Hola! The name's Caitlin, 20, college junior. Being an oddball myself, I love to give an encouraging word to those who are "different", but I'll awnser advice on anything.Tell me whatever you want. I'll awnser any question so long as it's sincere, and I'd really love the occaisonal joke or humerous post.
NOTE- If anyone here reads my column on a regular basis, you may notice that my feedback as dropped a bit suddenly. This is because I got a low L2 rating on a question I responded to. Please note that in general, I do pay strict attention to my grammar and such. I am an English major, after all. But at the time I was looking at that question, it was late at night, and I was tired. Focusing on giving what help I could, I didn't even notice the multiple spelling mistakes. Needless to say, I am rather upset at having my rating so damaged by this one event. Please realize that while I care deeply about the professional look of my responses, I care more about what I am SAYING. I'll try to be more observant in the future. Thank you.
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ok im 13/f and i dont know if im bi or not cuz like sometime si catch myself wanting to "do" things with girls and like i think gurls bodies are cute or "hot" and when i was 12 a girl hit on me went to kiss me and i DIDNT back away...please i dont know if im a lesbien or if girls are just like this please help me i rate REALLY high..thanks so much! (link)
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Hmm. That's a tough one because on the one hand, you are experiencing the "classic symptoms of discovering bisexual tendencies" (Doctor fancy language for realing you're a lesbian), but on the other hand feelings like that are often normal for girls around your age. Try talking to friends or just people in general who are homosexual. They might be able to help you sort things out. Talk to your parents, too, if they aren't too anti-gay. Try and decide wether you just admire other females or if you actually feel attracted to them. And, most importantly, if you do come to the conclusion that you are bisexual, remember- there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. Be proud of who you are!
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i need help right now ! theres this toolbar called mirar at the top of my internet explorer and its says gay and lesbian stuff and my dad has to get on the computer i want it gone NOW !! i right clicked and told it to go away how can i get rid of it for good !!
ill rate 5's!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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http://www.kephyr.com/spywarescanner/library/mirartoolbar.b/index.phtml
Try this site, see if what they say works
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can social isolation make you go insane?
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It depends. But yes, people who are locked up totally alone for very long (like months of years) periods of time will eventually go insane.
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how bad is weed fa real? no bullshit. (link)
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It can destroy your life or kill you. No bullshit there.
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one of my guy firneds recently told me that he thinks he has a sort of cancer. he says he's sore all the time and there are some over symptons (which he didn't tell me what they are) he hasn't told his mom or anyone (i'm working on it...) but i think he said something about there being a bump too... does anyone know what this is??? please help
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Yikes. Well, keep working on him. He needs to go to a doctor and find out for sure. Even if he doesn't tell his mom. It doesn't sound like any cancer I've heard of, but not knowing the other symptoms it's hard to tell. Support him, and let him know you understand why he's nervous, but remind him that if you're going to fight something, you have to know what it is. What you don't know CAN hurt you sometimes.
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I have a boyfriend and I have NO IDEA what to get or make him for Christmas. I've asked him, but he keeps saying he doesn't know! AHH! && Well he plays the guitar and I don't know I was thinking about making him a double necklace with 2 crosses on them, but then I'm not sure! What do guys want for Christmas?! Or good ideas for other gifts to make? Anything. Please.
5's for thoughts.
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The necklace sounds cute! And remember, as cheesy as it sounds, it really is the thought that matters. Food is always a good thing with men. Maybe something music themed since he plays guitar?
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Ok. I'm going to this party tongith and the guy I like is gonna be there. My friend likes him to...we are definetly gonna play spin the bottle.
What the heck should I do!!!!!! (link)
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Just have fun with it! Sadly you can't make the bottle land on who you want. If it lands on the guy you like, just take a deep breath and be yourself. If it's someone else, just be sweet and give them a friendly kiss. Don't worry- in this case, it really is just a game, lol.
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Okay...I've had my period for exactly 2 years as of December 5. I want to use tampons, and I know how to put them in and all the dangers. But I have a few other questions:
Does it hurt going in/while its in/coming out?
What is an appropriate size?
What exactly does Toxic Shock Sydrome do to your body?
How do you know that you have TSS?
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1. Not if you're doing it right. Just relax, read the instructions, and follow them. You'll be fine.
2. The smallest size possible. That'll help with it not hurting
3 & 4- I'm not a doctor, so I'm not even going to try to answer these. The information should be on the instructions of the tampon box. If you need to know more, call someone who does know. I will say this- almost nobody who uses tampons correctly gets TSS.
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ok im 13/f and me and my bf have been goin out for like 3 weeks now and our birthdays are really close (3 days). he dosent have money so he felt bad he didnt get me anything... i mean REALLY bad. so bad that one of my friends told him i was crying over it! he stil feels bad but honestly... I DONT CARE! i mean sure it would be nice to get something from him but yea i dont care. well heres the thing... he said hes going to get me somthing for x-mas and i shouldnt get him anything since he didnt get me anything for my birthday. but..... he said that about his birthday present that i gave him, i didnt want to get him one b/c it would make him feel bad but then everyone was like "omg its not going to make him feel bad! get him somthing!" so yea i did.
i dont no if i should get him anything. PLZZZZ HELP!!!!
if you think i should then tell me what i should get him.... i have already heard about gift cars (but i cant do that b/c thats what i got him for his birthday), CDs, music, but i need a lot more ideas!!!
HHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Go ahead and get him something. Just assure him you got it because you wanted to, not because you "had" to or anything. Make it a simple thing. A CD of his favorite band, some fresh-baked cookies, or a subscription to a magazine he likes, perhaps.
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I have a coworker that didnt get any shifts for two weeks. I found out that she had been extremely rude to a customer (we work in clothing retail) so her hours were cut back. Well the boss decided to give her two shifts this week and guess what she was a NO SHOW both times!!! Me and the other girls think she did that because she was mad at the boss for not giving her any shifts for two weeks. Either that or she didnt know she had any shifts because she had two weeks of no work. But either way it was her responsbility to know if she was working or not.
My question is would that be grounds for her termination? I have a theory that after she was so rude to the customer that they didnt want to fire her but were hoping she would just go away, and by not giving her any work she would get mad and quit. I was actually surprised they gave her any more shifts at all. I asked if the boss was mad that she didnt show up and they said no.
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Yeah, she'll probably get fired. And that's if she hasn't been already. Being rude to customers is bad enough. Skipping work? I don't see how they'd want to keep her working there.
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hey! im on advicenators too but ive started my page and no one is giving feedback or questions help!!!!! (link)
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I have the same problem, actually, lol. Just keep at it. The Random Question button is your friend. I keep answering them in hopes I'll soon have enough ratings to have them posted, and that then I might start building a reputation. Just give good, honest, advice to as many people as you can. All it takes is couple recomendations- and then people will start coming to you. Good luck!
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My best guy friend's name is "Jay". I have liked him more than a friend for a really long time and Im too shy to tell him how i feel. He flirts with me, but it might just be "friendly flirting". I really dont know what to do, is there anyway i could let him know i like him without it being too obvious or anything else?
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If he's flirting with you, he has some intrest. Ask him if he'd like so study together or grab a bite to eat after school. Start it out as a friendly thing and progress from there. Group dates also make things either.
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okay so theres this holiday dance for the school on sunday. and i dont know what to wear. like me and my friends wanna do something good for it. another group of my friends are being christmas trees and another elves. what do you think me and a few of my friends should be? i was like thinking red n green with a santa hat? i dunno. lol please help! thanks so much (link)
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How formal is this dance? Maybe a red blouse and greenish skirt? The santa hat idea is cute. Or maybe you could be reindeer and dress in brown with little fake antlears? Lol, Im not to good at the fashion stuff. Maybe you could talk to some other friends not going as elves or trees, and go as something else with them? Have fun!
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ok, i have a boyfriend and im head over heels in love with him but i have a problem...he is using me...i know he is, he knows he is, everyone knows he is. im not sure what to do...i cant let go of him, ive tried...but i just run right back to him. we are on a break right now and there is this really great guy that likes me and i tried "talking" to him but i cant...i just cant seem to let go of my boyfriend. i know this sounds mushy and gushy but i love him so much i just cant let him go...ok the guy that likes me we will just give him a name "josh" well i went over to josh's house sat. night and watched a movie but anything i did just made me want my boyfriend even more...i know its crazy right...my boyfriend has cheated on me the whole 9 yards, but i still cant let go...what should i do? (link)
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Don't say you can't let go. You can, it's just that you don't want to. Its hard letting go, but you need to. Your boyfriend doesn't treat you right and he doesn't deserve you. He needs to take a hike. I know Im being blunt, but a guy who cheats isn't deserving of any woman's love. Give it time. Stay away from this guy (the boyfriend), keep yourself busy. Force yourself not to think about him. After a while, start hanging out with this new guy just as a friend. Progress from there if you want. You do not need your boyfriend to happy. I know it feels like you do, but you have friends, family, and, most importantly, your own life. Hope this helps some. If you need more support, feel free to e-mail or IM me. ^^
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ok i have a problem i lied to my boyfriend once and now he never believes me about anything and i want to gain his trust back but im not quite sure how...can you give me any advice? (link)
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Prove to him you're trustworthy. Appologze for the time you lied again. Promice it wont happen again again. Be trustworthy, and edventually he'll realze you are. Be patient. It just takes time.
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Okay so i am a 14/f and i have a disability called cerebral palsy (cp). This diability affects my legs and makes me walk very differently from others which can make people juge,stare and make fun of me. Now my friends who are 13 and 14 have a had at least 1 boyfriend and madeout and stuff like that. I have never had or done either of these, is this because of my disbility (does it scare or bother guys?). Aside from the disability i am a normal person with other than this problem a normal socail life....will i ever a romance coming my way?? please be honest no pity. (link)
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To be blunt, there's a good chance your disability is partially responsible for not having a boyfriend. That, however, is not remotely or in any way your fault. It's due to a largely material, appearence-based society that fears being different. The good news is that there are good people out there. Your friends. The people who treat you right. It might take a little longer, but there's someone out there waiting to see past your disability and care about you for who you are. The other guys don't deserve you anyway. Good luck!
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I know this sounds really weird, but is it normal to have a little crush on a character in a movie? Not the actor, but the character. Because, I have no idea why, but I kind of have a crush on the Phantom from "Andrew Lloyd Webber's Phantom..." I don't know why. Maybe it's because he's so dramatic, you really feel for him, has a great voice, and/or the unmasked side of his face is goodlooking. Is this pathetic? (link)
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Um...that doesn't sound weird at all. Because, of course, I don't do the exact same thing myself. Really. *cough*
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is it weird when the girl is taller than the guy in a relationship? (link)
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Weird? Possibly a little bit. Wrong? Not in any way, shape, or form. Be different! Be with who you want!
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Ahhh I'm a female..My age I rather not share.. but my 8 best friends are all a bit older and not to mention all guys.. weeelllll. I've kind of made out with them all, then some other stuff (but I wasn't really sober, so it doesn't count?).. anyway.. I've never really considered a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with any of them.. and they never showed interest either.. I recently started going out with someone else (none of my 8 friends), and they all seem to be mad at me for it.. its as if my entire world turned its back on me.. and I hate it.are they jealous, or maybe looking out for me, or something else? I don't know why they're mad.. Is there a way I can make them not be mad anymore without dumping my current boyfriend? (link)
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I won't say getting drunk and kissing all your friends wasn't a bad idea. That's your fault, so do face up to the fact you're gonna encounter problems. However, these guys have no right to be jealous. Tell them so. You're only friends. And if they can't accept that, find friends who will. Appologise for any part you had in inhibited make-out sessions, but don't let them take advantage of you.
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im 16.. im in love with a guy that is 15. we went out for 4 months. but ive known him for almost 3 years now. i lost my virginity to him. one day we did it and everything was normal. the next day he calls me and says, "lets take a break, then when i think we are ready to make this a serious thing ill ask you back out." i was just like um okay? well then a couple days later i hear hes going out with some chick from his school. so hes "taking a break with me" to go out with some other chick. that really hurt me. because im in love with him. well i saw him and he didnt say anything to me. he kept like 10 feet away from me. and i was pissed off about the whole situation. then the next day i call him to talk about everything going on and he called me a b**** and i was like why are you calling me that? and he was like i heard what you said to people last night about me. i was like what did you hear? hes like you just trash-talked about me the whole night to my friends and family. and he hung up on me. so i call him back and left him a message, because he didnt answer, and i was crying and i said "the only thing i said to anyone was that i was in love with you". and that is the first time i told him how i felt about him. ive never told him i was in love with him before. and i havent heard from him since. what should i do about this whole situation and the next time i see him? and i see him quite often because my mom works for his dad. i dont know what to do PLEASE help. this may turn into suicide. he was the only thing i had. (link)
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First of all, don't let it turn into suicide. He doesn't deserve to be all you have. It sounds like crap, but there are people who love you. Live for them. Talk to someone, anyone if you must. Hang in there. If things really are completely lost, they can only get better, and if they aren't, you have a reason to live. As for this guy, my advice is simple: loose him, ignore him, and find someone who deserves you. Good luck, and feel free to write or e-mail me if you need more support.
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