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Gender: Male
Location: Cincinnati Ohio
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Age: 17
AIM: Kipskywalk
Member Since: October 16, 2005
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hey hey it's me again...ok so i am not giving him the cd..i relized are friendship was more important than my feelings towards him..but ya anyways instead i am still giving him the poems but do you think if i wrote out the lyrics to one of his favourite songs do you think he would like it??? its not really a love song which is kool its "you can count on me" by default..do u think it would put a smile on his face when he opens in the plane..cuz he is leavin to go to his moms for the holidays:(. talk to you soon (link)
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Yea I think that would be a great idea. Sorry I didn't reply sooner. School and work has been crazy and doesn't leave time for much else. The lyrics are a really good idea though, as long as it's geared more towards fun than romance. I have to go now and finish cleaning my room or else I'm grounded. Good luck, and happy holidays to you!
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hey you have answered before about the "john" remember well thing is he knows i like him and no i didnt mean like kissin or stuff..just holding hands alot...but anyways well..he knows how i feel and he liked freaked on me...it hurt ..a lot..and i have been workin on this project thingy secret surprise for him..he says he wants it but i personally dont think he does cuz its a cd with mixed love songs slash i will be there for you type of songs plus some poems i have written..he like freak at me and still wants it..but i barly talk to him right now i figured i would give him some times to clam down...but i miss him and the way it was before he freaked...please help, or at least tell me somthine to do to keep my mind of him...specially since he is my best friend and i dont think i want to lose anymore of my friends... (link)
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Yea, definately don't give it to him any time soon. If he freaked out when he found out you liked him he's freak even more if he knew you were spending all this time and energy on him. Keep it though, because you never know when it'll come in handy. This may sound kinda bad, but it might even be something you can give to another guy down the road. You do need to give him time though, and try talking to him every once and a while to see when things return to normal. Only after that happens should you even consider giving him the thing you made. Good luck!
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ok. so i made out with him.
and it was unthinkable amazing.
he usually calls 2x a day just to say he's thinking about me, leaves notes in my locket, sweet stupid stuff.
i had 2 call him the day after. fine.
its been 3 days since then.
he hasn't called. ouch.
why?
am i that bad at making out?
or is it something to do with him?
plz just tell me the truth...even if it sucks.
id rather know.
thanx. (link)
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He might just be really busy. I have been too, that's why I didn't respond to this sooner, sry! But everyone is busy from time to time. It could be that simple. If not, it's possible he's not yet sure what kind of relationship he wants to be going on between the two of you. He might be torn between wanting just to be friends and to be more than friends. Sometimes in that situations its best not to talk to the person for a few days to try to see how not communicating with them affects your life. The other possibility is the one you don't want to hear; that he just used you to get some and now wants you to leave him alone. I'm sorry if that's the case, but even if it is, you don't need a guy like that. You not only deserve better, but should demand better. I know I responded late on this one, so let me know if there were any developements in the time it took for me to get back to you, and the best of luck!
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this is the girl that asked u about the whole mike thing(about us hanging out and what not) but anyways i wanted to start out by saying thanks for the help..it meant a lot! but anyways i have another problem! well last night i talked to him and it went HORRIBLE! i imed him and was like this is a little weird and hes like yeah i know what you mean..so then i was like what do you mean, why do you say that? and he was like same reason as you probably, why do you? and i was like well all my feelings came back and he was like its just weird thats all (well if his answer was gonna be the same as mine and he knew that..i know..why was it totally different..doesnt make sense..dunno if he was hiding something or what) well then i asked him why he did it and he said i suck and i was like well why do you say that? and he was like cause i do i wanted you to stop me..i was like what the heck you wanted me to stop you from kissing me when you know i love you..it just didnt make sense to me..how could you seriously do that to a person? so then i was like do you like doing this to me and he was like no no no no no and i was like why do you? do you like me crying all the time? and he was like no actually i find it kind of annoying! so i was like you know what fine sorry for being annoying and sorry i came into your life ill just leave! well he ended up blocking me for like 30 minutes and took me off his friend on myspace! i know i reacted a little harsh but after him being like this for 9 months and even telling me 6 months after we broke up he loved me..it causes a lot of pain!ive told a lot of my friends i give up and im done cause i know i deserve better! but they keep saying we know he loves you, you can tell he just doesnt wanna admit to it! but no one knows but him! i told them hes not the one crying all the time but they said you dont know that..and i guess they have a point! i guess my question is what do i do from here? do you think hes playing hard to get or scared to tell me his feelings? should i give up or what? sometimes i just think it isnt worth it anymore! thanks so much (link)
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Well if someone loves and won't admit it, they may as well not love at all. What's the point of liking someone if nobody else knows? You'll never end up with this person. It's absolutely pointless. And by him not directly saying he likes you, this leaves that door open for him to mess around with both you and another girl. I'm not saying that's what he's doing, but it's a possibility. I know what guys are thinking and stuff, and most of them (at this age) aren't too worried about hurting a girl as long as they get what they want (as guys get older they mature a lot and become more true). My friends do it all the time, and it's disgusting because guys think it's cool to lead on/play girls. As I mentioned before, I don't know Mike. He might be a really pure guy that's just really confused. Just make sure you watch out.
What you should do now is to really evaluate if the pain you're enduring for him is worth it. It may sounds kinda stupid, but actually sit down and write out a chart of the good/bad things about him, the good/bad times you guys have, the things in common/differences you have. Be honest while doing this, and see if there are more positive than negative things. If there are more negative, its obvious you should try to move on. If it's even close to being a tie you should think about moving on. A relationship, after all, is about happiness and fun. Not tears and agony. You should be enjoying yourself while you're finding the right guy and dating him. You should't have to edure this pain everyday, unless you think it's really worth it. Don't act too fast, but don't be too indecisive. Sometimes all you need to do is step outside of yourself and view this sitation from someone else's perspective. What do you think you should do? Good luck, and as always, please let me know if I can help you out any more! I'm always here :)
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*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much (link)
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It sounds to me like you guys are at two different levels. He sounds like the kind of guy that just wants to have fun and mess around. You seem more like the kind of person that wants a serious relationship. Unfortunately, these interests directly conflict with one other. I don't think he wants to be "held down" to one girl right now. As long as you understand this, and are ok with it, there's nothing wrong with you two messing around. But if you want more than just a fun fling every now and then (which it sounds like you do want more) then you should look to find a new guy. Most of the time, after an initial relationship, it's very difficult for things to work between two people. Instead of things falling naturally together, you have to make things work. Relationships are supposed to be about fun and happiness, not 'making things work'. You should keep trying to get in touch with him, but if it takes more than 3 or 4 days, he's not trying at all. You don't want a guy that's not trying. If you are able to talk to him, let him know exactly what you're thinking. Tell him you feel like you're being lead on. When he responds, don't listen so much to the words he says, but how he says them. Listen for tone to tell if he's lying, being passionate, being dissmissive, etc. Don't let him be the guy that plays you for a fool. If you have any instinct whatsoever that you're being stringed along or played, stop and examine it thoroughly. I think I fully answered your question, if not don't hesitate to ask me to be more specific! This is a very important matter that needs to be delt with correctly, but I'm sure you can manage :). Good luck!
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so i want to gain some weight..but what should i be eating/drinking to stay healthly? i'm 5'0, 14, and I weigh 85. (high metabolism, yo) (link)
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Instead of trying to gain weight by eating, try gaining it by working out. Lift and run everyday and get in a regular routine. As a teenager you'll be amazed how fast you'll see results with consistent effort and work ethic. It'll look a lot better than fat you might gain from eat McDonald's everyday too. If you get really into it you can start taking the protein shakes and stuff each morning. It's really fulfilling emotionally too. It sounds kinda gay but you'd be surprised. Hope you get what you're looking for, See ya
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okay well theres this guy at school. he really really likes me and i dont know what too do. i mean hes really nice and all but not too be shallow but hes not all that attractive. i would date him because hes such a nice guy but when i think about doing anything with him. like sexual stuff. i completely get turned off but its not like that with other guys. what should i do? whats going on? (link)
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Well that's a tough situation. It goes back to the whole "Date someone for looks or personality?" question. Of course all of us are gonna say we date people for personality and not looks, but when it comes down to it, looks are important. Many of us can't go purely for personality. I know I can't. While personality is very important, looks matter as well. It comes down to how you, as an individual, feel about him. Sometimes as you like someone and become more involved with them, they actually become more attractive. It's some physchiological thing... I don't want to get into it. That's something to keep in mind. And also, maybe he's the kind of guy you'd just want around as a friend? Friends with benefits maybe? Consider all the possibilities and keep an open mind. Most importantly, there's no need to rush and make a decision. Go at your own speed and what you're comfortable with. This is only high school, so it's our time to make mistakes. That way we know what we want as adults. I hope that helped out, let me know if I can help ya anymore.
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So is it true what they say, that once you are friends with a girl you are trapped in the friend zone forever, and it will never grow into something more? or is it just a myth? (link)
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No, that's definately just a rumor. There are some challenges that are presented if you're really good friends with a girl though. I'm a teen guy so I've been in this exact situation before. Here are some of the challengers. First, you have to weigh the possibilty of losing that girl as a friend if the two of you have a bad breakup. Sometimes, even if you like a girl, it's not worth that risk of losing her. Second, you have to deal with the fact that you already know almost everything about each other. A lot of the fuel for teen relationships is the exploration of someones life. You keep learning new things about your partner and it fascinates you. If you go out with a good friends, however, this exploration factor isn't there. Another big downfall of dating a previous friend is that things can feel weird. Even if you both like each other as more than friends, sometimes going out can give you a strange feeling, especially if you decided to kiss or make out or more. That's a risk you take with any girl, I suppose. But there are good things too. Her friends will already approve or disapprove of you. She'll know going into it what they think, and that's one of the biggest deciding factors of a girl picking a guy. You'll be more comfortable with each other earlier, which means there probably won't be any ackward silences or something like that. Let me know if you have any other questions, and I hope I've helped out. Peace
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I need to get over this guy. I have liekd him for about 14 weeks and I finally decided that I have waited long enough. How do I get ovre him? Please respond quickly, I rate high for GOOD answers. (link)
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Getting over someone isn't something you can just force yourself to do. It'll happen when you're ready and it takes time. There are a few things you can try that might help to speed up the process though. The first thing is to keep busy. If you're busy doing other things you won't have time to let your mind wander to him. Try hanging out with friends a lot, watching movies, listening to music, playing a sport, maybe becoming involved in hobbies or something. Another thing you can try is to look for someone else that's worth thinking about instead of this guy. I'm sure that there's another guy out there that's perfect to fill that void you're feeling right now. Finally, make a list of the things your perfect guy would be. Physical attributes such as height, hair color, weight, body type, etc, as well as emotional and mental features: a good listener, passionate about life, friendly, etc. Compare your "perfect guy" to the guy you can't get over right now and see all the shortcomings of your current crush. That helps sometimes too. I hope this helped out, and let me know if you have any other questions :)
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Well ima keep this short............
Well i liked this guy ( ricardo) for three going on four years now( he has never really liked me in that way). we go to this high school together, it has really small there is only 16 people in the ninth grade( me included ). Well he likes my friend (tyler) and we are really close ( she knows i like him)........................here is the delema........................................they like each other! what do i do ! they dont go out but they come to me and tell me " i like him.................i like her". what do i do. i dont want to lose any friends but i wouldnt mind becoming closer to ricardo. please help ill rate high! (link)
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It sounds like part of the reason you might like Ricardo is because he's something you can't have. It's human nature to want what we can't have. That doesn't solve you're problem though, because I know it's hard to get over somebody no matter what the reason you like them is. The only consolation I can offer is that if you reach out and try to find another guy (which will probably be difficult since there's only 16 people in your grade) you will quickly realize how foolish you were for liking him only because you can't have him. It all likelyhood, he may even been leading you on a bit because he knows you won't stop liking him. I may be wrong, but I've been in and around situations like this for quite some time, and this is almost always the case. Personally, if two of my friends liked each other, I'd tell them to go out and just suck it up, but you may be less inclined to do so. If you like him that much, however, you'd want him to be happy no matter the cost to you. It's prolly not what you wanted to hear, but just something to think about. This is only advice after all. Think about it, hope I helped out. Let me know if you have any other questions or problems :)
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mmk so me and this guy have been dating for about a month now and just recently he told me he loved me and i had just gotten over my ex (which he doesn't know) and i didn't say it back because in my opinion its a bit too soon to be loving someone else. but i feel bad b/c i didn't say it. what should i do? i really like this guy but i'm not sure that i love him. help! (link)
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You should never say anything to a guy you're not comfortable with, just like you should never do anything with a guy if you're not comfortable with it. I'm a guy so I know that a lot of guys use the phrase "I love you" to get some. I'm not saying he's like that, cuz there are a lot of genuine guys out there too! But be careful, don't let him coerce you into anything you're not emotionally of physically ready for. Just keep your head and don't get caught up in the moment. I'm sure you'll do fine. Let me know if you have any other questions. :)
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is it wrong for a 17 year old guy to totally hit on you, flirt with you, invite you places,and like give you his cell number if you are 13? (link)
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I am a guy and I happen to be 17, and if a 17 year old is getting cell numbers and flirting with 13 year oldes, it usually means he just wants to get some. Not all guys are the same. He may be genuinly interested in you, but in most cases the age gap thing is just a tool used by older guys to flatter younger girls to get them to have sex or something. Like I said, this may not be the case, so just be careful. Don't do anything with him that you're not ready to no matter what he says to try to convince you. I hope he does genuinly like you :) and good luck. Let me know if you have any other questions.
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why dont my friends approve of any guys I date???
they always seem to (NOT TALK TO ME) alot.. why?
Thanks
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There are 2 main reasons they don't approve of the guys you date. The first is that they're worried for you. If they think the guy isn't very trustworthy or doesn't have good intentions for you, then they're obviously not gonna approve of him. Sometimes friends have a way of seeing a little deeper into the motives of guys you'll date, so you'll want to talk with them about it to make sure he's not just playing you/using you. Sometimes the just misread guys though, so don't always listen to all their warnings. The second reason could be that they're jealous. They might act like they don't approve just because they, themselves, want the guy. That's why it's important that you ask a guy friend what he thinks of a guy you like. He'll be able to give you an honest opinion of the guy in question. Hope that solves it for ya, if not let me know. :)
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I ran a mile in 7minutes and 52seconds. (15/f)
Is that good? (link)
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I'm on the highschool XC team at my school. I'm a boy, but we have many girls on the team. They run miles times ranging from a little under 6:00 minutes per mile to around 8:00 or 9:00 minutes per mile. Most of the varsity girls run a mile in around 6:00. Our school is ranked statewide though, so I'm not sure what times girls from more average schools run.
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I think im in love with my ex. everytime i see him i wanna cry. I just remember all tha times we spent together and how special they were to me and i just wonder what i couldve done to keep him in my life. We've even tried to make it work again but some issuses came up. I just wanna know what i can do or say to get him back. (link)
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Human nature is to want what one can't have. This may be one of those types of things. I have also been in this situation. I'm a guy, so it's probably a little difference, but there are a few girls in my past that I dated 5-6 times each because I couldn't get over them the first time we dated. Now that all is said and done, however, none of the time following the first relationship were nearly as good. Often people are attracted to an ex not because of that person's personality or looks, but because of the good times they had shared. But the truth of the matter is, there are hundereds of guys out there that would be able to give you even better memories than your ex did! You just have to find those guys! If a relationships doesn't work the first time it probably isn't going to work again, so no matter how hard it is, try pushing him aside in your mind and look for other guys. You never know what you might find. :) I hope this helped, let me know if you have any more questions.
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ok so im going to a party soon and this guys gonna be there, hes a friend of a really good friend of mine and we have talked online a little and im kinda excited to meet him, so my question is, how should i act, should i flirt a little, or play hard to get, anything with help, eve if your not sure, it will, and ill rate a 5 if thats what you want, please heeeelp (link)
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Hey, I'm a guy so I'll give you a male perspective on this. You definately should flirt with him, but not only him. Talk to all the guys there, make him jealous. Don't ignore him completely though, cuz he'll feel like you don't care at all. If you notice he's watching you talk to other people from across the room, shoot a smile towards him to let him know you're still interested. Each guy likes a different balance of hard to get/flirt in a girl, so experiment with him to see what balance gives you the most of his attention. I hope this helped, let me know if you have any other questions. Good luck!
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right now i have my first real boyfriend, we've been going out for about 2 weeks. he's great. but he's all i can think about. we hung out fri night and now its monday and i'm sick and i cant think about anything but him. its driving me crazy. my throat is sore but i called him anyway and we talked 4 a little while but it didn't work out too well cuz my voice is almost gone. whevenver i'm not with him i'm thinking about him. i need a way to stop thinking about him before i go insane. (link)
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It's great that you're so into this guy. It's a wonderful thing to have such a strong first relationship. You don't want to seem too into him though. I am a guy who is a pretty accomplished dater. From a guys point of view, girls that seem to clingy or needy aren't fun to go out with. Nobody likes to be stuck by someone elses side 24 hours a day. You need to do other things apart from him, such as watching T.V., reading a book, etc. Keep your mind focused on your life and your interests at least half the time you're away from him. I guarentee you he'll become 100 times more into you if you play hard to get, even though he's already got you. Make him call you sometimes. Act like you want to hang out with your friends more than him sometimes. You don't want to do this all the time because it'll seem like you don't care at all. As you get older and become more experienced at dating you'll learn a balance that works just right. It's different for everyone so I can't go too into depth on it. I hope I've helped. Let me know if I can help ya any more.
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Well, here's the story. I'm 14 Female. My friend moved to my town a couple years ago. She visits her old town often, so she brought me with her one time in the summer. It was REALLY fun, we hung out at her old friend's house. And this kid was there. All of us hung out all day. I like the kid that was there, and I have liked him since that night. We talk online every once in a while, and I've talked to him on the phone a few times. It seemed like he liked me from the way we talk to eachother, but I don't know. That was in the summer, and it's October! He lives about 45 minutes away, which is not too bad. I REALLY like him, but I don't know what to do. My friend says it totally sounds like he likes me, but nothing's happening. Also, like, if he asked me out or something, do you think it would work? (him living 45 minutes away?) It would be far to drive just to hang out. I don't know exactly what I'm asking, but if you have any advice, it would be great? (link)
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I'm a guy so I'll give you more of a male perspective on this one. Long distance relationships are tough. You don't get the see the person often, it's hard to tell if they're being true to you, you can't be physically held by them in all your times of need, etc. They are hard, but they are possible. My best relationship was a long distance relationship, although the distance was only 30 mins. Distance relationships are built solely on trust and honesty. If at any point during the relationship either of these points begin to flounder, then entire relationship is pretty much sunk. It takes more dedication than a regular in-town relationship, but can also be rewarding. It's even more specail seeing you're someone on those rare occasions you get to meet face to face. It all comes down to whether or not both of you are willing to endure all the hardships stated above, plus others. If you think you both are, then give it a shot. You should try being the aggressor a little bit. He lives 45 mins away, so if you make a move and get rejected nobody's gonna know. You're not gonna get embarrassed in front of your whole school or anything. Just make sure that, if a relationship does begin, that you are spending more time enjoying it than working to keep it going. The moment you spend more time holding things together than having fun is the moment the relationship has failed. Most of all, you're young so have fun. It may be better, at your age, to date guys that live closer to you just so you can experience more things and learn from them so that you know what you want when you became an adult. Hope that helped. Let me know if you have any other questions.
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well technically this could be put into a couple differnt catagories, well okies it kinda started last year i was going out with one of my best friends and we were together for 10 months and then he crushed my heart:( we broke up over the summer and he slit his wrist and he is ok but i cried when he told me is it normal to still have feeling for him after he put me through shit?..and there's another thing just recently i have been having reallllllllly MAJOR feeling for my other best friend me and my other best friend act more like a couple then we do friends, yet he says he just wants to be friends yet usually he is the one who starts the us actin like a couple thing...does this mean he does or doesnt like me???..plz help i am sooo confused:( (link)
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I am a guy, so I'll do my best to give you a guy's outlook on this situation. The guy you dated for 10 months, I'm gonna call him Jim to make things easier, sounds like the kind of guy you might want to stay away from dating again, despite any remain feelings you still have for him. If he broke your heart once, he can do it again. Also, if Jim slits his wrists, that is a sign of mental instability. It means he's having trouble coping with his own life. If he can't stay on top of his own life, he is not ready to care for and have a steady relationship with a girl as well. It is normal for you to still harbor feelings for him though. Human nature is to want what one can't have, and that's the kind of person Jim sounds like. Now for the other friends, let's call him John, he sounds like the type of guy who doesn't want to be tied down right now. When you say "start the us actin like a couple thing" I'm assuming you mean doing physical things like kissing, making out, maybe more. He may just want to have some fun and not get too emotionally involved with anyone. Guys are horny, period. Even if you are friends he may be using you for some fun, but the term using isn't a good choice. As long as you both agree on acting like more than friends every now and then it's fine. But if you want to be more than friends and he doesn't, it would probably be wise for you to stop acting like more than friends. By allowing him to lead your heart on by doing things that normal friends don't do, you're setting yourself up to have your heart broken again. I hope this helped. Let me know if I can be of any further service.
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Hi! Are you a Cleveland Indians fan? (link)
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To be honest with you, I'm not that big of a baseball fan. I play/have played nearly every sport there is, but I don't watch that many professional sports. I like the Bengals a lot, especially because they're doing so well right now. Who Dey
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