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hey advicenators, my name is caitlin. i love giving people advice. i`ve had a previous advice column, but decided to quit giving advice. i regretted that and got a new column! this pretty much became my obession very fast. im on basically everyday, at least once. i never reject any questions that i get in my inbox, because i think that no question is stupid. when i do get questions in my in my inbox, it makes my day :]! remember that i cant see who you are. so you shouldnt feel embarassed to ask me anything! also just because i have my three favorite categories doesn`t mean that im not open to answer any other types of questions. i love getting feedback. it lets me know that im doing my job well! every question that i do ask on this site always gets rated. i mean you have to know if your giving good advice or not, right? if you do like my advice, feel free to add me as one of your favorite columnists!
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ok i kno christmas is tomorrow but im a major procrastinator. i have no money, and my dad wont let me borrow money because i already owe him money and i need a gift for my mom. any ideas of something i can make her using thigns from home? she doesnt wear jewelry tho.
hey, give her a card and write her a thank you letter. thank her for everything she does for you everyday. put a picture of you and her in there when you were first born and like her holding you and then a recent one. put on red lipstick and seal it with a big kiss =].
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soo usually i go to bed around 1-3 am, then wake up between 7-7:30 for school. would it be ok to leave a tampon in during the night? i for sure always wake up in the mornings, and i put new ones in right before i go to sleep.
hey, well its fine to do that. as long as you put it in right before you go to sleep and wake up immediately and change it. also dont wear the super tampons to bed. just where the regular sized ones. because the bigger the tampon the more risk you have for tts [ toxic shock syndrome ]. but as long as your careful i think you should be fine.
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ello. i need to write an essay on anything i want. but the problem is i am drawing blanks on ideas. i prefer to write about important topics. in the past i have written about controversial topics and i am good once i actually have a topic. do y'all have any ideas at all? thanx for any help:)
hey, here a few that come to mind.
-abortion/teen pregnancy
-war
-poverty
-global warming
-violence
-racist people
-religion
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I have a boyfriend that i "like." i've been going out with him for a month. And even though he understands my beliefs and opinions, I'm starting to feel that we are more likefriends. But the problem is, i've recently met a guy who i could see actually being with. But he thinks my religion his as he puts it "Bulls__t". Should I dump my understanding boyfriend for my new possible lover?
hey, well if your new possible lover thinks that your religon is stupid then thats a problem. i would keep your understanding boyfriend. understanding means everything. let him know that he comes off to you as more of a friend. maybe he could change that.
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well me and my bf were doing great then came along some rumors and he dumped me and i can't get over him everytime i see him i cry and i just want to fall in his arms and tell him i love him now i did that he got me a bear 4 christmas and now 4 some reason i want sex why is that does anyone no?
hey, well your love for him is going to remain the same or even become stronger because the fact that you miss him so much. so wanting sex is normal. you guys breaking up for the rumor isnt normal at all. did you tell him it wasnt true? if you did and he didnt believe you then he wasnt a good boyfriend for you at all. if he did beleive you and then just broke up with you he probably used that as an excuse to get out of the relationship.
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I know it's bad, but this is my question. When me and my friends smoke pot, they always get high and I never do. The most I get is a little dizzy. I don't even get giggly? What's going on?
hey, you probably have a higher tolerance for pot. you may have to smoke longer then they do to get as high as they do.
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So on myspace, when someone wants to add me, they have to have my last name or email address...how do I change it so they don't have to have that?
hey, well im pretty sure it has to do with the age that you set your myspace at. if its 18 or younger then for the people that are trying to add you THAT DO HAVE A PRIVATE MYSPACE will have to put in your last name or email adress. that people that DO NOT HAVE A PRIVATE MYSPACE will not have to type in anything.
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In English yesterday, everyone was walking around talking because it was the last day of school before break. I jokingly told one of my friends I'd like to go give him a hug, and, long story short, before too long all the girls in the class were in on this. Everyone told me 'do it, do it' so I finally walked up and asked 'hey, could I get a hug?' He said yes, to my surprise, and gave me a really nice hug. =)
My question is, what can I do from here? I'm sure he probably picked up somewhere that I like him, but I'm not positive. Should I ask him to hang out over break? He lives right by me, and I see him around sometimes. So what can I do?
hey, well you need to get to know him more before you make your move. for me, getting to know someone better on AIM before in person or on the phone is better for me. that way if there are any akward silences or pauses that you can just say be right back and then think about what to say then say im back. flirt with him a little and see if he flirts back. after a few days of that, ask him to hangout. but not alone just the two of you. because then i think he will get the wrong idea and start to think that your moving to fast. include some of your friends and also his friends in hanging out. but if he takes the first move and asks you to hangout just to two of you go for it. then you know hes ready to open up to you and maybe start a relationship.
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I got a tetanus shot yesterday. It still really hurts, so I was just wondering how long it will hurt (I was only 4 when I got the last one, so I don't remember) Also, what should I do to make it feel better? Would painkillers help? Thanks =]
hey, everyone below pretty much answered it. but im going to add my touch of advice to it. well its going to hurt for about 2-3 days. be easy on your arm and dont over do it. be careful of how you move your arm.
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yeh but sumtimes i do think about it when im awake and its only cos i worry about it! cos the dream freaked me out so much, so i think about it when im awake, what does that mean, i mean iv nva had any form a dream like this and i just got really freaked out by it, cos iv always alwyas been interested in guys
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hey, well think about it. are you thinking about anything like that besdies the dream you had? or is it only the dream and that same kiss that your thinking about all the time. if its not just the dream and the kiss then maybe you just want to experience the rush of kissing another girl. it doesnt mean that your a lesbian or that your bisexual. it just means that you want to try soemthing new. its perfectly normal. my friends kiss each other and thyey have boyfriends and there sex lifes are very good also.
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Are there any physical effects of masturbation for females? Like, if you went to the gynecologist could they tell if you masturbated or not?
hey, normally the gyno cannot tell if you masterbate a lot. if you do it a lot to yourself like at least once a day or if you get fingered a lot your vagina will be a little stretched out. its perfectly normal for a girl to masterbate and experience those feelings. if they do however find out they will not say anythinng to you because like i said its normal for a girl.
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what is tofu? is it expensive? and it does it have protein? thanks to any of the answers
hey, tofu is a cake made from bean curd. there is some protein in it. if you want to find out more click this link.
http://www.soyfoods.com/soyfoodsdescriptions/tofu.html
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Is Anger Management for pysical anger only or mentally? Because I'm angry and furious all the time but I don't hit things or yell at all, I just keep it all in and I want to take Anger Management classes to help me with it cuz holding it all in gives me a head ache and I can't sleep.
hey, im not sure that anger management would be for you. anger managaement is usually for people who hit objects or even other people. it sounds to me like you should try going to counseling.
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right im a 17 yr old girl, i have a brilliant relationship with my boyfirned. i am very much in love with him, i ahev been with him 4 2 years! he is my best friend, and he is jsut the best. he recently moved a long way away from me, it hit me and i coped worse than i thought i would. its hard to say but iv kinda fallen to pices since his moved. i was very sad wen h first moved. about 3 weeks ago i had a dream that i kissed a girl, and i woke up in the morning and i was really horny, this seriousley freaked me out cos i have never had any bisexual feelings before, and i started to get really angry becuse im a very straight person. i am very much a worrier, its a very bad falut of mine i worry about anything and everything, and i obsessionally think about things. and iv got it twisted in my head that im bisexual when deep down i no im not! it sounds sooo silly but its realy getting me down. i had such a fantastic couple of years with my boyfrind and im still with him, and i miss him so much, and i have a very good sex life with him, i just want to be with him forever, and i dont want anyting to come between that, and iv just got this worry twisted in my brain, and i cant get it out. please help x
hey, sometime in every girls life they will have feelings like that. sometimes they just want to know what it feels like to experience doing things with other woman. just because you dream it doesnt mean you have to do it. relax. as long as your not having these feelings when your awake, then there shouldnt be a problem.
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Hey again, i'm looking for some advice about how to do my hair. I'm a guy but I'm going to a dance next month as a gurl (cuz I hate bein a guy). My hair is straight, brown, and not very long. Basically it looks like a guy and I hate it. Thanks for your advice. 16/m
hey, well im not sure exactly how long your hair is. you could straighten or scrunch it. get sidebangs if your hair is long enough. add headbands in your hair for that girly look.
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Well I have this friend we will call her D, and she is like SO awesome and I LOVE hanging out with her! But D is has a bestfriend(not me were just good friends but im her 2nd bff) her bff treats her like dirt. I dont want to tell her because she will probably get mad at me or something.
And D sometimes treats me that way too because i guess she is use to having people treat her like that but whenever I say anything to her about it shes always like "Chill Im just kidding" but shes sooo mean when she does it!
So what do I do//Tell her?
hey, i think you should tell her. if you leave it this way then its just going to get worse and maybe even develop into her ignoring you 24/7 and you guys losing your friendship. if you tell her and she wont cahnge for you then she is NOT really your friend. i hope all goes well for you.
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okay so me and my best friend are still really close but she has become friends with a different friend group and i would really much so want to be friends with them. i guess you could say they were the "punk/emo" kids. i talk to a few but whenever i'm around them when i'm with my bf i don't really talk. i get like shy and block myself out. i feel like anti social. what do i say to them to start like becoming friends. i've never really had to try to become friends with anyone like this. it just kind of happened for me. help.
hey, alright well with me if i talk to someone on aim for a few days first it gets easier to talk to them in person. also when your on aim there are no akward silences. if there is a pause you can just say brb and then think of somethng to talk to them about and then say im back.
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i broke up with my boyfriend but i think he wants us to be bf and gf again and my friends think i still like him and the days go by and i get stupid and go back together with him i dont know what to do can someone help me please
hey, i just got over a similar problem. i realized that if me and him were meant to be then we wouldnt have broken up. give it some time and just chill and fly single for a while. leave your options open but stay good friends with this guy. if a while passes by and you stil feel strongly for him and your not seeming to get into a relationship with anyone else then hes your guy.
okay i broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago and to be honest, i didn't even miss him..he had hurt me really bad and i was just glad to be free. well, yesterday i went to his house to talk in person and i felt so happy..i felt like i loved him i had the most amazing time and i also felt guilty because i had been so mean to him after we broke up..but NOW i regret going over there because hes treating me like we're back together and i only feel like i love him when i'm with him and i like being single it bothers me to have him talking to me all the time! should i tell him to back off a bit? or would that hurt him too much? he loves me alot by the way.
hey, okay well dont leave him hanging like that. hes going to end up getting hurt if you continue to make him believe that you love/like him. if you want to maybe get into a relationship with him in the future tell him that your not ready to get back into a relationship with him, but you think that you would be interested in doing that in the future. if you dont want to do that, tell him that you just dont feel the same way about him anymore that you just want to eb friends. let him know the deal.
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is TONIGHT the "chrismukkah" or wahtever episode on the OC? Or did that already air? :] thankyou.
hey, tonights episode is when they take the new yeas eve trip. i just checked my guide.
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