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there really isn't much you can say to shock me. i've seen and heard a lot, so if you need help, don't be afraid to ask anything. i'm amazing at answering anything to do with sex.. so ask away =)

oh and yes.. that is ME in the picture. it's my halloween costume: a mile high captain!

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so basically. im 15/f. well my mom is putting me on birth control because my period is wayyy irregular and because she thinks ima have sexx and get pregnant. [[virgin. ugh]] so i said ill do it. but i heard that u gain a lot of weight but it goes strait to your boobs. and that interested me fo sho. haha. but im not sure if thats true. does anyone know if that is. because i really need sum extra boobage. haha if that makes sence. plz help. thankss :]]

the bc pill affects everyone differently. it could make you gain weight in your stomach, thighs, wherever, not specifically your boobs. for me though, i went from a 34A to a 34C the summer i started taking it. that doesn't really mean it'll happen to everybody that takes it, or to you for that matter. birth control defnitely helps regulate your period, so look into it. it's a good idea.

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what is a g-spot?
what does it mean when someone eats someone out?
what are types of sex...like cowgirl, 69, doggie, and what do u do in them?
what is pulled?

please help me!

your g-spot is this WONDERFUL little spongey area about a finger's length up in your vagina. when it's touched during sex or fingering, it's the best feeling ever. if you aren't sure where it is, play around with yourself and get to know your body.

when someone gets eaten out, that means that another person is giving them oral sex. as in, licking, sucking, etc. on their clit/vaginal region.

cowgirl is girl on top sex. basically you straddle your partner, and ease his penis into you. then you grind against him, fast or slow, depending on how you like it. if it feels good for you, it feels good for him. 69 isn't a sex position, it's where your head is down by your boyfriend/girlfriend's penis/vagina, and you give them oral, while they are doing the same thing to you. doggie style would be from behind, with the receiving partner kneeled over, and the giving partner pounding them from behind, either through anal or vaginal sex. i'm not sure what you mean by 'what is pulled?' but i hope i answered your other questions. =D

ask again if you need anymore help!

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Hi Im 16 and I was wondering how to increase my boyfriends stamina who is also 16. We have really amazing sex but I want to know how he can last longer than 30 min to an hour. oh also would using a condom help increase stamina sense it is less sensitive? I dont need a lecture about unprotected sex. I am on the pill and we lost our virginity to each other. Thanks!

I used to have the same problem with my ex, but he could barely last 10 minutes and honestly, it just pissed me off. Condoms to help a TON, they decrease the sensitivity, I always noticed my ex lasting longer. I'm on the pill too, it's a wonderful thing; isn't it?! When he feels as if he's about to finish, tell him to just rest a minute, or go slower. The slower you go, the longer it will last. I also noticed that if he didn't play with my breasts as much.. it lasted way longer. Another possibility, if all of that doesn't work.. help him get off before you have sex. That way, he won't have to ejaculate prematurely.. or any time soon. It's usually hard for guys to orgasm one rght after another. Ask me if you have any other questions!

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well my boyfriend stopped cutting a year ago, and hes getting worried because his scars haven;t gone away. how long does it usually take for them to go away?

They won't go away, just fade. Try using Maderma gel on the scars, it'll help fade them faster. I stopped 3 years ago and you can still see mine. Even worse.. when you get cold, they get really noticable. If you can't get maderma, just try cocoa butter.

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Before sex, im going to start to take off his pants and stuff and get him hard and then im going to stop and change the subject completely for a few minutes.
Just to make him want me more, is that a good idea? Or what?
I need some help

thank you

No. That's mean. If you want to give the poor guy blue balls, go ahead and change the topic. Otherwise.. it's not going to help you at all. It will completely turn the guy off and then he'll not want to anymore. Besides, that's just.. cruel and uncalled for behavior and your guy will be pissed!

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Ok guys, if you were going to use a girl for sex what would you do exactly?
Because I want to know if I was used, Id just like to know opinions
Thanks !

16/f

hmm.. you'd probably know, but anyways: he'd act like you were the best thing in the world, sleep with you, and then drop you on your ass. never talk to you again.. until he wanted some. probably get mad if you didn't want to do it, say he'd never talk to you again, etc.

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I have an ingrown hair/pimple on the back of my thigh. It hurts really badly. I cant sit i cant walk. My mom already took the pus out of it yesterday. I think she may have to take it out today. What can i do to make it hurt less?

try plucking the hair out!! other than that.. it should work itself out.

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I know it's bad, but this is my question. When me and my friends smoke pot, they always get high and I never do. The most I get is a little dizzy. I don't even get giggly? What's going on?

you might not be inhaling correctly!

http://nepenthes.lycaeum.org/Drugs/THC/mjusing.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bowl_(drug_culture)

http://www.smokingwithstyle.com/weedetiquette.htm

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would it be a turn off for a guy if the girl he's dating has never been with anyone before. not even like a first kiss? because im a freshmen and im starting to date this junior and he's really cute and stuff and has been with other girls, but i've never been with a guy before. is that a major turn off, or would it be a turn on? thanks for your advice!

aww i was exactly in your position 2 years ago =] anyways, i was a freshman, dating a junior. although i did have my first kiss already, i was unexperienced with everything else. if the guy isn't a jerk, he will help you with stuff and find it cute. my ex helped me through kissing, oral, sex, and basically just tought me everything. (we dated for 2 years). anyways, if the guy REALLY cares about you and isn't in it just for sex.. then it shouldn't matter to him. not to mention.. guys like virgins because they seem "untouched".. and they basically want to be the first.

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ok does it feel different having sex with condoms like can you still have an orgasm with a condom and does it still feel pleasureable when your having sexwith condoms

you can tell the difference. it's not technically a bad feeling, it's just the rubber can sometimes get a little dry and uncomfortable. when you don't use one, it feels wetter, warmer, etc. but don't let the feeling make you stray away from protected sex!

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i just got doen with my period and im spotting pink not like red like when i have my period. i also has PROTECTED sex with my boyfriend lastnight and im on birth control. but im just wandering why im spotting.

if anyone has an answer...


thanks

that sometimes happens after you get off your period and have sex. there's probably a little bit of light blood left, and sex just brings it out. it happens to me all the time, nothing to worry about.

another thing that it could be is maybe he scratched you somewhere, inside or out, and the light pink bleeding is a result of that. =]

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is it true that you stop growing after you get your first period? if not then does getting your period early affect your growth or have anything to do with it?

it doesn't affect your growth really, you keep growing wayyy after that. actually your breasts aren't fully developed until around 22, and other parts of your body, such as your nose and ears- never stop growing.

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17/f

ok. So I lost my viriginity today. We used a condom, and he's been tested so I know he's clean. When it happened it hurt a lot, but it's normal, right? I also didn't start bleeding until about an hour after it happened. It stopped, but my stomach still hurts.

So basically here's my question:
How long will it take until sex stops hurting?

I can def. see us doing it again in the future, maybe as soon as next week. Will it still hurt? I had fun anyway with the fooling around we did, but I'd like to enjoy it as much as he has, lol.

Thanks in advance!
-L

it depends on the girl, but it usually takes about 3-4 times to not feel at least some discomfort. personally i enjoyed it my first time, the pain went away really fast for me. as for the second time.. that was hell.. but i braved through it! haha i promise it WILL get better. it's normal for it to hurt; your hymen is breaking, and the whole bleeding thing is definitely normal too and might happen for the first few times.

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Ok so I've been on the pill for 5 months this month. When can I have un protected sex?

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about 9 months now and have always used a condom. It doesn't bother me or my boyfriend about using extra protection but I was just curious!

Thanks!

It's a very good idea to get tested! You can never be too safe..

Anyways, you can start having unprotected sex after the first round (a full pack/month) of your pills is done. Just remember that if you miss a pill, follow the instructions and use a backup method for a week after the missed pill =]

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I have dandruff. I tried using head and shoulders shampoo but it didn't really work. Any tips? I don't like how it shows up on my clothes and stuff. I take a shower every day.

Try Denorex or Neutrogena dandruff control. they both have a tar like chemical in it, smell horrible, but it definitely works wonders on hair with dandruff!

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Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.

hmm. well, i had sex at 14 to my 17 year old boyfriend, after 6 months of dating. we dated for 2 years after that.. and had sex regularly. a lot of the time it felt like our relationship was solely based on sex, nothing else. like if we would hang out.. it would just be sex and then go watch tv or something and it's just an everyday thing. i wasn't comfortable with that, and i honestly wish that i would've waited, because then i wouldn't have had sex with different guys over the years. oh and anal.. does hurt like a bitch! and what the person before said, i know a girl that has literally shit on her partner during anal because she lost control of her bowels. if you DO decide to do it, i suggest taking a little trip to the bathroom before!!! haha. anyways, if you have to ask advicenators about your virginity, you probably shouldn't be having sex!! =] message me if you need anything else, i don't judge.

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Weird question but i dont wanna look like an idiot, when you give a guy a hand job or head and you dont want him to come in your mouth where does it go and what are you supposed to clean it up with?

i jsut wanna be ready and not look like a retard in front of this guy

well, you could always tell him not to come in your mouth at all. have a towel or tissue ready, or it will just go all over.

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last nite i was in my friends house, hannah + rach and we were all lyin up against rach other and rach started kissin me and i got off with her (french kiss) and we done it several times later that nite but my other friend hannah and me started kissin aswell but rach was lyk tryin 2 get my shirt off and stuff lyk that after it but i also had a gf but i wen over 2 see rach 2day and we were watchin the end of a film and then we started 2 make out on her bed and we agreed that it would the only time we would do it but wen we had stopped and wen out 2 go in 4 hannah and we started kissin in the rain and we were kissin lyk every 15 steps but these r my questions oh and i got off with hannah last nite but by accident

im 13 and hannah and rach r 14

1. did i cheat
2. was wat i did rong
3. and should i ask rach out cause we hav been best friends 4 10yrs nearly

thanx

yes you cheated. yes you were wrong. yes just break up with your girlfriend and ask rachel out.

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i've been goin out with my gf for nearly a month but i still havnt told my family and either has she wen should we tell them and how ? i'm nearly 14 and she is 13. And we still havnt kissed wen should i go 2 kiss her ?
hey

you need to tell them flat out. you'll just piss them off if you keep it a secret for longer. if you want to kiss her.. just do it! tilt your head a little bit.. and just kiss her. it's not too difficult, just make sure it's a good time.

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hey! i have a really big problem. so i dated this guy jake over a year ago now for almost 2 months. he dated thisgirl i knew and then they broke up after 2 years and me n him dated. which was quite crazy. anyways, we ended up breaking up bcz he cheated on me with her and they got back 2gether n have been on n off for almost a year. well, now he is dating sum other girl that idont know n the other day i messaged him on myspace, i havent talked 2 him since last year n i asked him for directions 2 get this oneplace we went 2 last year when we dated. he messaged back sayin he has nothing againts me n he knows he did some bogus shit n to give him a call ormessage when we wanna hangout for old times sake... so idont know if im taking this too overboard but he was my first realll bf that i reallylikedn my friend's birthday is coming up this weekend, and he knew her, thats how we met n began dating bcz his x was friends with my best friend n because of allthis she hated us... well i really do have feelings 4 him n want to ask him 2 come by but is it 2 weird?? but thing is... he never said sorry... what should i write back? thank you somuch

don't be stupid. he's with another girl. respect that. if he cheated on you once.. he'll do it again. don't give him a second of your time, even if you do still like him. he has a girlfriend and he's wanting to hang out with you? i'm sure he's wanting to do a lot more than just hang out. if he cheats on her with you.. don't you think that he'll just turn around and cheat on you AGAIN..? sure you can always try being "just friends" but that never works out when you still have feelings for him. tell him that you're not over what happened and don't want to hang out with him since he has a girlfriend.

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