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Oh no! i have a problem. this boy asked me out like a week ago and he is seriously...like so in love with me. the problem is that i dont think i really have such deep feelings for him. and i cannot break up with him because he keeps on telling me he keeps getting hurt by girls..and that i make him so happy and you know things that would make it impossible for me to break up with him. So any suggestions on maybe how to get myself to like him more?? Or even what to do?!THANKS i need it.
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If he loves you as much as he says he does, he wants you to be happy. and you are not happy with him, and he will understand that.
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Don't let this guy manipulate you into staying w/him because he's having problems keeping a girlfriend. You can't live that way and will end up really hating this guy if you do that. What will work best for you is what is important here. I think it's commendable that you consider his feelings and it tells me that you're a caring person. This doesn't mean you should sacrifice yourself. There is someone out there that would be more your match and you will enjoy spending time with. You deserve that. I realize he'll be crushed but there is someone out there that will love him the way he is looking for and if you stay w/him he will not find that person either. You need to be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Let him know you love him but not in the way he is looking for. Tell him you'd like to keep him in your life because you do care for him, but you think it will be best for him if he finds someone who will love him in a way that he deserves. Tell him you will be there for him if he needs someone to talk to, but that you have plans to see other people. This way you may be able to keep him as a friend, but don't count on it. He may really hurt at first and not be able to do that. But, stay friendly w/him no matter what he says when you break up w/him. Keep in mind that he's hurting and may say some hurtful things. Then again, maybe not. The most important thing here is you and what is best for you. Best of Luck to you!!!
Namaste!
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you gotta be honest with him. you cant force things like love, so if you find you really dont have any strong feelings for this guy, it's best to tell him straight early, so that the both of you dont get hurt in the end.
but if you think that this relationship is worth pursuing, you could always give it a chance for a little while, but make it clear to him how you feel.
what are his gd points? do you like and particularly favour any one of a couple of these strengths? perhaps he's a sweet, sentimental, romantic guy, or perhaps his drive or ambition attracts you?
think about that and whether he's a guy worth investing your time and effort into. if he is, i say give it a chance.
good luck. (:
hope what i said made sense and helps you somehow. :D
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Well, you can't really MAKE yourself like him but, you can try and find out some new things about him. Maybe that would make you realize that hes a even better guy then you thought before. Or, if you just really don't feel like being in a relationship with him, then it would be best if you just told him the truth. It would be better to tell him the turth rather then just lying to him. It would show that you really do love him enough to do that for him, and yourself. Trust me. I just got off the phone with my ex last night. She told me that she was no longer in love with me. It hurt, it hurts like hell but, I would have rather her tell the truth then lie to me. So, do what you think and feel is right. I hope everything works out for you
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You need to realize that you dont meet guys like this everyday.Take a moment to realize all the good about him,go out with him more and take the chance to like him more.But you have feelings for him,and they will eventually grow.
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