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i dont like him that way
there's this guy who lives like right near me. And i knew from the first moment that he liked me. lets call him 'L'. I dont like him that way..i really like another guy who happens to be his friend too but he doesnt live near me. I'll call him 'J'. Anyway a girlfriend of mine confided in me that she likes 'L'. i thought that was fine because i dont even like him and ive known it for ages. anyways last night i think i led him on too much and didnt mean to and we ended up kissing and now we're going out. I feel so bad...i dont even really like him, he's like my best friend and he's great but i dont think im doing the right thing by myself, my best girlfriend, 'L', or 'J' for that matter. omg, what am i doing? please help me i dont want to hurt anyone.
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I've done this before. Please take my advice; break up with him. When this happened to me, I ended up just going along with the whole thing and going out with the kid for a few weeks. They were some of the most miserable weeks of my life. After I broke up with the guy, he became very obsessed with me and kept calling me begging to have me back. You should stop the relationship before it gets to this point.
Definitely talk to "L" and make it CLEAR to him why you are breaking up with him. (That way, he won't call you a billion times asking why you broke up with him.) Calmly say, "Look, I think you're really nice and I'm really flattered that you care about me so much. But I've realized that I only see you as a friend, not a boyfriend. I'm really sorry about what happened the other night, things got out of control and I think I made a mistake. You've always been a friend to me from day one, and I'd really like to keep just a friendship." or something like that. If he doesn't get the hint that you're dumping him, just say, "So I think it's the best for both of us if we broke up."
You won't hurt him too much. You're being honest and that's the most important. You really don't want to be dragged along in an unhappy relationship- it's not worth it. But here's the great thing- you have a friend who likes "L"!!!! This couldn't be anymore perfect- because after you break up with "L," you can try to hook up your friend and "L!" Tell L that maybe you're not the right girl for him, but you know someone who likes him alot. He will be flattered. (But make sure its okay with your friend first.)
I have a good feeling about this. Things like this usually work, and if he can spend more time with your girlfriend that likes him, he will forget about being sad over you. :]
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In this case you might have to hurt some one(but they will eventually get over it and survive),you got your self in the situationso now just be honest tell l how you feel and break up with him.Hell survive then talk to your best girlfriend about it and tell her what happened and maybe have her talk to L about her liking him. Then start talking to J alittle more.But if your going out with L who you dont even like in the first place you are betraying your self,L,and your best girlfriend..so set it right and break up with this guy. If this guy is really your friend then hell understand if he doesnt then he wasnt your friend in the first place he just liked you. J is probably not going to be looking at you the way you want him to if your dating his friend so call him now and end it just say i really didnt think this was a good idea and the only relationship i can give you is a friendship and if we are truly friends youll accept it. If you think its ok then you might want to throw in that you also know someone who likes him but dont make it sound like your friend liking him or you liking his friend is the only reason he cant have you as a girfriend because then he wont let the idea go and will think there is still a chance.
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Stop going out with L. Leading people on is bad, especially if you knew from the minute he liked you. Your friend is going to be mad if you don't. Tell her it was all a big misunderstanding, and you're sorry. Also, J will think he doesn't have a chance if you have another boy. Hang out with J more, and try to convince L to go for you friend. I hope it all works out :)
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Heya i think the best thing you could consider doing is stop going out with 'L' because you are certain that you dont like him in that way then when he finds out he will be heart broken. If you say something now then its going to be easier on you. Just tell him that you preferd it when you were just friends and you want to stay just friends and that it would be fairer on both of you. Also going out with L may upset your best girlfriend and if you didnt mean it she will probably get over it. I think youve got to do something hun! But i hope everything works out ok 4 u!!
xox Porsche
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