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hey everyone!im belle.
i absolutely LOVE giving advice, it has to be one of my favorite things to do. feel free to ask me anything. i will try my best, and i wont judge anyone. i know that everyone has rough times and things that they go through in their lives, as i do also. everyone is important. and i will try my best to treat you that way through my advice. if i say something that you don't agree with, then im very sorry. but remember that you are asking for advice... there isn't a right or wrong answer. it goes by opinion. and i'll try my best to make you love mine. thanks!
**BeLLe**
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How do I get the respect someone had for me back? I've been hooking up with this guy for about five months now, and first three months were good, but then all of a sudden he began treating me like shit, and in front of other people too. It has been getting better the past month, but I need to learn how to stand up for myself. I can't stop hooking up with him.
19/F
I have been in a situation very similar to this. it isn't easy to gain the respect you want back, but it is totally possible. I realize you said that you can't stop hooking up with him..and 5 months is a pretty long time, but to get proper respect back you need to gain control of the relationship. by hooking up with him all the time, he feels like he's got you on a string.. so he thinks he can get away with not treating you with the proper respect you deserve. so, even though this probably isn't the thing you really want to hear, the best advice I can give is to stop hooking up with him. it sounds to me like he is using you for physical stuff, and nobody deserves to be treated like that! you deserve somebody who will see you for who you truly are and not talk crap on you. by finding someone who treats you better, or even just standing up to this guy and telling him you're sick of this crap, he will respect you.
*BeLLe*
What are some good and healthy recipies for children?
Try something that will let them use their hands. Making cookies is a good one. They can make their own cookie shapes, thats always fun for kids. When they are done cooking, they can frost it how ever they want. Don't forget the sprinkles! :)
That isn't a very creative idea. But it still would be fun for them. There are lots of cute ideas for snacks on this website, especially for kids.
http://familyfun.go.com/recipes/kids/
You can browse through this website, they have TONS of ideas.
**BeLLe**
this is random and whatever but like i dont get it. i hate to brag and sound like a total stuck up bitch but like, for some reason good looking guys never like me..like this year at school since im new i thought hot guys would like me. and like okay so im not popular or anything, and i dont have a group of people or anything, i just have scattered friends here and there. so anyways, i mean like..i think im kind of pretty and im not ugly or anything..i feel like better looking guys should like me..i want a boyfriend really badly. i feel like that would make me happy :] but for some reaosn the nerdy weird guys always like me. its getting a little annoying. and the guys i like never like me back. i can just tell. i want a boyfriend, but i want him to be cute so i can show him off to my friends and it will make me happy too. thats my key to happiness right now, which i need more of. i just wish cute guys would like me..and i cant think of any reasons they wouldnt..maybe because im not popular but thats so over rated. people should be able to go out with anyone they want, it doesnt matter whos popular and whos not. ive seen some hot guys but there not in any of my classes. and i can already tell there not intrsted. why is that. im not ugly! gr
Hun, looks aren't everything. You can't expect guys to like you just because you look pretty. Go talk to them, show them what kind of a person you are.
Same goes for the guys that like you. I know this sounds way lame.. but maybe give them a chance. They like you for who you are. And looks can be way deceiving. At least get to know them better first. And sometimes the good looking guys can have a stuck up attitude because they KNOW they are hot. Trust me, it's better to have someone caring than someone like that.
Just try and get to know people better. Many guys will find that they like you because you have an amazing personality! not just because you are pretty. Its way better to have them think both! :)
But don't worry about this whole thing. Sometimes you can tell when you are desperate for guys. And just make sure you aren't focusing this whole thing on YOUR looks. Looks really don't matter in the long run. You want guys to like you for who you are.
Don't rush things. Just be patient.
Someone will come along when you least expect it.
**BeLLe**
So I've been talking to this guy and he's really nice, sweet, charming. Basically, perfect. He talks to me like he likes me, he's told me that he feels a 'connection' with us.
The thing is, I feel like he tells every girl he talks to, the same exact thing. Then that makes me think that maybe I'm wasting my time or something?
Should I just let him go and forget about him or what?
Well, if you don't know for sure, then don't forget about him just yet.
Make sure you get your facts right before you let him go.
Feeling like he is telling every girl that is just an insecurity. Just don't worry about it too much. And, that being said, don't rush into anything since you aren't sure. Try to keep your emotions under control until you find out.
**BeLLe**
I want to know what I should do. I have been thinking an really wanna do something new, I was thinking Breast Implants. I am a 34A an want to be a 34C. So is there any other things that work besides the surgery that costs over 3,000 dollars? I heard there were cremes an stuf so just wondering before I go fork out all of the money :) Thanks!
why waste money on something you aren't really sure about?
what if you end up not liking how the surgery went?
Be happy with your body the way it is. You don't need bigger boobs to make yourself pretty. Learn to love yourself for who you are. You look the way that you do for a reason. It wasn't meant to be tampered with.
It would also save you tons of money if you didn't go through with it. You could spend it on something much better! :) Go on a shopping spree! Or save it and spend it on something you really really want!
**BeLLe**
hey. well, i'm 15/f and i'm a freshman in highschool. well, i'm really out of shape, but i've been working out alot and eating healthier. i've been thinking lately and i want more friends and want to be more social because i'm kinda shy. but i also think cheerleading is fun. when i was younger i used to do those little cheerleading clinics, but then i stoped cheering. well, just out of the blue today i started thinking, and i'm thinking i want to become a cheerleader. i have a couple of friends that are cheerleaders, 1 of them is one of my best friends. but i know i'm bigger than all of the cheerleaders, but i think that over the summer i can loose weight and by the next year tryouts i will have lost some weight. but i just think it might be kinda weird to be a bit bigger than everyone else. what do you guys think?? and i can't do a lot of stunts and flips, and stuff. but idk. should i even try?? or just forget about it? i'm a pretty bubbly person, so i've got that part covered. but am i cut out to be a cheerleader???? i'm gonna ask my friends for advice too, but i'm just wanting some more opinions. so any advice!! thanks!!
Well first off, being a cheerleader doesnt necessarily make you have more friends. I have had the exact same thoughts as you have. Because I wanted more friends, and i thought it seemed cool to be a cheerleader, so more people would like me and stuff. But I never did try out. To this day, I still think it would have been way fun! but i like the way that i am living my life. I dont feel the need to be how other people want me to be. And besides, after high school, this isn't gonna matter one bit.
But if this is something you really want to do because it sounds really fun to you, and you are willing to put that much work into learning the flips and stunts, then go for it! You could take dance or gymnastic classes, or maybe even ask your friends for some help with the flips and stuff.
And, hun, no one ever said there was a certain way cheerleaders have to look! People just have their own way of thinking. And they could judge. But thats life. I think that if this is something you want to do, then don't let your weight or size bring you down. Don't do this if you are going to compare yourselves to the other girls. It isn't worth it. Everyone is uncomfortable with something about themselves. But just be happy with who you are. Im sure you're a beautiful girl :)
Don't just go by your friends opinions. Go by what your heart is telling you. Is this something that you really want to do? You will spend a lot of time doing it, so you want to make sure its something you're gonna love!
**BeLLe**
what is the rue21 store? does that have any relation to forever 21?
I dont think they are related like that. But some of the clothes they have are a lot alike.
I really like the clothes at both stores. And they have a variety of lots of different styles.
here are the websites to both stores, so you can browse through the clothes and see the type of stuff they have there.
http://www.forever21.com/default.asp?cookie%5Ftest=1
http://www.rue21.com/
hope this helped!
**BeLLe**
I am 15/f and i this year I started at a new High school. I have made a few girl friends but no one that i spend a lot of time with. I always seem to be hanging out with the guys. At lunch i sit with a table full of guys and one other girl(my best friend who also switched schools). During class when we group up to work on projects I always end up with all guys, one even being my best friends ex. Is this weird? Why do I have such a hard time making friends. I'm not trying to be vain when I say this, but I really am a likeable person. Nice, compassionate, and caring. Is something wrong with me?
You just need to put yourself out there.
Ask some girls to be your partner.
You need to SHOW people that you are a nice, compassionate, and caring person.
So just try and meet new people. Smile. Say hi. It can really make someones day.
I'm sure you will meet plenty of people if you just put an effort into saying hi, or telling someone that you like their shirt that day. People will realize how nice and caring you are when you put yourself out there and show people how nice you can be, so they will want to be better friends with you.
These things take time. Don't worry about it. Enjoy what you've got. Is being friends with guys all that bad? Guys have MUCH less drama. So that's a plus. But just stick to what you've got for now, as you are meeting new people. I'm sure you will meet plenty of friends. It just takes patience.
**BeLLe**
13/f
ok well i wanted a phone for so long and my dad is finally thinking about getting me one. i really want a pink razr phone from AT&T but i'm no whiz at phones or anything. i want my phone to have text messaging & AIM included with the phone, not to pay extra.
http://www.wireless.att.com/cell-phone-service/cell-phone-details/?device=Motorola+RAZR+V3+-+Pink&q_sku=sku950124
that's the one i want. does that have the features i need? THANKS SO MUCH x 7848732782!
i have a phone exactly like that. and i love it! i have some texting, but not aim. we had to pay extra for it though.
but having texting and aim included doesn't have to do with what phone you get, it depends on the phone company you go with, and the plan you get for your phone. i haven't really heard of not having to pay for texting and stuff, im sure you will probably still have to pay for it.
if your dad isn't going to pay for the texting and aim, then i would hold back on the texting for a while. show him that you are responsible enough to have a phone. then maybe that will come up.
good luck!
**BeLLe**
What are some tips to make using my curling iron quicker?
Thankyouuu!
Ohh, and by the way..
my hair isn't naturaly straight..
& I just cut a lot off..
so right now.. it's only aobout 5 or 6 inches past my shoulders when curly..
just try not to be a huge perfectionist while doing it. try to make yourself do your hair faster.
you could also:
-turn the curling iron up, so it's at a higher heat level [but not too high. you dont want to burn your hair]
-curl bigger pieces at a time, not super little ones.
-clip layers of your hair up, work on each layer at a time.
i have had experience with this and i think all of these methods work for me. you could try one of them and see if it works for you.
you could also try using hot rollers, or curlers. they dont really work that well for me, but for some people they do. it would be faster if that does work for you.
im not exactly sure what you mean by your hair isn't naturally straight... like is it just sort of wavy? or is it naturally curly?
because im sure that if your hair is naturally curly it would look adorable if you just left it natural like that.
you could also try scrunching your hair. that doesnt really make it curly... but it is still sort of curly. i think that scrunched hair looks super cute, and it doesnt take nearly as long as using a curling iron.
hope i could help!
**BeLLe**
For those of you who have used both..
which is better to use?
Do hot rollers really work?
if so; are these ones ok..?
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5855131
well, it depends what you like to use, and what type of hair you have. for some people curling irons work better, but others like hot rollers.
i prefer to use a curling iron. the hot rollers tend to make my hair sort of frizzy, and sometimes the curls turn out a little weird.
with a curling iron you can curl it however you want and if you mess up, its just one curl and you can fix it, not all of your hair.
but everyone is different. you could always try using hot rollers on a day that you arent really going to be doing anything. that way, if you don't like the turnout, its not a big deal.
so you could always just try both out, and see what works for you.
**BeLLe**
I grew up in SouthWest Ohio and I definatley talk/express myself like a true Ohioan with all the "please?, queer, sucker, gymshoes, pop", etc. One problem... I live in New Jersey now. I moved in Jan 07. People here are mean/self-centered/rude and just not friendly & take themselves wayyy too seriously.. I'm a very outgoing and friendly person but I feel like I can't talk to people here because they'll either look at me like "excuse me, do I know you?" or make fun of the way I talk. I like to joke around and have fun [without making fun of other people] and I can't seem to find anyone cool like that. I've tried being quiet and wearing what everyone else wears but it's boring.
I'm a great friend to have but people only want shallow friendships where they don't really give a damn about what happens to their friends as long as as they are still happy.
Any idea on how to get through this? I'd really like to be my friendly self again...
PS, I'm 16/female, incomming Junior.
im sorry. i know that can be hard to go through. but just remember to always be yourself, no matter what.
you shouldn't have to change your attitude, your personality, or even your clothes so that you will fit in.
you said you would like to be your friendly self again.. do it! do you really want a friend who only likes you because you are exactly like everyone else?
it may take a lot of searching, but you will find genuine people who will like you for who you are.
i know that its hard. but don't give up. you will find some good friends, i promise. you may even find someone in the same position as you.. but you won't be able to do that if you are acting like everyone else and trying to fit in with them.
do your own thing. don't worry about what other people think. you could be an example to others.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss
hope i could help!
**BeLLe**
what usually happens when they take your braces off..,
doees it hurt? some of my friends said it kinda hurt :S
ok well i think that it hurt way more getting them on! So you dont have to go through that again!
When you get them off, they take all the colored elastics off, and then they take the wire off. That doesn't hurt at all.
Then they have to pull the braces off. This didnt hurt me, but it just kind of took me by surprise. It just had kind of a funny feeling to it.
The main thing that hurts is if they have to take the rough parts off of your teeth. For this they use like a mini tooth saw. LOL it didnt really hurt either, it just makes a loud sound that is really annoying.
So it really isnt that bad i promise! and besides, the results after are amazing! Dont be too worried about it, it is just one day of your life, and after it, you will be so happy with the results!
**BeLLe**
is there any way to speed up periods so that its over in like 3 days without a pill? like any foods i can eat or excercises? because i dont want to have my period on Christmas :)
No, there is no way that you can speed them up. They happen when they happen, and they end when they end. That really sucks to have it on Christmas! The best advice I can give you is to maybe use tampons if you don't already use them. If you use tampons, then most of the time you forget you are even on your period. It doesn't make you feel all gross and all that nasty stuff like pads do. So just try that out! That should make your Christmas way better! If you are on your period right now, then your flow shouldn't be very heavy by Christmas anyways. So that should make it better too! Hope i helped!
**BeLLe**
well i have this boyfriend, and he is older and more experienced then i am. He says that he loves me and he wants to be with me I love him soo much. He says that he wants to take it to the next level. Where im from alot of the girls my age arent virgins and dont care bout sex or nethin. Im young but veryy mature for my age, i dont know what to do, I feel that im ready but i dont know.
You really need to think this over. Make sure you are totally positive that it is something that you want to do before you do it. Who cares what other people are and aren't doing. Just do whatever you are ready for. But remember that this can lead to pregnancy. Are you sure that you are ready for the responsibility of taking care of a baby? I suggest that you wait. You may not end up being with your boyfriend forever. Do you really want to take care of the baby by yourself? i can tell you that things will be much more complicated if you go through with this.
I am sure that if you discuss that you aren't sure about this with your boyfriend then he will understand. If he doesn't, then he doesn't care about you for who you are and he is just in it for the physical stuff. No one deserves to be objectified like that. But just tell him how you feel, and before you do anything make sure you are ready, and i am sure everything will work out.
**BeLLe**
okay well i have this guy friend and weve been hanging out with our group of friends and i mean we just started to hang out so i think it might be to soon to tell, but i think i like him. So, how do i tell if he likes me or how do i tell if i really like him?
Well these are signs that he might like you:
**He makes eye contact with you a lot, even if it is from way across the room.
**He is really touchy.
**He remembers even the most pointless conversations you've had together.
**He gives you "the look" lol...its kinda hard to explain. But it's the type of look he gives you that really makes you think he might like you
**He tries his hardest to make you laugh or to Impress you
**Basically just any other way of flirting with you could mean that he might like you.
To tell if you really like him:
**Theres not really a certain way to tell, its just something that you feel on your own. No one can tell you that you like him, its something that your heart tells you.
**You think about them a lot
**You get butterflies in your stomach whenever you see them.
**BeLLe**
no one get freaked out, but is it weird to be curious about how to kill someone? There's this person i really hate, i wish they'd die. I'd never ever kill someone but is is wierd to search and be curious about ways to kill someone? how do i stop?
Well, just try your best to control these feelings. You don't want them to get out of hand. Try to think of all the positive things in this person. Stay away from the thought of wanting to kill him/her. If you think of it too much, it can really get a person to think about really killing someone. So just try to keep it under control. Maybe if you try talking to her, you'll realize that you really don't hate her as much as you thought. It doesn't hurt to try and be nice. Just remember to control your feelings.
**BeLLe**
well, i cant sing. I sound really stupid when i do. probabaly because my voice is stupid. Im 14 and like nearly 6ft and my voice is really quiet and crappy. Any tips because i really want to sing. Like barry manilow, or other great singers.
You just need to practice singing more. Try singing every day. Trust me, it will get better if you do. Someone else gave me this advice. I didn't really think it would work, but i decided to try it, and my voice actually has gotten better. I mean, i know that i am not the best singer in the world, but i'm improving...and thats whats important.
As far as your voice sounding quiet... you are totally in control of how loud you sing. Many people are self-conscious about their singing, so they sing quietly to try and hide how "crappy" their voice is. But just sing louder. If you sing quietly, then it really does make the note come out different than it should.
One other tip that i can give you is to sing using your diaphram. It will help you to get a better pitch to your singing. Try these tips, and see if they work out for you.
**BeLLe**
okay i want to get my page on advicenators .com but i dont know how help me please because i dont want page to look plane so if you are on advicenators .com can you pleeeeeeeeeeeeez hrlp me
Well, first of all, when you're on the homepage of advicenators, on the left side of the screen it says log in. And it has a place for you to type your user name and password. If you look underneath it, it says "Register For Free." Click on it. It will bring you to a page where you need to fill out this information about you. Just fill it out with the user name and password you want, etc. After you fill this out, it will send you an email to the email address that you typed in. This is a verification email. If you read it, it will tell you exactly what to do. I haven't seen it in a while, but i am pretty sure there is a button that you can press that will take you right to the advicenators page. After that you will be a registered user.
Then, on the left side, it will say "welcome _______" (it will say your username) This will be in bold. Underneath it, it will say:
-Inbox
-Favorite categories
-Your Advice column
-Your questions
-your feedback
-favorite columnists
-edit answers
-profile settings
-column settings
-logout
Click on "Column settings" Then it will take you to a page where you can customize your advice column. At the top it has different styles for your advice column. You can click "Preview" to look at the different styles for the advice column.
If you don't have a paid account, then you can't make your column all fancy with like hearts in the background or anything like that. But you can still scroll down to where it says "Color" and it has buttons off to the side with the different colors. What i did for my advice column, is i clicked on one of the colors, and then i wrote down the numbers to that color. Then when i clicked on the other color that i chose, i just filled in some of the blanks with the numbers to the other color i liked. This way, you can have more than one color on your advice column. I like this idea, because it won't be like everyone else's. You can still make it cute by doing that, or maybe by putting a picture of you or something if you want. Good luck!
**BeLLe**
What are some good ways to stay motivated when you want to lose weight?
I already posted pics of what I want to look like (my body 2 years ago), and I read magazines when I work out, so I can stay motivated. Lately, though, I've been very unmotivated. I really want to lose this weight. Any ideas on how to stay motivated and how to make eating healthy and exercise fun?
Find something to help you lose weight that is also fun. If you have something fun to do then you will be more motivated to do it. If you like playing sports, you can play sports to help you lose weight. Or maybe you like aerobics, or weight lifting, or running. You can do the one that sounds the funnest.
Set a goal, Such as: Lets say you set a goal to exercise every day for the month. If you do, then you can do something fun that you like. My friend does that same thing, and her weight goal is to go to the mall and buy some new clothes every time she loses her desired weight.
You can do the same thing with eating healthy. Set goals and stick to exercises you like.
**BeLLe**