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Sup, my name's Aaron, i'm a band freak, health freak, grammar freak, perfectionist, and I just love to watch people do stupid things even if it includes me, because heck there's no point in being uptight about life when in the end it all ends... hahah gotta love my type right? There's not much about me that you probably haven't heard that you can't compare to other people, I mean i'm a friendly person who once you get to know me, tends to grow on you like mold on bread. I'm smart, courageous, a leader, fun, loving, honest, brutally honest, sadistic, idiotic at times, ignorant to certain topics, indifferent in some controversial issues, unconcerned about what you think about me, happy, sad, depressed, angry, and basically any other attribute you can give to a 16 year old teenager. I'm an ex-swimmer, meaning that I quit... just because of band, and no i'm not that big a band freak, I'd just rather be playing my instrument and feeling the soothing sensation that music has to bring as opposed to getting stressed about being beat by other people! But no, haha I love swimming and if my school allowed me to take both at the same time without sacrificing my grades I probably would. I'm not the kind of person that sits and watches something, for instance, I hate watching football but I love playing it just because of the adrenaline rush. Blah, haha not sure what else to say, I mean I suppose I can tell you that i'm chinese, and uhh that's about it I think... I like to philosophize haha if that makes any sense, I feel that although philosophy is basically the "DUH" of life, sometimes you just need to be told, DUH. There's nothing better than discovering the obvious... Anyways, life's so much easier for probably you and me if we chatted on AOL, my screen name is An3mu5c0r9u5 yup yup =D hehe

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hi i have headavhs my parents are not beliving me so im always cring what should i do? even my docter a neurologist cant dignos anything im scared help me please ?

hmmm well do you have any other authority figures you could talk to? maybe talk to your friends parents if you're close with them... good luck.

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15/f and i'm gay. So me and this girl went out for a while and I'm just so shy around her like when we kiss and stuff, and I like to take things slow and she really likes to mess around. So we broke up because I'm to "shy". Everytime we talk you can tell we still like each other and she always says that she wishes I wasn't as shy. I want to get back with her but I have to become more relaxed with her. How can I be more comfortable doing things with her other than kissing?

honestly... I'm exactly like you haha, i'm gay and 18/m anyway, I broke up with him because he was like that girl that you like... he wanted to move fast and I always got nervous whenever we tried to mess around... in the end I realized the best thing for me to do was to just stay friends and keep it that way... You shouldn't have to try and change yourself just for someone else because honestly you'll find someone who is shy and will want to take the time to get to know you and you'll both be very comfortable and it'll move at the exact pace that you want it to. So basically, I think you should try and stay friends with her but probably not go any further... she's different and it's okay to accept that but don't settle for someone less when the one you're looking for is waiting out there for you.

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I need the oxidation number of each element in the compound ClO4-. An explanation on how you got that answer would be great, too. =)

well the oxidation number corresponds with the charge of the element so Cl would have a charge of +7 and O would have a charge of -2 since 4 times -2 = -8 + (+7) = -1 which is the overall charge of the perchloric ion

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hey! i have a really big problem. so i dated this guy jake over a year ago now for almost 2 months. he dated thisgirl i knew and then they broke up after 2 years and me n him dated. which was quite crazy. anyways, we ended up breaking up bcz he cheated on me with her and they got back 2gether n have been on n off for almost a year. well, now he is dating sum other girl that idont know n the other day i messaged him on myspace, i havent talked 2 him since last year n i asked him for directions 2 get this oneplace we went 2 last year when we dated. he messaged back sayin he has nothing againts me n he knows he did some bogus shit n to give him a call ormessage when we wanna hangout for old times sake... so idont know if im taking this too overboard but he was my first realll bf that i reallylikedn my friend's birthday is coming up this weekend, and he knew her, thats how we met n began dating bcz his x was friends with my best friend n because of allthis she hated us... well i really do have feelings 4 him n want to ask him 2 come by but is it 2 weird?? but thing is... he never said sorry... what should i write back? thank you somuch

well you should tell him how you feel... though by the looks of it he seems to be a player... so I think you two should just be friends and nothing more, more for your sake than his... you have to remember that he didn't say sorry and cheated on you before... and guys don't really change. if they can get away with it once they'll keep on doing it until they get caught... just move on and make him jealous ^_^.

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15/f

so i just found out the love of my life is goin away for 6 months. we were together for a month then we broke up but we still acted like we were together u know kissing and everything. he told me today that he was goin away. he wants to have sex and so do i but do you think this is rite?? so you think im gonna git my heart broken? all my friends think so but thats just because they dont know him. by the way im a virgin so this will be my first time. PLEASE HELP!!!!

I understand your dilemma but you shouldn't have sex with him because he's leaving... that's not a good enough reason. You should leave your virginity for someone whom you can spend time with afterwards. He might just be playing you, but let's not think of that... Just be happy with the kissing and cuddling and wait for someone who will always be there for you to give up your virginity to.

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if they make you give a urine sample at a physical,do they check for drugs,or is that only upon request?

they check for pretty much everything, drugs, hormones sodium levels it's all in the pee ^_^ if you want them to do a more thorough search for drugs i'm sure they can.

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okay im going out with this guy
its great.
but like he wants to hang out everyday
and im the type that needs my space
like hanging out on weekends is great
and maybe sometime during the weekdays
but i feel like im too busy to hangout on
the weekdays...what should i tell him?

Be straightforward and tell him that... If he can't handle that then maybe you guys should just be friends...

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ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and sometimes i think about breaking up with him .. i love him more than anything .. i guess its just because im young and i kind of want to experience other things. but i cant picture not being with him. hes my everything my best friend im not sure what i should do!

Well there's obviously something wrong with him to make you want to break up with him... you guys should sit down and talk to each other and see what happens from there. If you see him as your best friend then maybe it should just be that...

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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and 3 months and im a VERY jealous person and i question everything and im afraid its going to ruin our relationship. he is jealous too but he is alot better at hiding it than me. if i get jealous i get upset and confused and i feel all torn-up inside i feel as if i have done something wrong. PLEASE HELP .. oh yeh and dont say i dont trust my boyfriend i trust him mostly .. well i guess that while we were going on he told another girl he loved her and i found out he admitted it and said that he loved me not her he was doing it to make her feel better and stuff i guess it still gets me upset but well she told me that they hookedup .. i dont believe her but i also dont believe him when he says nothing happened other than them talking online .. i dont know who is telling the whole truth. PLEASE HELP

sure, my screen name is An3mu5c0r9u5

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It will be my boyfriend and I's one year anniversary in January on the 31st, i really want to do something special for him. I was thinking of a scrapbook or something, but i dont have very many pictures (because he doesnt like them) and we dont have very many things we did together like movies and stuff. Im hoping i get a job sometime this week since i have a 2nd interview tomorrow, so then ill have some money to use. But i need ideas, please help.

Thanks In Advance,
Racquel

hmmm well I don't know how your boyfriend is... but if he's the typical guy, then a scrap book might not be a good idea... we guys are simple, we want sex, food, and more sex... not to sound like a total hog but it's true. I'm gay so this obviously doesn't apply to me, but here's what I think you guys should do. I think you should suprise him and invite him over to where you live and have dinner ready. Have a movie maybe something romantic, but maybe something that's also action packed because those are the two main things straight guys like, food and things that blow up. uhmmm if he's not the "typical" guy then maybe the scrapbook is good but because you said that he doesn't like taking pictures... a scrapbook might not be something he'll like... sorry if this doesn't help =/

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How far have you gone for your other half, I am not asking what you are willing to do, I am asking what have you done for him or for her. Like surprises, money spent, romantic places or trips.

Well, my significant other and I once got into a fight... the next day, I woke up early, got donuts and a dozen red roses and sang to him at his work in front of all his co-workers.

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after i get an orgasm 10 sec. later it dosnt feel good anymore ... is this normal?

yeah it's completely normal it's because of the re-calibration of your neurotransmitters in your brain.. basically meaning that you're "high" for a second, but then your body has to go back to normal so in between you probably feel a little bit like shit. sorry for the language.

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How could I build up my immune system without getting exposed to germs? I'm germ-phobic, and I want to stay really healty and not get sick. Thanks. :]

have a healthy balanced diet, work out, take lots of vitamin C and other vitamins... other than that... you should be fine =) though i must say... actually getting the sickness would be better because your immune system is a very versatile thing and keeps you safe after the first time of getting the sickness... good luck though.

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i have a boyfriend of about 4 months! and i totally love being with him! but i cant be with him all that much! if we are lucky maybe once a week, but thats if we are lucky. I have been going out with him fer what feels like a long time, and i cant tell if its real or not. Ever since i started going out with him nothing feels right, i mean i feel like we are totally different and it can never work. And actually we are pretty different but idk he really likes me and i think i really like him but i can never tell!! i think i said it all but please help me i dont know what to do and i have talked to him about this too but he just says that hes sorry, but idk it just never is right, just please help me

Wow... i have the same problem with my boyfriend... well I think maybe you two should consider getting AIM or something so that you'll be able to talk more... or ask him to call you more often. I talked to my boyfriend about it and I'm still having trouble with him, but this week he doesn't have work so we're going to try and hang out a lot before school starts... I think after this week if after we do stuff like more cuddling and kissing and what not if I feel that it won't work out then i'm going break up with him... I think you should probably think about the same thing... my boyfriend and I have been going out for a month so... I think that even after 4 months you might want to consider breaking up with him... sorry but it might be the best thing to do, especially if you don't think it's going anywhere.

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Will having my wisdom teeth out..affect my singing?
Better airflow or something?

I don't think so... but goodluck with that.

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my gf is always flirting with this other guy at my school and it really pisses me off cuz she barly talks to me anymore can someone tell me a way to get her bak to me

Well I think she thinks that you're too available... so what you do in return... is you talk to girls and you ignore her sometimes or better yet.. if she asks you if you want to go out and do stuff just be like... oh sorry i've got plans with my friend who's a girl.. that way she'll think that maybe she has competition... That's one option a more "manly" one... another option would be to just sit down and tell her and work things out that way.

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Hey I got a 4X cd/dvd burner combo thing and its acting up. it usualy burns cds but when i try to burn anything on a dvd it sez "power calibration error" and wen i tried to move some files from a data dvd onto my hard drive it sed "buffer something" like uh...it couldnt buffer...anyone know if this is fixable or am i fucked?

I had this problem... it is the type of DVD media you're buying some brands of DVDs don't work with some DVD burners because I had had bought like a pack of Fuji media and it didn't work with my SONY burner so I used a different type like HP and then it started working... you can usually ask the person @ the store what media would work with your type of DVD burner.

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I think I may have depression. I don't know if it is temporary or not. I have shown several classic symptoms of depression for nearly three months now, and I am so afraid to ask for help. I feel like there shouldn't be anything wrong with me, and I can't talk to my family about it, because I don't want it to become a huge ordeal. My mom has three sisters - the way they gossip, my problems would be all over the family before the words even left my mouth. I really don't want to draw any attention to myself because I am ashamed that I can't shake this feeling. Are there tips for dealing with possible depression without seeking help? Should I just treat the symptoms as they appear?

well, first of all how old are you?? depression usually comes from hormonal imbalances and if you're in your teenage years then it's normal... what helps with depression is being around your friends and maybe eating some pieces of chocolate once in awhile... maybe you need to vent so just talk to your friends and just say whatever it is you want to say... you'll get through this but don't do it alone. That's why God made the concept of friends ^_^ I was depressed last year but i got over it with the help of my friends, lots of baking, and being able to just relax and think about whatever it is i want to think about. Hope this helps

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Hi my boyfriend and I are having some problems. Well first of all he is mad at me for getting a myspace and he wont leave me alone he's threatning to break up with me for it, its retarded he needs to just leave me alone. What should I do?

Well i think you should tell him to get a myspace... but if he is seriously going to break up with you just so that you can have a more active online social life... then I don't think he's being fair... You should talk to him and tell him why it's bothering him so much... You should also tell him that if you get a myspace you'll be sure to put that you're in a relationship so that people know you're off limits... he shouldn't worry about it that much... that's your own decision and he should respect you for it not downgrade and threaten to break up with you for it... hope this helps

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me and my bf still haven't kissed yet and I don't know why, but for some reason...I want him to do it first. Do you think he'll kiss me anytime soon?

Also, how could you tell if your bf really loves you?

HAH! I have the same exact problem with my boyfriend... what we did was we kind of had a break which lasted a week in a half and we still talked on AIM but what i did was i decided that i'm going to kiss him first even though I want him to... maybe if you try and act all sexy and stuff and get real close to his face but not kiss him... he'll go for it and then you can say that he kissed you first ^_^ hope this helped. Also about the boyfriend thing... I know this is a bad thing to do... but if he has AIM make yourself another screen name and test him out see if he would cheat on you for another girl by acting like another girl... I did this to my boyfriend and I was sooo happy that he turned down my screen name because it showed that he wouldn't cheat on me.

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