this guy...i dont really know how to kiss his neck. (link)
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also, just do small little kisses rather than as though you're properly making out with him, you could also very lightly rub your lips against his neck which will drive him crazy for you, and try gently rubbing the tip of your nose on his neck too.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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hi.one day me and a couple of my friends were discussing some of the girl's eyes(without makeup) and how beautiful some were.i got lost since i don't really know how to tell the difference so........how do you describe nice eyes?cause i'm quite curious and confused.first,a friend of mine said it's about size,colour,shape and pupil size.is that true
if so,what
1)size? like small or big?
2)colour? i know blue eyes are wanted
3)shape? like oval or circular or squarish?
4)pupil size? i think big or full is wanted
5)besides that,i think that eyebrows and eyelashes play a part in nice eyes too.is that true?
p.s.:i prefer thicker eyelashes by the way.what do you think (link)
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i think it is all personal opinion. i know i am a girl, but guys have nice eyes too. i once heard someone describe a certain guy's eyes as 'falling into a pool of water' because they were so nice, but i didn't see the beauty.
try just looking at different girls' eyes and see which you like, every eye is different and there are no rules, you may find you liek some blue, some grey, some hazel or whatever.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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Ok, I'm not sure if this is the right catogory but it seemed good. So, I do hate my weight and want to be skinny, but I don't think I am aneroxic. People have called me that before but because I hate eating a lot, and 3 meals a day is a lot to me. I usually eat an egg for breakfast, nothing or an apple for lunch and a regular dinner. Is that bad? I don't want to eat just to please ppl but I don't know how to tell them that I just don't like much food. What can I say to them? (link)
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i wouldn't say you're anorexic but this could be the beginning of an eating disorder. don't push away friends and family when they urge you to eat, they are only worried. i have two anorexic friends and everyone is so scared for them, but also too scared to help in case we are pushed away completely. also, never skip meals. it will not help you lose weight and will make you tired and grumpy in the long run.
you will also find (i know this isn't what you want to hear but it's true) that curvy or healthy is much more attractive than skinny. how much bad press do stars like nicole richie and lindsay lohan get for being too thin? i have never met a guy who called a regular sized girl too fat either.
my friends who are anorexic, they are both always tired, worrying, and look unhealthy. they get annoyed at the slightest thing, and everyone is afraid to eat in front of them because we feel guilty. please, start eating healthily again. just eat three meals of healthy food a day and you won't gain weight!
i hope you take my advice,
laura xxx
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Hey. Ok so I've been dating this guy for over a year and I'm crazy about him. The only problem is that he is very sheltered. I'm his first girlfriend, he won't kiss me, and we're freshmen! It's because his family is extremly religious and his mom doesn't like us dating (she basically hates me). Idk what to do. My friends say make the first move or dump him but I can't cuz I like him too much. What should I do?
Signed~ Clueless (link)
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you need to make him feel safe and secure, but at the same time make him WANT to kiss you.
spend time alone together just talking and cuddling, and do you hold hands in public? if not, grab his hand either around friends, or around strangers, whichever you think he'll be most comfortable with.
make your lips look gorgeous, i'm not talking lashings of colour, a subtle pink/coral/brown, and subtle gloss, nothing too scary. also, stare at his lips when you want to kiss him. not for too long, just long enough for him to notice and register what you're doing.
finally, talk to him, let him know how much you want to kiss him. he won't think any the less of you for it, he must really like you to be with you a year despite his mum. ask him why he won't because you're worried he thinks there's something wrong with you. just a tiny bit of a guilt trip.
if there is anything there that you know he will be really uncomfortable with, don't do it!! you know him best and only you can judge what will work best. and as far as hating his religion goes - if he hated it that much he would have completely rebelled. i am a christian, and i believe in no sex before marriage, but i still kiss guys, just gently bring him round to the idea, then go for it.
hope there's something that helps, good luck
laura xxx
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how do you know when you should have your first kiss? i really like this guy and i think he likes me too. so i want to kiss him reeeaaaallly badly but dont really know how to go about it. also there is a chance that he doesnt like me as more than friends. so how can i approach him in a way that is not too awkward. i dont plan on asking him if he likes me or telling him that i like him. the signs are there and if they are misread than i cant really do anything about it. i liked him before and he didnt like me because he was going through something in his life. now that he is over that situation he seems to like me. so how, when, where should i kiss him. should i kiss him at all? specific details please. thanx i luv you guys. =)
Tanara (link)
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when you go to kiss him, make sure it feels right, because he'll probably be feeling it too. then lean in slowly, he'll know what you're doing and if he really doesn't want to he can let you know and you won't be too embarassed.
hope this helps and good luck,
laura xxx
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soo i was going to hook up my ipod to my boyfriends computer to get some songs he downloaded for me. i usually use limewire but we had to temporarily switch to dial up internet so limewire is screwed. i know that it can be done but its just kinda complicated since his computer wont recognize my ipod. soo what do i do to connect it to his and then back to mine when i get home? and just fyi, i manually update the songs on my ipod, so none of my songs will get deleted when i hook it up, and vice versa. any help is appreciated, thanks =]. (link)
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itunes is configured so that you can only connect your ipod to one itunes station. even if you manually configure it, you cannot connect it to his without the somgs being deleted. this is because that way, they make more money because otherwise everyone would share their songs and itunes would lose out because very few people would have to download and everyone could share them.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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Ok as you get older is it possible for your face to get longer and then for your nose to appear smaller? but it is actually the smaller but same size? Or would your nose just grow bigger along with your face?
Weird question i know but please try and answear it. (link)
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what HateMyLoveLife said is very true but don't worry about this hun because it is so gradual that you won't notice unless when you're 70 you compare a photo of you now and then. no one else will notice and i'm guessing you think you have a big nose? if i'm wrong ignore me but if i'm right then don't worry about it, your nose will fit with your face, everyone's does. if you had a smaller one you would find it looked out of place. however, if you feel uncomfortable with it and think it is wide, apply a thin line of illuminator cream down the centre of your nose and blend, but not so much that it has no effect.
hope this is relevant to your question,
laura xxx
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why does putting your hair up help your hair grow faster? is this even true??? (link)
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i highly doubt this. my best friend wears her hair up most of the time but it grows very slowly and i always wear mine down if i can help it, either straight or curly, and mine grows really fast. so no i don't think this is true. your hair will grow at a speed determined mainly by your genes and you just have to care for it to keep it in the optimum condition you can.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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i have dark brown eyes and medium brown shoulder length layerd hair. im not fair skinned but i am not tan. what is a good make up style ? i always hear people talking about "smokey eyes" for people with blue eyes. what should i do with my eye makeup?! (link)
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ok, i'll start with smoky eyes, because they're not just for the blue-eyed. for subtle smoky eyes:
1. firstly, apply a shade of shadow close to your skin tone over the whole of your lid with a brush.
2. next, apply a slightly darker shade up to the sockey line. using a brush you can slowly build up the colour, or using your fingers will give you more intense colour.
3. then apply the darkest shade to the socket line using small circular motions
4. now use a pale shade along the brow line to open up your eyes.
5. finally, apply eyeliner along the lashline, working from the outer to inner corner, slowly and in small sections to avoid huge mistakes. do not use a liquid eyeliner for smoky eyes, and never unless you're a pro. then finish with a mascara using zigzag motion for full coverage.
all these shades are good in brown, make sure they match to avoid stripy eyes. combine this with subtle lip and cheek makeup to emphasise your eyes, and balance out your whole face.
for rock n roll, overstated smoky eyes (you could use metallic shades for some added glam):
1. draw a line of kohl along the top of your eyelashes to highlight your eyes, stretching your eyelid out with one hand, and then apply a thick line to the bottom of your eyelids.
2. apply black or dark grey eyeshadow to your eyelids with an applicator brush, working outwards, and then add some powder underneath your eyes.
simple as that
as far as other styles are concerned, for dark eyes and brown hair, the colours to use are intense, taupe, plummy purples, chocolate browns, etc. also, golds and pale creamy shades work for most eye colours.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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I am a thin girl, however I have a 34DD chest. My problem over the years has been finding a bikini that is modest enough and covers my breasts, which, none do really. I understand that they make bikinis for "D cups" but I don't know who does. I'm looking for a website that sells bikinis for big breasted women, but not for "fat" or "old" ladies... I still need something cute and teenager-ish (I'm 17.) Any websites in mind? (link)
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i have the same trouble, here are some sites which you can browse to try and find something you like:
http://www.figleaves.com/uk/nsf/qwiser.asp?term=Full%20figure%20swimwear
http://www.bodybody.com/dcup.html
http://www.exelnt.com/index.php -triangle top, halter top and halter bra are nice style tops, and tie- narrow sided- and basic-bikini bottoms are all nice styles. the nicest patterns in my opinion are tapestry and black but you may like others, that is just my taste, not the fashion!
i hope there is something here which you like enough and can afford to buy but if not try googling such things as full figure, DDcup, large bust swimwear.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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ok i weigh about 141 im overweight i know how can i lose some weight without running everyday and lately i have been stretching more often like twice a day but do u know any other ways please help thanx in advance
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just some ideas in addition to what tina said.
gyms are expensive so u don't have to join one. alternatively you can find exercise plans for home by googling things, you can buy fitness videos, join yoga/pilates/aerobics classes, buy small pieces of equipment e.g. dumbells, fitness ball, skipping rope, you can do such things as situps, lunges, press-ups if you can.
also, when you run, make sure you run quite slowly, but stick to your pace, and keep running even when it starts to hurt because the pain will lessen and maybe even go away once your body adjusts after a few minutes. also, before and after exercise, warm up and down. to warm up, stretch properly, and do a slow jog but not far. then to warm down do a slow jog followed by brisk walk and slower walk just to get rid of your oxygen debt. if you don't do these you can hurt yourself, pull a muscle etc
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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there's this guy i really like... i'm not sure if it's lust or if i really care for him... but anyways he's been going "steady" on and off with this one girl for about 2 years... he says that he really loves her... but he's constantly cheating on her... and he's lied to me before about not going out with her when they were so we could hook up... now he says that they're back to being just friends and they've been broken up for about 2 weeks... he only told me this after i told him i didn't wanna hook up if they were going out... so what should i do? should i give him the benifit of the doubt even though he's already let me down, or should i tell him that i just can't trust him or what? i'm so confused... (link)
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should you trust him? the short answer is no. he says he loves her but clearly he doesn't respect or love either of you. love is amazing. i am a christian and in the bible it describes love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self‑seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
this is love but
what you have described is not love, but lust. if this guy has cheated on his girlfriend so many times what makes you think he will treat you any better if you eventually made a go of it?
you deserve better. i know this probably isn't what you want to hear but you know deep inside you that its wrong and that this guy doesn't deserve you. you know that the way he has treated the other girl is wrong or you wouldn't have asked him what you did. if you trusted him you wouldn't have asked this question. yes, if you love him you will be able to forgive him, but i don't think you will find it easy to trust him.
i cannot tell you what to do, you need to assess how you feel. trust and respect are both necessary for a relationship and i don't think you two have either but if you want to go for it then do!
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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So, I'm getting a haircut on Friday. I really want something new and different, but not TOO different, know what I mean? I want to look good, not weird. This is what my hair is now: dirty blonde( I hate saying my hair is 'dirty' but that's really the best way to describe it) usually straightened, about 3 inches past my shoulders, with chinlength pieces framing my face, as in bangs from fifth grade that never totally grew out. Totally boring, right? So, basically, I want you guys to give me some new, exciting styles that aren't too weird. Oh, and no extensions, my mom would never let me. As for length, I want it shoulder-length or longer, because I like good ponytails. Oh, one more thing that might help: I have an oval-shaped face. If you can find pictures of the style you describe, that would be great, but words work too. Thanks in advance! (link)
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hey!
i would go for a side parting with side bangs and layers. it can be any length, you choose. with the layers, they can be drastic or subtle, so, you can have lots of layers starting at the top of your ears down to the length, or a few longer layers. with the bangs, they can either be fuller and halfway across your brow getting longer towards the side of your head, or much thinner and a bit longer, cut at a clear angle.
it is completely up to you. i have an oval face too. i used to have long hair with long side bangs, then i got it cut to just past my shoulders with shorter bangs, and now it is even shorter with side bangs just past my eye. i have always had very short layers and even though its a while since i cut my hair and it has grown a lot my top layer is still only at the top of my ear.
hope this helps
laura xxx
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why yes, I do drink 6-8 glasses a day :)
but why is it important to do so, exactly? (link)
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in addition to this, our body mass is over 70% water and we use it for all sorts of things e.g. sweating to keep cool and in our urine. it is important to stay hydrated or these functions will not work properly, e.g. ur urine will become highly concentrated and so going to the toilet will hurt.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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I was looking on the Abercrombie Kids (girls) website and I saw the bikinis. When I went to the store they didn't have them there! It's been a month since they were on the website and they're not in the store... does anyone know why? Thanks! (link)
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in addition to what lagunababe said, often the clothes appearing on the websites of stores are for the whole season as they are not limited to what they can put on the website. but the clothes only appear in the stores for part of that time so they may have already been in or may not have come into stock yet.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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