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well technically this could be put into a couple differnt catagories, well okies it kinda started last year i was going out with one of my best friends and we were together for 10 months and then he crushed my heart:( we broke up over the summer and he slit his wrist and he is ok but i cried when he told me is it normal to still have feeling for him after he put me through shit?..and there's another thing just recently i have been having reallllllllly MAJOR feeling for my other best friend me and my other best friend act more like a couple then we do friends, yet he says he just wants to be friends yet usually he is the one who starts the us actin like a couple thing...does this mean he does or doesnt like me???..plz help i am sooo confused:(
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It is normal to still have feelings but when you find someone different they usually never go away but you end up feeling more about the other person than the person that put you through so much. He probably does like you alot but he is prob. afraid that if you guys hook up and then break you will lose your friendship. I think that his friendship with you is the most important thing to him. He just doesnt want to lose that.
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I am a guy, so I'll do my best to give you a guy's outlook on this situation. The guy you dated for 10 months, I'm gonna call him Jim to make things easier, sounds like the kind of guy you might want to stay away from dating again, despite any remain feelings you still have for him. If he broke your heart once, he can do it again. Also, if Jim slits his wrists, that is a sign of mental instability. It means he's having trouble coping with his own life. If he can't stay on top of his own life, he is not ready to care for and have a steady relationship with a girl as well. It is normal for you to still harbor feelings for him though. Human nature is to want what one can't have, and that's the kind of person Jim sounds like. Now for the other friends, let's call him John, he sounds like the type of guy who doesn't want to be tied down right now. When you say "start the us actin like a couple thing" I'm assuming you mean doing physical things like kissing, making out, maybe more. He may just want to have some fun and not get too emotionally involved with anyone. Guys are horny, period. Even if you are friends he may be using you for some fun, but the term using isn't a good choice. As long as you both agree on acting like more than friends every now and then it's fine. But if you want to be more than friends and he doesn't, it would probably be wise for you to stop acting like more than friends. By allowing him to lead your heart on by doing things that normal friends don't do, you're setting yourself up to have your heart broken again. I hope this helped. Let me know if I can be of any further service.
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I would say yes. I mean, all the evidence you've stated, if he is the one who pulls you into it (whether you want to or not) then yes. He still has feelings for you! Stick to it girl! Make him beg! lol Just messing, try and find out if he has feelings for you in that way.
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Good luck, and God bless.
-Hailie
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