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should i do it or not
15/f
so i just found out the love of my life is goin away for 6 months. we were together for a month then we broke up but we still acted like we were together u know kissing and everything. he told me today that he was goin away. he wants to have sex and so do i but do you think this is rite?? so you think im gonna git my heart broken? all my friends think so but thats just because they dont know him. by the way im a virgin so this will be my first time. PLEASE HELP!!!!
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not nessasarly a good idea.. hes going away if you lose your virginity to him you will mostlikly become very atached ( all the girls i know have and it got messy when the guy ditched them ) not saying hes ditching you but.. you can wait .. no need to rush, if you love each other and acually LOVE him then obviously your going to see him again .. i wouldnt do it iam a virgin to and i have somone on my mind but you just have to wait for the right time, be smart
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sorry but i wouldnt suggest it, especially your first time. If you want to do it it should be because you really feel it's right, and right now you don't seem too sure. This does seem like it's going to lead to a broken heart if you do sleep with him, not because he wants it to be that way but the situation isn't very good for you.
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I understand your dilemma but you shouldn't have sex with him because he's leaving... that's not a good enough reason. You should leave your virginity for someone whom you can spend time with afterwards. He might just be playing you, but let's not think of that... Just be happy with the kissing and cuddling and wait for someone who will always be there for you to give up your virginity to.
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I understand your pain. I would be very upset as well. Being gone for 6 months is a huge deal, and I know I would have a hard time excepting if my boyfriend left me for that long. Though, obviously you and this boy aren't dating. Though you may not realize it, but that changes a lot of things. Including my opinion on this question. Which is strictly an opinion.
Do I think you should do it? No.
Whether or not you do it thougn, is completely up to you. The reason behind my response is that a relationship is hard enough as it is without the added pressures of sex. And in your case, the boy isn't even your boyfriend and he's getting ready to leave. Be realistic here and think about what you are asking. I really don't think you should. But if you want to, go right ahead. Just be prepared for the consequences and the heartbreak after he leaves. Which most likely, he will not only leave town, he'll leave you all together as well.
Harsh? I'm sorry. But it's the truth.
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my best advice is to not do it! i have a friend who was goin out with this guy for over a year and when they were alone he did all this romantic stuff and they ended up caving in a both giving it up. not even a week later he broke up with her. now she is completely torn and is actually going crazy. all she can say is *i can't believe i gave it up to him* or *why did i do that?* she has completely changed since then....she's very depressed and is always talking about how much she wants him back, but he's already moved on. believe me, if he's going on he might meet somebody else and then what? you just gave up something that you can never have back to someone who might end up meaning nothing to you.
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Don't do it. If you broke up, it must have been for a reason. You were only with him a month, and he wants to have sex with you even though you're not together anymore? This guy doesn't respect you, don't give your virginity to someone who doesn't deserve it. Wait until you're in a committed relationship with someone who will love you unconditionally, and you won't get your heart broken. You deserve better than him.
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Have a discussion with him about will he still love you when he comes back and ask him if he loves you now.
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Of course he wants to have sex, and he is using the "going away" as a manipulation tactic to get you to consent. "Poor me I will be so lonesome without you and I love you so much" I can hear it now.
You are more likely to get your heart broken if you do. To be honest, the first time for a female is not that great under those circumstances. Save it for a time when you can make a lasting commitment and it will be more special that way.
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honestly i owuld not do it. only a month. if i was going loose my virginity i would wait untill at least 5 months. virginity is a bubble, once its gone, its gone for good. if he loves you and if you love him, you guys can wait 6 months.
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dont do it. hes going away for 6 months. he just wants to have sex with you then leave you for 6 months. he will prob. have hookups wherever he is going.
-missadvicebitch1
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