Member Since: December 29, 2006
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I told my best (male) friend that I wouldn't sleep with him. We had been friends for 3 years and really cared about each other. I felt that he was my "soul mate". The problem was that he is trapped in a bad marriage- really bad. They have nothing in common and fight constantly. People say they are like oil and water. I almost think he is afraid of her. They have never had kids and she is older than him with two grown kids who are heroin addicts. lt time I saw him he hinted we should fool around. I told him that as long as he were married I wouldnt sleep with him. Now he wants nothing to do with me. So does that mean he was never intending on leaving her and just wanted an affair? Because I think he really did care about me but is too scared to leave her. She is very vindictive. I know how unhappy he was with her because I could see the pain in his eyes when he was with her at social functions so if you think he's staying with her becuase he loves he it's not true. (link)
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well i dont know what he said to you to make you think that he wanted to sleep with you. Maybe after you said no to sleeping with him, he got embarrased over the fact that you said no, and in his heart and marriage vowes he knew it was wrong. Some guys really do honor there vowes and committments. And as much as he may very well be miserable, maybe he just can't cut the ties. I think he needs you as more of a freind, than a mess around partner right now, so I think you did the right thing. And the only thing I can think of for you to do is be his freind, and if and when he gets divorced, then talk about messing around. I'm sure if he is a true freind, he will come around.
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I'm pretty upset. My best friend and I have been planning to go to a football game together tonight since monday. I called her to ask when she was going to pick me up because she told me to. So when I called she said she was shopping with her mom and she told me to call her back in 10 minutes and they'd be done. So I waited about 15 so I didn't seem so anxious. Well when I called her back she didn't say much. SO I was like okay, when are you coming to get me? and she said she was kinda mad. When I asked why she said she had to go to baton rouge with her mom.
When I told my mom this, she was like "while her grandmother's in ICU? I don't think so"
Her grandmother is very sick and it doesn't seem likely that they would go so far away when something could happen to her at any moment.
Thats what made me start thinking..
I'm not so sure if she was lieing or what. The first time I talked to her she sounded fine and she was telling me that this other girl that's our friend was going to be there. And it was only 15 minutes earlier!
The thing is, she always has a tendancy to be late, or to not be able to do things. Sometimes she just doesn't call. Like once we planned on Tuesday to go to the mall on Friday and she didn't call me.
I know that I'm not annoying or bothering her or anything. We're BEST friends. We don't see each other alot unless it's like on the weekends or something. And she says I'm her bestie and always will be. She even has a paragraph for me on her myspace.
What could be going on? What can I do to tell her that I've had enough of this? She's not the easiest to talk to about this kind of thing.
Thanks (link)
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I think you should be her freind, and just leave her alone...she will come around. You guys sound like kids, Maybe she never asked to go and then when she did ask, her parents said no. I think because you dont know whats going on, you should back off a bit, and wait until she comes around.
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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and i think he is getting sick of me. he is very controlling and he isnt the greatest .. i have had more than one occasion where someone has told me he has cheated on me. i believe him when he says its not true. he doesnt like that i have guy friends so i dont have any but he has tons of friends who are girls and it doesnt even phase him that it upsets me. he has lots of girls numbers including one of the girls who told me they hookedup. another girl who was trying to get with him calls alot. he says he loves me but he treats me like shit. im a good girlfriend i do everything for him i love him. but still even if he messes up i get yelled at if i confront him .. everything is my fault even if i catch him lying he gets mad if i was snooping and says i need to give him his privacy and that i have no right to check his stuff. he says i need to trust him more but how can i when he has hurt me so much in the past and how am i supposed to trust him if i catch him lying all the time. he calls me names like slut when he gets mad and he calls me crazy. and he apologizes when we stop fighting and he doesnt seem to understand its not right. ive forgiven him many many times and he just doesnt seem to take me seriously. he doesnt think i will dump him he thinks hes irraplacable (lol) but hes not. he treats me like just some chick .. im not some chick after a year and a half. he should be treating me like a princess not like a maid. please help (link)
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I think you know what you need to do.....
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