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Long distance.. friends?
Well, here's the story. I'm 14 Female. My friend moved to my town a couple years ago. She visits her old town often, so she brought me with her one time in the summer. It was REALLY fun, we hung out at her old friend's house. And this kid was there. All of us hung out all day. I like the kid that was there, and I have liked him since that night. We talk online every once in a while, and I've talked to him on the phone a few times. It seemed like he liked me from the way we talk to eachother, but I don't know. That was in the summer, and it's October! He lives about 45 minutes away, which is not too bad. I REALLY like him, but I don't know what to do. My friend says it totally sounds like he likes me, but nothing's happening. Also, like, if he asked me out or something, do you think it would work? (him living 45 minutes away?) It would be far to drive just to hang out. I don't know exactly what I'm asking, but if you have any advice, it would be great?
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Well if you really like him alot just ask him if he likes you or if he would like the friendship too move forward...and ya 45 mins isnt sooo bad..but dont ya think you guys should talk more than a couple times if your really thinking you like this guy i think it would work but you two need to talk more...and maybe set up some weekends so that you two can hang out and stuff:) well good luck and hope i helped
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I think that you should at least try and make it work out. If it doesnt work out then at least you tryed. If you dont try then you will go on regreting what you should have done. Do you want to wonder what it would have been like if you would have asked him out. You could hang out with im in the summers and talk to him on the pone or even go to the movies with him on the weekends. If you really like him you should go for him.
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Don't get involved w/ him!!! I know from experience it won't work. I think that yall should just talk on the phone and IM a lot more and have your friend bring you when she goes back to visit again! 45 mins really isn't that far, but if you can't drive yet, it's not worth it. From my own experience, one of my "friends" here was interested in becoming friends w/ one of my guy "friends" back home...which is 8 hrs away...and I'm not friends w/ either of them any more...so you never know what can happen, but basically just talk to your friend and ask her how she feels about everything first, then start talking to him more if she says its ok, but its really not worth it to get so attached to him yet. I know it hurts. Well, IM me if you need anything else! Love yah babe!
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If you were older I wouldn't see a problem with it, but since you have to rely on parents for rides and stuff, I'd say find a guy in your own town for now.
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I'm a guy so I'll give you more of a male perspective on this one. Long distance relationships are tough. You don't get the see the person often, it's hard to tell if they're being true to you, you can't be physically held by them in all your times of need, etc. They are hard, but they are possible. My best relationship was a long distance relationship, although the distance was only 30 mins. Distance relationships are built solely on trust and honesty. If at any point during the relationship either of these points begin to flounder, then entire relationship is pretty much sunk. It takes more dedication than a regular in-town relationship, but can also be rewarding. It's even more specail seeing you're someone on those rare occasions you get to meet face to face. It all comes down to whether or not both of you are willing to endure all the hardships stated above, plus others. If you think you both are, then give it a shot. You should try being the aggressor a little bit. He lives 45 mins away, so if you make a move and get rejected nobody's gonna know. You're not gonna get embarrassed in front of your whole school or anything. Just make sure that, if a relationship does begin, that you are spending more time enjoying it than working to keep it going. The moment you spend more time holding things together than having fun is the moment the relationship has failed. Most of all, you're young so have fun. It may be better, at your age, to date guys that live closer to you just so you can experience more things and learn from them so that you know what you want when you became an adult. Hope that helped. Let me know if you have any other questions.
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Hey hun..*
Usually long distance in a relationship isn`t good or healthy for a relationship.. try staying friends.. I understand you like him but if it`s a problem to see him then thats a major problem right there.. you`d want to see the person your with as often as possible.. maybe thats why this guy hasn`t asked you out cuz he`s thought bout all that..
But if it isn`t a problem to see him even tho he lives 45 minutes away then try gettin with him.. but you`ve made it sound like its a problem..
I highly doubt it`ll work out tho.. sorry to disapoint you hun.. ♥ Dez
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honestly, i think its a really bad idea. he lives 45 minutes alone, and being only 14, its not very easy to go see him. you'd start to miss him, and he lives to far away for you to be able to know whats going on with him all the time. stuff like, if he cheated on you, you'd never know. it just doesnt work at this age if you ask me. but if you want to try and make it work, go for it. good luck!
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