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i messed up
so i have this friend joanna she just broke up with her boyfriend and they were going out for a year. jessica and this kid lenny were hooking up last week and lenny kept telling his best friend matt that he didnt even like her and he just wanted to have sex with her. on sunday joanna had sex with her exboyfriend andrew. joanna told me and i wasnt supposed to tell anyone but matt promised me that he wouldnt tell anyone. and he told lenny. me and matt like eachother but im not talking to him. he keeps calling me and begging for my forgiveness. i told him that if he tells lenny that he was lying that would help me forgive him. he is really sorry and he understands what he did.
should i forgive him?
sorry its long.
thank you
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Wow that was confusing, but I think I got it.
Okay, he told his friend something after he promised not to tell. If he's sorry, then forgiveness should be happening, BUT he did break your trust and his promise to you and who knows how often that could happen from now on. You need to talk to him about this and really come to terms with what you can believe and what you can't. I personally think you should forgive him, but not trust him.
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hey
you should always forgive someone particularly a friend, no matter how difficult it is. remember also that it is not simply his fault and that you should never have told him this. i know that when you trust someone you tend to want them to know what is going on in your life, but you have to try and resist the temptation to tell other people's secrets. i've done it and i probably will again.
also, as he is clearly sorry, if he really likes you then he won't do this again. he will be hurting and worried right now and you need to forgive him so he can feel better.
also, can i just add that i don't think him lying to lenny should have any effect on whether or not you forgive him. i am a christian and believe lying is a sin but even if you do not believe, lying is still a dangerous game. the chances are that it would eventually be discovered and then your friend will be more hurt as more people are likely to find out.
i hope you make a wise decision, but you don't have to follow my advice. please fogive him,
laura xxx
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