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My bf wants to..
Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.
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nah definatly dont have anal or vaginal sex.. if you want you could do oral but make sure about STD's either make a condom or both go to a doctor and get checked.. whim wear ait until you're both positive you want to and both know diseases won't be a factor.. and as for pregnancy go to a clinic and get birth control if you really want to have vaginal
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okay, you should go get a an std test with you and your boyfriend.gettin fucked in the ass dosent hurt. ust open your ass really wide,get fucked in the pussy,ear. you should also suck his penis. take pics and send it to bekoe1994@yahoo.com.
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ANAL HURTS!!!!! go with oral, its WAY more pleasurable and pain-free!
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well. if you guys are thinking about sex, just remember that he's three years older than you and has three more years of experience.
you're only 14, and if you have sex to soon with someone your not sure about in the first place, you'll regret it.
if he's your first bf that you've been physical with, you might want to try and experience with different people.
but mainly, its up to you.
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hmm. well, i had sex at 14 to my 17 year old boyfriend, after 6 months of dating. we dated for 2 years after that.. and had sex regularly. a lot of the time it felt like our relationship was solely based on sex, nothing else. like if we would hang out.. it would just be sex and then go watch tv or something and it's just an everyday thing. i wasn't comfortable with that, and i honestly wish that i would've waited, because then i wouldn't have had sex with different guys over the years. oh and anal.. does hurt like a bitch! and what the person before said, i know a girl that has literally shit on her partner during anal because she lost control of her bowels. if you DO decide to do it, i suggest taking a little trip to the bathroom before!!! haha. anyways, if you have to ask advicenators about your virginity, you probably shouldn't be having sex!! =] message me if you need anything else, i don't judge.
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If you guys (or just one of you) are having any second thoughts, no matter what the reason may be, don't have sex just yet.
Think of it this way: Say you aren't sure if you want to have sex or not, then you do. After doing it, you realize you regret it, and then wish you hadn't. It's too late, what's done is done and you are no longer a virgin. If you wait, and then later decide you do or don't want to, then you can still choose.
If you decide to have sex, and neither of you are sure if you have any stds, then you both should go to a clinic and get tested together. Remember though, you can get an std by doing anything sexually related, not just by intercourse. So try geting checked before becoming sexually active and ask him to do the same.
I've never had anal sex, and I don't ever plan on it. I really wouldn't reccomend it, because it's known to hurt like a bitch. Some girls have even been known to shit on themselves after anal. Can you imagine the embarrassment? Aah, the thought makes me cringe. No matter what you choose to do, I wouldn't do this unless you just honestly want to.
Phone sex is completely normal. If you aren't ready to touch him or to be touched by him, touching yourselves is a great way to be sexual, without actually being considered sexually active.
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Dear u ,
I think you should do what you want to do and what feels right dont do it just because your boyfriend wants to you might regret it
P.s:plz write back
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i know you wont take this advice but .. you should not have sex.. i went threw this but just not anal just sex. He talked me into it and i regret it,, this has happen to my friend she regreted it.. its your life. anal hurts so im told by many.
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Hey,
I honestly think that maybe you should wait a while, if you feel you arnt ready then you should never go through with it. you should also make sure this is the right guy for you, if he isnt then you may make a giant mistake. Of course there are always the risks of std's, pregnacy, and more. if you feel you must then use protection. And remeber if he turns 18 and your still 14 or 15 it will be considered rape. Well i hope you trust your heart and dont get rushed into anything. Anal may be pleasurable for him but in most cases us women cant stand it.
xoxox love you !
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if you are unsure about diseases, get tested.
if you are having any doubts at all about sex, then don't try it. you'll regret it.
but if you really want to, then go for it.
truth, anal hurts worse than sex. baaaad, i don't advise you to try it, unless you like pain. i know from experience.
phone sex is normal, my boyfriend & i do that sometimes, & in ways it's kind of fun.
it makes sex funner too.
it's your decision, trust your heart :]
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Well first off get tested. Second, it is illegal to have sex under the age of 14.
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Enjoy being young, don't have sex. I, as well as the other people responded noticed since you are unsure, you aren't ready. Plus, accidents can happen, the condom can break, or if you decide to not use one, you raise your chances by a hell of a lot to get pregnant. And if he's positive for any diseases, don't have sex with him.
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Mallamun is right! Your not sure on what to do, it mean YOU AREN"T READY TO HAVE SEX! To me, your to young to have sex, and if your boy-friend is like, saying stuff about having sex, I don't think you should be with him, though it isn't up to me. And since your having 2nd thoughts, that means, you shouldn't have sex! I'm not trying to sound like a girl who is saying "NO SEX!" But it is true! 2nd thoughts, or un sure about it means you shouldn't do it!
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i would say no to the anal sex. although it is enjoyable for the guy, the woman usually has to have large amounts of lubricant and stretching just to make it possible and it is usually painful and uncomfortable. You especially should not do this if you have doubts, you are at the beginning of your sexual life and there is plenty of time to experiment as you already have discovered with the phone. the phone sex is a great thing since it is safe, no worries about pregnancy or disease and it provides the release that i know you bf needs right now. You need to understand that your bf has what he thinks are irrepressable needs and he is going to keep a constant pressure for you to push your limits. be strong and dont commit to anything you dont for sure want to do and remind your bf of the reasons you are together besides your gratification of his sexual desires.
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I've never had anal so I can't tell you from experience if it hurts or not. I'm sure it does, but it's just something that you've got to be 100% okay with. You're not sure about it, which pretty much is the answer. Until you're in a relationship with someone where you feel like your relationship won't change then you just shouldn't have sex.
People say, "sex changes the relationship" their wrong. Sex SHOULDN'T change the relationship in any shape, way, or form. It's just bad to look at it that way.
I'm sure if you had a disease you would know about it, because you'd have to go to the doctors a lot & it'd just be VERY obvious. He should know as well especially being 17 years old.
If he wants to do a lot of sexual things, that's awesome. But don't do anything unless you KNOW that you're ready. I doubt you'd regret it, because you obviously like this dude. But you shouldn't do it until the feeling is mutual. If you talk about it more you'll be more open to it, so I suggest doing that if you're unsure about it.
Also, ask him if you were to say no to sex what he would say. If he says that he'd break up with you he obviously isn't worth anything. :]
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Don't do anything that you aren't ready for. You're only 14, and you should enjoy it! If you had sex with him, then there is a very high chance of you getting pregnant. If you went through with the pregnancy, then you would have to take care of a baby. Truth be told, you aren't ready for that kind of commitment. Who would take care of the baby while you were at school? When you got home, you wouldn't have time for anything else. You wouldn't have time for fun! I don't want to act like a parent to you, i'm just trying to help! So just think it through, and know what you're getting into. If you're not sure if you're ready, then you probably aren't. If your boyfriend truly loves you, then he will understand that you aren't ready. If he isn't okay with it, then he probably isn't a good boyfriend.
JaNe
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