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Shy Boyfriend
Hey. Ok so I've been dating this guy for over a year and I'm crazy about him. The only problem is that he is very sheltered. I'm his first girlfriend, he won't kiss me, and we're freshmen! It's because his family is extremly religious and his mom doesn't like us dating (she basically hates me). Idk what to do. My friends say make the first move or dump him but I can't cuz I like him too much. What should I do?
Signed~ Clueless
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OK, you shouldnt make your bf feel unconfortble, maybe confront his mother and talk to her to maybe get to know about her and theyre religion more, this may get you closer to his mom. Also if your bf is really close to his mom, this may make him feel more confortable about kissing you and his mom wouldn't hate you so much, so this way, the mom doesnt hate you, and you finally get the kiss from your bf.
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Wow!I say you just talk to him about it,say i really like you and want to move this relationship on!(I mean it's been a fucking year :P lol)See what he says,maby he does to he's just to shy to do it.I also agree with you,don't just dump him kus of that if you really like him,but let him know whats going on.
hope i helped :)
<3 Cynthia
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i think you should talk to him about this. but not in a defensive way just talk to him and make him feel like he isnt betraying his parents or whutever. and if he feels comfortable enough then hopefully he'll make the 1st move. if you really like this guy then you shouldnt leave him, no matter what your friends say.
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you need to make him feel safe and secure, but at the same time make him WANT to kiss you.
spend time alone together just talking and cuddling, and do you hold hands in public? if not, grab his hand either around friends, or around strangers, whichever you think he'll be most comfortable with.
make your lips look gorgeous, i'm not talking lashings of colour, a subtle pink/coral/brown, and subtle gloss, nothing too scary. also, stare at his lips when you want to kiss him. not for too long, just long enough for him to notice and register what you're doing.
finally, talk to him, let him know how much you want to kiss him. he won't think any the less of you for it, he must really like you to be with you a year despite his mum. ask him why he won't because you're worried he thinks there's something wrong with you. just a tiny bit of a guilt trip.
if there is anything there that you know he will be really uncomfortable with, don't do it!! you know him best and only you can judge what will work best. and as far as hating his religion goes - if he hated it that much he would have completely rebelled. i am a christian, and i believe in no sex before marriage, but i still kiss guys, just gently bring him round to the idea, then go for it.
hope there's something that helps, good luck
laura xxx
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youve been going out for a year and you havent kissed yet? wow. im a freshman and i usually have kissed the girl before i go out with her. buttt anyways..
just kiss him. if he flips, then apologize and just wait til hes ready, that is if you think hes really worth the wait
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Wait, you've been dating this guy a year, and you haven't kissed yet? That's upsetting. If I was in that situation, I would've ended it.
Although your boyfriend is shy, kiss him. If you like him as much as you say you do, you'll kiss him. I'm not trying to pressure you into it, but you've been dating for a year!
Wow, that kid must really hate his religion.
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