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OKay! Don't get me wrong, I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND, but sometimes it feels like we aren't as good as we used to be. I dont' know, I mean I dont' want anything to happen to us. It's just, he's been away a lot and stuff and I mean, it feels weird, because it's not like I miss him even that much anymore. I dont' know! It is just different and I really don't like it. Please help me out. How do I relit our flame? And is this normal? I'll rate HIGH and leave FEEDBACK
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Mzybe the old flame you had for each other died out. Talk to him and see what will make the relationship more exciting. It's perfectly normal, he might of lost interest in you. It happens!
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It's completely normal for a couple to hit a point where you're different from the way you used to be. This is partially because you're now comfortable with each other and probably not putting as much effort into the relationship.
Pick one day a week (or every 2 weeks or every month-whatever you decide) and set it aside as your couple day. Snuggle on the couch while you watch a movie. Pack a romantic picnic. Try an activity you've both wanted to try (sky-diving, skiing, hiking, roller-blading, etc). Go for a ride on a deserted road and make out. Take a blanket outside and lay down and watch the stars. Recreate your first date.
You can also do little things at other times. If you can, go to work with him. Help him work on his car. Even if you don't know which tool is what, he can always describe it so you can find it. Slip a little note in his car telling a reason why you love him. Give him a hug or kiss for no reason. Light some candles with your dinner. Even fast food can be romantic when placed on real plates at the table with candles glowing.
My husband and I set aside Sunday as our day since it's the only day he doesn't work. Both our friends and family know not to call or come by on this day unless it's an emergency. We go hiking to see waterfalls, take a bubble bath together, put on music and dance in the living room, pick a road just to see where it goes, go to yard sales, and other things too. I give him a kiss every time he comes home and every time he leaves and always make sure to tell him often how much I love him.
The key to a strong relationship is trying new things together and always letting your significant other know how much you love them.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
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Hey!
Of course this is normal! This is just a "phase" in your relationship. It happens in every close relationship with two people who love each other. Don't be alarmed by this. Sometimes, if you don't spend that much time together, you start to drift away from each other, emotionally and all that means is you need to spend more time with each other.
This is on both of you. You should talk to him and tell him that you don't want to break up, you just want to get as close as you were with him. You want to spend more time with him and if he loves you, he'll understand and take in your feelings and understand how you feel and hopefully, he'll agree with you and make an effort to make you feel comfortable again.
Trust me.
If you need any help or just want to talk, email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?
Either that, or just email me in my advice inbox.
Best of luck to you!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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hey! well i really don't think anything is wrong..it seems pretty normal, but i suggest you talk to him! let him know that you don't want things to get messed up or change in any way between you two, but that sometimes you have different feelings about certain things. i really think you should talk to him...and i'm sure he'll understand! =) i think the best way to "re-light your flame", is just to talk to him and let him know how you feel and you guys can talk about it and work things out. when you talk to him about it, i'm sure you'll feel soo much better about everything! it doesn't sound weird or abnormal to me at all. i hope i helped, good luck! =)
xoxo love always,
*rach
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well to relite your flame do some things that you both used to love doing . . .before the confusion thats what i used to tell my parents when they needed to spark their love life to the fullest again . . ..***hope i helped***
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I know where your coming from with this.. Your feelings havent changed so dont worry about that cause ***you know deep inside if you guys broke up you'd be torn into pieces..*** well i think its normal for being with somebody for a while and not missing them AS MUCH.. now you probably dont feel like you absolutely need him all the time.. dont feel bad about this its normal.. Just always remember how you feel about him and if it makes you feel better maybe try talking to him.. ♥ dez
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I dont care about have a high rate or feedback, but its nice. I just really want to help you out because I used to be in that situation. Maybe you two were spending too much time together before and now you two are starting to get bored of each other. Have you tried talking to him about this? Remember he may feel the same way you feel and he might not be sure if its okay to talk about it with you. Telling him how you feel is a big part dont let everything get out of hand then you want to try to tell him. Always tell him ahead of time. Sharing about how you two feel is the biggest part of a relationship. Maybe you two should take a break from each other or try getting closer. If you take a break you see how much you really miss him because taking a break for a long time will help make your relationship stronger. When you two are away from each other you'll think of each other and know what you should or shouldn't do. Things change in a relationship sometimes for the better or worse. You can't always have everything your way. This change could be good for you two because it will should you if you two really care for each other and need each other. Hope this helps you!
-Manda
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I think you're at the point where you spend so much time together, you start to get tired of your partner.
I suggest you two have a "break". It usually does some good because although you're spending time away from each other, you're not officially over yet. The time away from each other should either let you know how much you miss him when you're not with him, or it will let you know you are better off breaking up. I suggest you give it lots of time though before breaking up. I'd hate for you to break up and regret it.
Just think about WHY you love him. If you can't think of why you love him or you don't feel the same about those reasons anymore, it's probably time to break up with him. It always helps to think of the long run. Would this guy be HUSBAND material? If not, don't bother wasting your time and break up with him gently.
If you decide to stay with him, don't be frustrated if you don't feel the same about him when you first fell in love. It's like a cycle...eventually you get tired or have conflict with your partner, but if you resolve it your relationship ends up even stronger. The cycle may never end, but it's worth it if you're with someone you really, really love.
Dating is all about experiencing new things, bonding with someone, and finding out what you need and want. If things don't work out, you move on and live life.
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