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A girl loves me but I'm not sure
Hi, a girl in another school likes me alot but I'm not sure. I like her as a friend but not romantically.
When she first told me I said I maybe in the future but recently I said I'd think about it.
I really dont want to hurt her but I dont love her back. Is there anyway I can say so gently without hurting her or damaging our friendship??
I am 15 years old and a male.
Thanks in advance :)
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I know you don't want to hurt her, but believe me, no matter how gentley you say it, it's going to hurt her some, but she'll appreciate you're not flat out,"i don't like you blahblah".
I would just let her know,"I'm really flattered you think of me in that way and everything, and I do love you, but just in a friendly sort of way. I just really don't want our friendship getting ruined over something like this, so do you think we could just be friends?"
And I'm sure she'd rather be your friend the nothing at all. Yes, it might be a little awkward at first, so just give her all the time she needs to get adjusted to everything again and try and put things back on track. So as she starts to talk to you more and more, that means she's starting to get better with it, and is making more of an effort to make it less awkward, which you should also put in the same amount of effort.
Just keep the conversation going, and just talk to her like you used to and remind her of old times and everything, and just keep it on track and pretty soon, everything'll be fine. :)
I hope I helped, and I hope everything goes well!
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Well, I'm a girl, and I know EXACTLY how I'd like to be told. here it is:
"Tricia*, I'm really flattered that you like me, but I don't like you in that way. Is it okay if we could just be friends? I'd really like that..."
*just stuck my name in there for the heck of it.
Make sure you are gentle!!! The most fragile thing in the world is a girls heart.
Make sure that you keep talking to her, but not more than usual. Try to make it as less awkward as possible.
And I think that it's really sweet that you want to be so gentle.
Usually guys are blunt. A+ =P
goodluck.
triciaXterror
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I'm telling you this from experience, and as a girl. Just tell her nicely that you would rather be friends. It's nice that you care about her feelings but by just drawing this out longer then it has to be, you will just end up hurting her even more. Just tell her that you value your friendship and if she still wants to remain friends you will always be there for her. She may need some time to think, so give her some space and she will most likely still want to be friends with you.
Good Luck
Kate <3
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If one must pull a tooth, it is mistaken kindness to pull it slowly.
Don't leave her hanging, or give her false hope. Just tell her this:
"I am truly touched that you see me in this light, but I just can't return those feelings in the way you want me to."
It's as simple as that. And it will hurt her, but there's nothing you can do about that. It will hurt her even more in the long run if you aren't honest and straightforward with her.
What you don't want to say is, "Can we just be friends?" because that's not an honest statement. If you really do want a friendly relationship, then don't diminish it by saying you want to be "just" friends; and if what you really mean is that you don't want ANY relationship, then respect her enough to say that.
You may not be able to salvage a friendship out of this one. Ultimately, it's going to be her call, and she might not be able to get over her feelings for you. This is not your fault; it's just life, and sometimes life sucks.
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hey.
personaly im near the same age as you, a year younger. but i know how it feels to have a guy not like me that im good friends with. what he did was : i think were better off as friends, sorry, but do you wanna hang out this weekend. and after he had said that i was pissed, but i thought about it and the way he put it wasent that bad. if i were you i would try something like that. hope i helped.
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