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hEy EvErYoNe Im JaNe. AnD i LiKe To GiVe AdViCe... So FeEl FrEe To AsK mE aNyThInG yOu WaNt. SoRrY iF mY aDvIcE iSnT wHaT yOu WaNnA HeAr, It Is JuSt WhAt I fEeL nEeDs To Be SaId! jUsT rEmEmBeR: sOmEtImEs ThE aDvIcE yOu GeT iSnT wHaT yOu WaNnA hEaR, BuT tHaT dOeSnT mEaN tHe AdViCe iS bAd! AlWaYs KnOw ThAt I aM tRyInG mY bEsT!JaNe
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okay, i just broke up with my boyfriend and he didnt take it well at all and i feel really bad. but we'll get back to that later. so when my boyfriend and i started dating, his friend [z] started talking to me a lot. and my friend [m] started to hang out with us and she now likes z. okay soooo...m wanted me to text z and find out who he likes so she could know. but this is where it starts getting messy. z likes me and i kinda like him but i cant because of my ex and my friend. so how do i tell him and my friend??
thx
I think that you need to just tell your friend the truth. She deserves to know. I realize it may be hard to tell this to your friend, but it is MUCH better to just come straight out with the truth than to try and make up excuses. Would you rather admit to your friend that you like the same guy as her, or keep this secret to yourself..worrying about various questions such as.. "what if she finds out?" or "should i really ask Z who he likes?" or "what should i tell her if Z says he likes me?"
Just tell her you like him too. If the time is right, then tell her that you found out he sort of likes you too. Say it as nicely as possible, and tell her you just didn't want to keep this a secret from her. It could be a little rough at first, but things will work out. It is much better then her finding this out on her own.
And yes, don't tell yourself you can't like someone. You can. It will be okay. Your ex just needs some time. Don't confront him about this anytime soon. Later you may want to though. But for now just give him some time, and stay friends with him. Treat him like your friend, and don't avoid him. Later you may need to tell him, but just wait awhile.
But for now i think you should just have some time to yourself. Don't get together with Z too soon. You don't want to ruin your ex's and Z's friendship. Just wait awhile. You can even give yourself some time before you tell your friend. In fact, i wouldn't tell her unless you are totally sure you like Z.
But just give it some time.. think things through. Even though things may seem hard, it will all work out in the end, i promise.
Well if you need anything else, i am always here!
JaNe
whats the best kind?
Well i really like to use Ban deodorant. I think that it smells really good, and it lasts all day. Try it out. See if it works for you. Secret deodorant also works pretty well too. But you just need to try some different kinds and see what one YOU like the best. Good luck.
JaNe
Ive used tampons before and all. And get it in just fine no problems at all. My problem is getting it out. Its not "wet" enough. I dont have heavy enough flow, so it hurts getting it out. I use the lowest absorbency, the platex slim fits for teens. I cant use pads because i'm on the swimming team. How do i get it to come out without it hurting?
It hurts for everyone for quite a while. It takes some time to get used to it. The main thing you need to do is just RELAX. If you tense up, then it's going to be harder to pull it out. So just relax your muscles, and try pulling it out. It still might hurt for a while, but you should get used to it in some time. You could also try pulling it out a little faster. I mean, don't yank it out or anything, but don't pull it out really slowly, because that is just going to make the pain last longer. But yea, the main thing is to just relax. If that is the problem, then try relaxing and see if it helps a little bit. It wont stop the pain, but it will help.
JaNe
Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.
Don't do anything that you aren't ready for. You're only 14, and you should enjoy it! If you had sex with him, then there is a very high chance of you getting pregnant. If you went through with the pregnancy, then you would have to take care of a baby. Truth be told, you aren't ready for that kind of commitment. Who would take care of the baby while you were at school? When you got home, you wouldn't have time for anything else. You wouldn't have time for fun! I don't want to act like a parent to you, i'm just trying to help! So just think it through, and know what you're getting into. If you're not sure if you're ready, then you probably aren't. If your boyfriend truly loves you, then he will understand that you aren't ready. If he isn't okay with it, then he probably isn't a good boyfriend.
JaNe
jackie, kelly and i are all good friends. jackie always follows kelly around at parties, like wherever she goes. it annoys me because then they leave me out of stuff sometimes, like all three of us could be talking and they'll randomly leave to go get a drink or go to the bathroom together and they leave me by myself. i have alot of other people i hang out with/can hang out with at parites and stuff but it's just times like that when they leave me that annoys me. advice?
The best thing to do about this is just go and talk to them about it. They may not know that you're feeling left out, and they probably don't know that they are doing it. Everyone does that, but not intentionally. I'm sure they wouldn't try to hurt you if they are your good friends. They probably just don't realize that they are leaving you out all the time. So just tell them about how you are feeling, and how you feel left out. I'm sure they'll understand, and try harder not to leave you out as much.
JaNe
I want to loose around 15-20 pounds by February or March. Does anyone have any techniques for diet and exercise?
Running a mile a day really helps. It also gets you feeling energized. Even if you walk part of the time, it still works. Don't push yourself too hard. Doing situps helps a lot too. Try doing about 50 of these a day. These help you to have a tiny tummy, and you can also lose weight from doing situps.
As far as diets go, don't go on one of those scary diets where you don't eat anything!! Don't skip meals either. *Did you know that you actually gain weight when you don't eat breakfast for a long enough time?* Just lay off the junk food, and stick to fruits and veggies for snacks.
If you just stick to these tips then you're sure to lose some weight by the time you need.
JaNe
What are some good exercises that aren't too strenuous/hard that will help you loose fat/weight?
To lose weight you don't need anything too strenuous... you don't want to work yourself too hard. One thing that you can do that really works well is to just do crunches every day. Just a couple of months ago, i started to do 100 crunches every day. I did 50 normal crunches, and 25 off to each side. I wasn't really ever overweight, but it does help me feel energized and it burns off all of the extra calories that you don't need. You don't even need to do this many, even if you only did 25 a day, i'm sure it would still help quite a bit. You just need to set a goal, and keep it. That's the main thing here... you can't just slack off, or it doesn't really help you out.
One other thing that works really well, that i love to do, is just jog around my block. It REALLY gets you energized and ready for the day. If you feel tired a lot, then i suggest this, because it helps soo much!
Just remember not to push yourself too hard. Go at your own pace. And remember to set goals for yourself.
JaNe
so, i'm kind of a nerd. I'm not a loser, i have friends and everything. It's just that i make school and working hard my top priority. I'm just naturally a fast thinker so it feels like i'm the only person who ever talks in class. So I have a couple problems
1. how can I continue to participate in class without people thinking i'm a know it all
2. What should i do when my friends are like "we can't study with you because you know all the answers!" or "It's not fair, you're so much smarter than me" when they say this is really bugs me cuz i am only smart because i work hard, so it IS fair!
thanks anyone who can help!
1. Well don't change yourself just because you are worried about what others might think. If people are judging you just because you have a few questions in class, or have a comment, then they have their own insecurities. So this is mainly their problem... they need to learn to like people for who they are, and not for what they want them to be. So just be yourself, and there will be people who like you for who you are.
But if you are really feeling that insecure about this, then maybe just try not to talk out loud as much? Maybe that can help so that you won't feel like such a know it all. But just remember that there's nothing wrong with knowing what is being taught.
2. When your friends say this, then just tell them that its only because you work hard. Tell them that if they want to be smarter at school, then they should just try and pay more attention and work really hard. (This may sound kind of mean, you might want to reword it so it doesn't sound as obnoxious.) :) Tell them that you feel left out and that you would really like to do stuff with them, and that it is really bugging you that they are leaving you out and saying this to you. If you don't tell your friends, then they may never know how you really feel.
Hope i helped!
JaNe
Hi, i'm a girl, 15 years old. So i like my best friend(15/male). I've liked him since I was in 5th grade! (I am now in 10th) He says he kind of likes me, but he doesn't know if he wants to go out with me. We've hooked up before, but I want more than that. how can I let him know that I can't be just friends with him, that I want MORE!
thank you!
-jool
Well you shouldn't rush him. If you tell him that you want to be more than friends and that you want to go out with him, then he could get a little freaked out, or he could get into a relationship he doesn't want to be in... which could be bad for both of you. Just give him some time, and flirt with him a bit. If he already knows that you like him, then give him a little space (but still say hi and talk to him a lot and everything) and some time to think over this. Hope i helped u out
JaNe
Hey. Im thirteen years old and my little sister is in 5th grade. She has a friend that at first i thought he was wicked cute (in like a little kid way) but then i fouind out he likes me and I sorta like him. If I was in his grade and he asked me out i would say yes, even now I want him to ask me out becuase i would say yes. But what would I do, I mean thats like petifile liek i would never make out with him or anyitng but im really afraid of what people in my school would say. WHAT DO I DO!!??
Well, first of all, does your sister know that you both like each other? and is she okay with it? That could be a little weird for her. But other than that, if your sister is okay with this, then i think you should go out with him (if he asked you out). I think you should ignore what everyone else thinks about you and this kid you like. If you like him, then you shouldn't ignore your heart because of what other people say to you, even if he is two years younger. But if you really think about it, two years really isn't that much. I'm in 9th grade and i know a ton of people going out with 7th graders and 11th graders. Its not that weird. If people make fun of you, then just ignore them. Who cares what they think. Its your life, and they should let you take control of it.
JaNe