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Question 4 the guys out there (and gurls)
Okay so i am a 14/f and i have a disability called cerebral palsy (cp). This diability affects my legs and makes me walk very differently from others which can make people juge,stare and make fun of me. Now my friends who are 13 and 14 have a had at least 1 boyfriend and madeout and stuff like that. I have never had or done either of these, is this because of my disbility (does it scare or bother guys?). Aside from the disability i am a normal person with other than this problem a normal socail life....will i ever a romance coming my way?? please be honest no pity.
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WEll, I'm going to be frank with you. Most guys want the "perfect model girls". And even at this age..that's all they're interested in. But honey, even with the cp. You're too young to be wanting to make out or get into a "serious relationship" anyways. Wait..the right guy will come along who will like you and appreciate you for who you really are.
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To be blunt, there's a good chance your disability is partially responsible for not having a boyfriend. That, however, is not remotely or in any way your fault. It's due to a largely material, appearence-based society that fears being different. The good news is that there are good people out there. Your friends. The people who treat you right. It might take a little longer, but there's someone out there waiting to see past your disability and care about you for who you are. The other guys don't deserve you anyway. Good luck!
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It's not going to affect your love life in the long run, don't worry =). Granted, when you're young, people tend to be wary of anything "different"-- so I won't lie to you, it could scare guys off just because they're not familiar with it-- but they're not worth your time anyways. The type of guy you want to be with-- one who loves you for you, for your personality, & embraces your disability-- isn't going to care that you walk differently. You're still young-- lots of people with perfectly functioning legs haven't had a boyfriend by age 14-- don't worry about it.
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You'll definately have romance in your life! Hello, guys are completely immature and it takes them forever to grow up and realize that you are a great person. Romance at this age, trust me, isn't all it's cracked up to be. If I were you, I would wait until romance actually meant something other than putting "i <3 u, ______" in your buddy profile. Until then, flirt away and have FUN.
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At your age it might well scare off the boys. Probably because they just aren't sure how to treat you. They should know to treat you the same as everyone else, but, that's just how a lot of them are.
Will you ever have a romance? Of course you will.
If you have a good personality sooner or later one of them...or, one you haven't even met yet, will open their eyes and see past the way you walk.
Are you shy, or are you pretty outgoing?
What you might try is going up to guys and talking to them. Let them see you are just the same as they are. Get involved in things and participate as much as you can.
If you have to do something a little differently because of your CP, learn to laugh about it and have a sense of humor.
Discuss CP with them (though don't make it the only thing you talk about!) Pretty soon they will look past it. It won't be something they feel awkward about any more, they will just see it as part of you. Right now its all they see.
Good luck and hang in there. Somewhere out there someone is just waiting for you. :)
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