Question Posted Thursday October 20 2005, 10:49 pm
So is it true what they say, that once you are friends with a girl you are trapped in the friend zone forever, and it will never grow into something more? or is it just a myth?
Advicelady6798 answered Friday October 21 2005, 5:49 pm: It is not a myth. Most people who end up together were friends before they got together. Each relationship grows into someting more and stronger. Its different for everyone but there is hope for every couple. [ Advicelady6798's advice column | Ask Advicelady6798 A Question ]
BeastFromTheWeast answered Friday October 21 2005, 2:14 am: Thats not true.
After being best friends with a guy for 4 years we realized that we liked each other a lot and we dated for about a year. We are broken up now, but still really good friends still.
kipskywalk answered Friday October 21 2005, 12:19 am: No, that's definately just a rumor. There are some challenges that are presented if you're really good friends with a girl though. I'm a teen guy so I've been in this exact situation before. Here are some of the challengers. First, you have to weigh the possibilty of losing that girl as a friend if the two of you have a bad breakup. Sometimes, even if you like a girl, it's not worth that risk of losing her. Second, you have to deal with the fact that you already know almost everything about each other. A lot of the fuel for teen relationships is the exploration of someones life. You keep learning new things about your partner and it fascinates you. If you go out with a good friends, however, this exploration factor isn't there. Another big downfall of dating a previous friend is that things can feel weird. Even if you both like each other as more than friends, sometimes going out can give you a strange feeling, especially if you decided to kiss or make out or more. That's a risk you take with any girl, I suppose. But there are good things too. Her friends will already approve or disapprove of you. She'll know going into it what they think, and that's one of the biggest deciding factors of a girl picking a guy. You'll be more comfortable with each other earlier, which means there probably won't be any ackward silences or something like that. Let me know if you have any other questions, and I hope I've helped out. Peace [ kipskywalk's advice column | Ask kipskywalk A Question ]
ACWNS09 answered Thursday October 20 2005, 11:54 pm: I've heard this many times before. That myth or theory or whatever you want to call it was popularized by Dallas Lynn. He created a website to explain it and actually makes a few good points. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) That's the website for it if your interested. However, I don't really believe. At least, I hope it's not true, or I'm screwed. [ ACWNS09's advice column | Ask ACWNS09 A Question ]
Ask_Kayla answered Thursday October 20 2005, 11:43 pm: its a myth.. i have known this guy since kindergarden i went to the same school as him i moved in 1st grade to a hella small town like 45 mins away in 6th grade i was looking back at my pictures and relized that i knew that name nad i tured out it was the same guy..I've been best friends with him since i never thought of him like that untill on of me friends said that we hella flirt nad i said no cuase he is like my brother and i got over that nad now were going out! it is wonderful cause we dont hide anything.
but im now a freshman and i no that it can work or it doesnt but for now it has worked..
XxRockon answered Thursday October 20 2005, 11:29 pm: just a myth, some of the best relationships start off as just friends and go into something more..so ya completely a myth! [ XxRockon's advice column | Ask XxRockon A Question ]
Lannachicka answered Thursday October 20 2005, 11:11 pm: Hmm, not so much, I had two friends, they were actually best friends, boy and a girl, and once they got in to middle school, they started going out, I dont know why, maybe because they knew eachother so well, it would be so easy to be boyfriend girlfriend, there still together, 2 years now.
So no, its definetly not a myth, it can happen. But maybe if your a friend of a guy and you want something more, you should make it more clear. I am not sure though. Anyway, cya, ttyl [ Lannachicka's advice column | Ask Lannachicka A Question ]
sizzlinmandolin answered Thursday October 20 2005, 10:59 pm: Well, like all relationships it can either work or it can't. I am in a relationship with a best friend and it's wonderful. For me it was difficult to accept more than friendship, but it wasn't impossible and I ended up doing it to the disbelief of everyone. I believe though, that it depends on the people involved more than on how close they are to begin with. There's a good chance though, because you know that she already at least likes you. Good luck! [ sizzlinmandolin's advice column | Ask sizzlinmandolin A Question ]
dancergirl678 answered Thursday October 20 2005, 10:52 pm: it's not totally true. 2 years ago i was best friends with this guy and then slowly started to like him. by the middle of the year, i was practically in LOVE with the guy. but he didn't have those feeling back because he said *it would be too weird liking a best friend* so i guess it would just depend on the person. but it is possibly to grow into something more [ dancergirl678's advice column | Ask dancergirl678 A Question ]
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