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ok, i have a boyfriend and im head over heels in love with him but i have a problem...he is using me...i know he is, he knows he is, everyone knows he is. im not sure what to do...i cant let go of him, ive tried...but i just run right back to him. we are on a break right now and there is this really great guy that likes me and i tried "talking" to him but i cant...i just cant seem to let go of my boyfriend. i know this sounds mushy and gushy but i love him so much i just cant let him go...ok the guy that likes me we will just give him a name "josh" well i went over to josh's house sat. night and watched a movie but anything i did just made me want my boyfriend even more...i know its crazy right...my boyfriend has cheated on me the whole 9 yards, but i still cant let go...what should i do?
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my GOD you seem like such a booty call now!
you seem like you have no dignity to the guy THATS why hes using you he sees that your the one whos runnin after him and that you would never leave him even if he did cheat on you so what the hell why shouldnt he be cheatin on you?you gave him all the rights to.if i were you (no matter how much i love him) id go up to him and say you know what ive had it with you mistreatin me and im dumpin you.see that other guy that you say is nice.
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Don't say you can't let go. You can, it's just that you don't want to. Its hard letting go, but you need to. Your boyfriend doesn't treat you right and he doesn't deserve you. He needs to take a hike. I know Im being blunt, but a guy who cheats isn't deserving of any woman's love. Give it time. Stay away from this guy (the boyfriend), keep yourself busy. Force yourself not to think about him. After a while, start hanging out with this new guy just as a friend. Progress from there if you want. You do not need your boyfriend to happy. I know it feels like you do, but you have friends, family, and, most importantly, your own life. Hope this helps some. If you need more support, feel free to e-mail or IM me. ^^
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Cut him out of your life completely. Get your friends to help you, because it'll be hard, but worth it. You have to question the feelings of any guy who cheats on you-- especially if it was more than once. You're probably feeling attached to your boyfriend because since you love him, you're subconsciously hoping that he'll change & it'll go back to the way things once were. But you're perfectly aware that he's using you-- you need to get out of that relationship! Since he's such a big part of your life, it won't be easy, but it's best for you. You'll find another guy who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
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Just let him go. Try as hard as you can. I know its not what you want to here but he obviously doesn't care as much about you as you do about him. He's not worth it. Talk it over with your friends and I can almost garuntee they'll say the same thing. Good luck and I truely hope everything works out for you in the long run.
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ok hun, YOU HAVE TO LET HIM GO, this "josh" guy seems like a great guy and trust me, i know exactly how hard it is to let go, but you have to. do you really want him to be using you for the rest of your life??? do you know how many other loves you will find?? a ton!! i think the best thing to do is cut yourself off from contact with your "boyfriend" and give this josh guy a chance but make it clear that you just got out of a very serious relationship and take it slow. i hope i helped and good luck. just remember to be strong.
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