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heyy, im Rachel and im 15 w/ blonde hair & blue eyes. im a sophmore at RMHS [soon to be junior!].
i LOVE meeting new people & helping people w/ problems, so ask away!!



xo ♥

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I keep having these sexual fantasies where I'm sexually dominated - the guy hits me or forces me to have sex; mostly, they revolve around rape. These are my most frequent fantasies. I'm a very strong-willed girl in my actual life, and what I can't get is, why is this the most surefire way to turn me on? Would this scare guys?

heyy! well it could be just b/c you might want the guy to be in more control of the sexual stuff...and i can't be sure exactly why this turns you on, but raping is much different than just having sex. you probably know this but raping is when you really don't want to do something sexual w/ someone and they FORCE you to do it. but if you're enjoying it and you agree to have sex but let the man take over...then that's a different story.
your question was a toughie, and i really hope i helped.. let me know if you need anything else!
love ♥

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ok, i love my gf ya know? i mean... ive been though a lot of shit for her, one time i almost DIED for her. but i kinda like fell in love with this other girl inspite of all that ive been through with my gf...i mean, i cant really see myself with my gf after high school, and me and the other girl have already made plans to live together and stuff like that after high school.. i just dont know whats going to happen, or who to choose, help me out here!

hey! well...i think its a bit too early to be making plans for that, b/c things change. who knows where you're going to be or who you're going to be w/ within the next 5-10 years. i made plans w/ my ex to get married and have kids...and we broke up this summer. doesn't mean we wont get back together again, but he moved to Kansas a little while ago..and things change.
but i say follow your heart! i know that might sound cheesy, but its the truth. who can you see yourself most w/? you have to ask yourself a lot of questions to make sure one or the other is really what you want. and i suggest that you dont plan things for things after high school just yet.
so you just need to think about who you can really see yourself w/...and who you honestly like more.
i hope i helped! good luck =)

xoxo love always,
♥ Rach

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RACHEL DEWOOOOOOOOOOODY

yes. i think you know i have a problem, you know. you know i dont know if i like him or not. do i? do i not? you and eric are like the old married couple already. oh and i think pig might be homosexual. since he probably liked being put up some random girls shirt.

G'BYE

TOODLES

LOVE YA

yeah. you BEST give me some GOOD advice.

-LOVE, you know you. aka. you betcha--partner.

hahaha i love you Elle =)
i say you do... =)
b/c you're always talking about him and its cute cute cute.
but its up to you. if you really think that you have feelings for him, then go for it darlin'!!
love you! ill talk to you at lunch today xoxo

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i totally said something i regret to a friend when i was mad at her. you know when ur mad u dont always mean what you say.now she wont talk to me much.i wanna work out the problem but i dont know how.

hey darlin'!
well i think you should definitely talk to her...let her know that you were mad and tell her what you told me. that when people are angry at someone or about something, they tend to say things that really dont mean...which is totally true. so let her know that! and if she doesnt understand or she's still mad at you, let her have her space. dont try to push things..but do let her know that you didn't mean what you said and you just said it out of anger. and that you're sorry. i really hope i helped, good luck!! ask if you need anymore help x3


xoxo love always,
*rach

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Hello all. on my column, the part where i wrote stuff about myself is cut off. it only shows the first half, at least on my computer. has anyone else experienced this or knows what to do about it? thanks!!
oh, and heres my site: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=lovemenow_kissmelater

hey! ive had the same problem before-- its either HTML codes that you might have in there, or its too long. but most likely its the HTML. theres nothing else that could be wrong w/ it....i hope i helped!! good luck =)


xoxo love always,
*rach

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ok here it is....ive had my fair share of g/fs n well just about everytime we end up breakin up a few months after n almost hatin eachother...now im almost scared to be in a real relationship...theres sumthin more in a real relationship than just friends wit benefits...however its also takin a bigger risk of breaking hearts...i dont like bein put in break up situations...but im also tired of juss hookin up wit other girls...what should i do??

hey! its understandable that you're afraid of break ups and you dont want to go through that..everyone has that...and its not cool. but if you really like the person and they're a good friend, then you guys will continue talking even after you guys break up. a true friend will do that, they wont let your friendship get ruined just b/c you broke up.
and i think you should just wait it out, and wait to see if a good girl comes along for you, im sure theres someone out there! most of the time, when people "hook up" w/ others, they feel like they're being used...and thats not good either. so i really think you should just wait until a relationship comes along =) and like i said, if they're a true friend..they wont let the break up hurt to the point where you guys dont talk, and you two will still be friends if she is a good friend.
well i hope i helped, best of luck!



xoxo love always,
*rach

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ok well the question comes up all the time but i rly havent heard the answer from a real person.....does a man's size REALLY matter?

hey, personally, i really dont think so. its up to you though...i mean everyone has their own opinions and all, so if you think that it does matter, then alright. others might have a different view on that though, but like i said..its all up to you. i cant really tell you if it matters or not, b/c you might think differently
i hope i helped!


xoxo love always,
*rach

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Hey! I feel so terrible. I am extremely jealous of my younger cuosins. Ok. They get all the guys just because their boobs are bigger. All my friends want to hang with them rather than me. i dont know what to do anymore. I cant get a boyfriend and it seems like no one likes me.
Maybe you can help... should i change myself from goody goody to ...? idk.

hey! ok well first of all, if those people are like that...then you shouldn't be hanging around them, b/c you can definitely find better friends than that. anyone who is like that is shallow. you could also ask your friends why they would rather hang out w/ them than you...
and about not being able to get a boyfriend, if they can't like you for who YOU are, then they're not the right one's for you...and you don't need them. and also, you don't NEED a boyfriend..if one hasn't come around that is right for you, then don't worry about it. he'll come along soon! i promise you that. b/c i know what it's like to feel that way...w/ both of the problems you're having. i used to hate the fact that everyone else had bigger boobs than me, but i finally realized--that i need to be myself. and if people don't like me for who i am, then that's too bad...
and i also used to be upset b/c i couldn't find a guy that was right for me and then i just kinda "gave up" and moved on...and tried to not think about it, and then finally this one guy came along...my present boyfriend. we just love each other sooooooooooo much, w/ all our hearts...and i seriously think i've found the right person to be w/..hopefully for the rest of my life! but who knows, God might have other plans for me...but i truely do love him. and i'm positive that can happen to you too =) also..you can pray...i did that. i prayed that i could find someone who could be there for me when i needed them, someone who could make me soo happy. and i got my prayer answered w/ the most perfect guy!
it might take a while...it took a while for me. it might not happen the next day, but it could. and it might not happen in a couple weeks, but it could...it might take a couple weeks, even a couple months. but God will always make sure that he's there for you, and he will answer your prayers. just be patient hun, that's all i have to say...and DON'T CHANGE FOR ANYONE! be yourself =) i hope i helped, good luck!! =)


xoxo love always,
*rach

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OKay! Don't get me wrong, I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND, but sometimes it feels like we aren't as good as we used to be. I dont' know, I mean I dont' want anything to happen to us. It's just, he's been away a lot and stuff and I mean, it feels weird, because it's not like I miss him even that much anymore. I dont' know! It is just different and I really don't like it. Please help me out. How do I relit our flame? And is this normal? I'll rate HIGH and leave FEEDBACK

hey! well i really don't think anything is wrong..it seems pretty normal, but i suggest you talk to him! let him know that you don't want things to get messed up or change in any way between you two, but that sometimes you have different feelings about certain things. i really think you should talk to him...and i'm sure he'll understand! =) i think the best way to "re-light your flame", is just to talk to him and let him know how you feel and you guys can talk about it and work things out. when you talk to him about it, i'm sure you'll feel soo much better about everything! it doesn't sound weird or abnormal to me at all. i hope i helped, good luck! =)


xoxo love always,
*rach

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OK. Ive known this guy since the 7th grade. Im now in the 10th grade and off and on through out the years, ive liked him. In 9th grade we got much closer. Of course he has a girlfriend that goes to another school that he never talks about.He was with her in the beginning of 8th but then they split and he went with some other girl. My best friend knew i liked him and at the 8th grade dance, she got me to dance with him. It was so great. I guess in 9th grade although they dont go to the same school, they decided to get back together. Well in the spring time he told he has liked me ever since 7th grade.He actually said " i love you" i was confused why he never told me and he told me he was shy even though ive told him to his face my feelings for him.But whatever guys will be guys. Well lucky me, when he told me, it was a period when i didnt like him and i was with another guy(not official). i had just lost all hope in ever being with him, i moved on. He told me he was going to break up with his girlfriend to be with me. When i started to like him again...i think he switched schools or something. i havent heard from him since a little before spring break. i kind of just ignored it. then one night i realized that i think i love him... and from that night on i havent been able to sleep because of him. hes the thing that i think of when i wake up and fall asleep. whenever i try calling his house and cell, no one picks up. i really just want to see him. id give anything for just one glance.
what do i do? should i keep on trying to call?

hey! wow thats a toughie. well...i say try and keep calling. if he still doesnt answer, maybe wait a little while and ask around to see where he's been and stuff. maybe other people might know which school he goes to (if he switched) and where he is and all. i hope i helped..best of luck!! =) i'm sure things will work out =)


xoxo love always,
*rach

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hi i have this really great friend named rachel and i dont know how to tell her that she is like the best friend anyone could ever ask for how should i tell her...lol i love you soooo much girly!!!

haha awwwwwwwww hey!! i love you soooooooooo much tooooooo honey! *mwah*

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Ok, there is this one guy that I know likes me. But I don't like him. We are really really good friends. How can I tell him I don't like him without hurting him?

hey! well, bring it up somehow, or if you want, just wait til he brings it up...and just let him know that you still wanna be really close friends and you dont want anything to change. im sure he might be upset, i mean everyone probably would...but let him know that you can still be really good friends and that you dont want to hurt him. i hope things work out for you, and i hope i helped!! best of luck =)


xoxo love always,
*rach

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Me and my best frend really wana go to south carolina cuz we wana spend a few days there.......we dont know how to proceed with tellign either one of our parents to go....it woudl be no problem tho if my frend corrina could come with us to south carolina and vice versa tho.
How do we begin to convince our parents to go ---but it has to be by next week because Corrina is going to Bolivia for the rest of the summer and wont be back.......what do we do, we have less then 7 days to start convincing! holy shit....

hey! well sometimes it's hard to get around parents haha if you know what i mean...but i say, if they're not too strict, they'll probably let you! just say that it would be nice to go and spend some time w/ your friend(s)..and tell them that you're really excited and all that! i'm sure that if they're not too strict they'll let you...and i don't see what's wrong w/ going to sc, so go for it! good luck =) hope i helped



love always,
*rach

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Hey! You know how I wrote about my friend having a baby? Well..... her mom wants to give her an abortion..... and my friend could die from this.... and my best friend from kindergarten doesn't want his girlfriend to have a baby, and while she has been pregnat.... I have been having sex with her boyfriend.... and i now know that if she has this baby it could die because of me... what do I do? Should I tell her?

hey! wow umm...thats a toughie. first of all, what you did was wrong..having sex w/ your friend's boyfriend that is. but i think you should definitely tell her, just for the sake of things...and the whole abortion/her having a baby is really tough. b/c like you said, her boyfriend doesn't want her to have a baby, and her mom wants her to get an abortion, but she could die. i say talk to a doctor and her mom about all this, and all your opinions and whatnot, and try to figure something out. but as for having sex w/ her boyfriend, i think you should definitely talk to her about it...but the baby isn't necessarily going to "die b/c of you" b/c you can't help that..so if you do feel up to telling her, go for it. i don't really think it's a good idea to keep that from her...i hope i helped, good luck!


love always,
*rach

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all right, i'm going to this wedding today and i'm bringing my best guy friend and now i'm feeling nervous. see i have this huge family and i'm worried they will bug him or make him feel uncomfortable. i can't cancel because he seems to really want to go an i'm just worried my family will scare him away or something. what would you guys do in this situation? i already warned him but he just laughed and said he was sure it would be fine... but still i'm nervous. help?

hey! well if your parents do that, let them know that you really don't want them to make you nervous...or him feel uncomfortable/nervous either. let them know that he's your guest basically and you just want him to have a good time. and if you want to tell your parents this ahead of time before the wedding and all, go for it! just for the sake of both of you.....but i'm sure it'll go great!! good luck =) hope i helped!


much love,
*rach

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Before I wrorte that my Best friend, and the guy I've known since kindergarten are going out.... and I didnt want them getting home.... but they did, and know my best freind is going to have a baby! What do I do?????

hey again, well you really need to be there for all of them, and let them know that you're there to help and all...there's not much else you can do except that hun, since she's already pregnant. good luck!! =)


love always,
-x- rachel -x-

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Alright I can't get a gf, they all reject me. Gosh even during church they do! What can I do to get someone to like me that I have already asked out, but I really like not because of looks.
Is it even possible?

--Jordan
13

hey hun, you don't absolutely HAVE to get a gf..friends are sometimes better. but i definitely understand where you're coming from, and i know who this is..i think =) so anyway, sometimes you just need to not try so hard. i know it sounds weird but it's true. like you can't get your hopes up too high when you get to know a girl and you start liking them..and most of the time, at this age anyway, people are mean and inconsiderate =\ soo it helps to just sort of forget about getting a gf, and just make a friend ...and then things can turn out so much better than friends, meaning that it could end that you go out w/ that girl =) so i suggest that you choose wisely and not get your hopes up too high, b/c that always SUCKS!!! and wait til you find that "one special girl" if you know what i mean, b/c i'm positive she'll come along soon enough.. and at this age, its always hard to know when we found that special person b/c we're too young to understand stuff. and trust me, it'll be so much better when you've found someone who you like a lot b/c it'll most likely last so much longer and the whole relationship will be SO much better than just "puppy love".. or than just a simple crush. and i think that overall you'll have a lot more together when you do find someone who is right for you. also, if they can't like you for who you are, then they aren't worth it! and to tell you the truth, i'm in the same situation now..i can't seem to find someone who is right for me, then again no one is perfect..but yeah. so what i'm doing is just simply forgetting that i don't have anyone, and think about the good stuff that i DO have, and i know that that "one special guy" will come along sometime..."best things come to those who wait" ..i hope i helped, and good luck! love ya lots


love always,
*rachel

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I really like this boy, and he's been my friend since we were in kindergarten, and he's always liked me, and I now like him. BUt now that I like him, my best friend is going out with him. I have no idea what to do..... should I tell him, and hope he likes me, or just sit on the sidelines, and watch them get HOME?

hey! well i don't think you should try to break them up or anything like that, but i think you should tell both of them if you really feel comfortable w/ that, and just let them know that you're a bit upset (if you are) but that you don't want to ruin their relationship...and if the guy you like wants to go w/ you instead of the other girl after you tell him that you like him, then thats cool. but try to avoid drama and all that b/c if the guy you like does choose you, then your friend will get mad..soo that always sucks, so try to avoid people getting mad at each other and drama as much as possible. and if you're friend knew that you liked him, and then went out w/ him, that's not what a good friend would do..but if she doesn't know, then thats different. but i think that you should just camly tell both of them that you like him, and see what happens..and like i said, try to avoid the drama and all that! b/c....thats never fun =\ and when you said, "watch them get home" , i'm guessing that means..have sex? soo, going back to before..if you're friend knows that you like him and they have sex, thats also not a good friend..but i doubt they'll take it that far. at least, i hope not. but don't just "sit on the sidelines" and pretend like nothing's happening, you should definitely talk to them about it! and i'm sure it'll all work out fine =) i hope i helped! good luck =)


love always,
*rachel

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Hey!, well here's the deal. My friend has been going out with this guy for about a month now and they have been keeping ita secret. Too bad i didnt know until about a week ago when i admitted to liking him, but not infront of her. Now that i like him, i found out they go out. And then to top it all off, she asked me if i liked him. imediately i responded no, lying. but he and i have gotten kinda close(in my opinion) and i tlod her last night. And i am afraid they may break up making me look like a whore. Then to top it all off, i dont know what to do with my feelings about him.
Hope you can help

hey! you should talk to your friend, and let her know that you lied b/c you didnt want them to break up. and tell the truth-- tell her that you like him, but you don't want to ruin anything that they have together. and as for your feelings for him, if you don't want to break them up then just stay friends for now! people aren't together FOREVER, so you might have a chance..but like i said, you can still be pretty close friends w/ him...just b/c your friend and him are going out doesnt mean you can't be friends w/ him. and it's not your fault that you didn't know about them going out, but let your friend know that you don't want to ruin anything w/ anyone. and also, i doubt you'll be called a "whore" if something goes wrong..that's not acting like a whore, so its all good! but like i said, just talk w/ your friend about everything and don't lie b/c that'll just make things worse..and you can always stay good friends w/ him! =) i hope i helped! good luck!!!!! =)


love always,
*rachel

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ive looked at your advice pagge for a wile, and now i acullay have a question to ask ^_^; well you see, me and my gf were getting kinda "touchy" and then i started to take my cloths off, and i asked her to give me head, and she kinda backed away at first, then i kinda forced her her to do it...now i feel really bad about it, and i don't know what to say to her..plz help ='(

hey...wow.....um..
i don't think its called "rape" but first of all, you shouldn't force anyone to do anything they hesitate to do..but that's over w/ now and you cant go back. so here's what i recommend you do:
definitely talk to her about it and tell her that you're really sorry for forcing her into it, and that you feel really bad about it..and just basically talk it over w/ her, b/c you can't just go on like nothing happened you know what i mean? so seriously, just bring it up in a convo or w/e works best for you, and definitely let her know that you're sorry and whatnot. i hope i helped..i think i know who this is......good luck!


love always,
*rachel

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