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I grew up in SouthWest Ohio and I definatley talk/express myself like a true Ohioan with all the "please?, queer, sucker, gymshoes, pop", etc. One problem... I live in New Jersey now. I moved in Jan 07. People here are mean/self-centered/rude and just not friendly & take themselves wayyy too seriously.. I'm a very outgoing and friendly person but I feel like I can't talk to people here because they'll either look at me like "excuse me, do I know you?" or make fun of the way I talk. I like to joke around and have fun [without making fun of other people] and I can't seem to find anyone cool like that. I've tried being quiet and wearing what everyone else wears but it's boring.
I'm a great friend to have but people only want shallow friendships where they don't really give a damn about what happens to their friends as long as as they are still happy.
Any idea on how to get through this? I'd really like to be my friendly self again...
PS, I'm 16/female, incomming Junior.
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yeah, people can be like that in new jersey. buuuut i live here and i'm pretty nice! if you have a myspace, i can add you if you like [=
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im sorry. i know that can be hard to go through. but just remember to always be yourself, no matter what.
you shouldn't have to change your attitude, your personality, or even your clothes so that you will fit in.
you said you would like to be your friendly self again.. do it! do you really want a friend who only likes you because you are exactly like everyone else?
it may take a lot of searching, but you will find genuine people who will like you for who you are.
i know that its hard. but don't give up. you will find some good friends, i promise. you may even find someone in the same position as you.. but you won't be able to do that if you are acting like everyone else and trying to fit in with them.
do your own thing. don't worry about what other people think. you could be an example to others.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss
hope i could help!
**BeLLe**
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I've actually never been down south, so I have no idea what the people there are like. However, I have been to Puerto Rico..
Anyways, I'll hand it to you - the kids up here are a lot more snobby than what you're used to. It's going to happen though, it's life. Honestly though, don't change yourself so you can fit in. If you know that you're loud, outgoing & different, don't change it. EMBRACE IT.
If the kids where you are can't get their heads outta their asses, then you know you don't wanna be friends with them anyways & you can succeed. But really, join a club or a sport. Maybe the kids in there are a lot nicer. If not, just be yourself.
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Hi honey,
I understand how you feel. I have always known that people are definitly more friendly down south, and we up here in the north think we are above everyone else. And guess what, we're not. But if we don't face that fact, we assume we have gotten away with it. Don't despair. There are some real people, you will find them. It just takes time. Find some volunteer work that you could be happy doing, and you will meet some real people. Work with kids, mostly kids are normal. Though they are starting with that "I'm better than you attitude" younger and younger. I didn't raise my boys that way, and I can't be he only one.
I see in you a person who loves themselves. This period you are going through will be short. Because you are young and you are surrounded by young people. And young people take themselves too seriously. Don't loose yourself or become like them. You are the better person and will get through life relatively unscathed. You just have to make it to adulthood where you will meet a better class of people. And people will gravitate towards you because happyness and confidence is attractive. Good luck to you dear
Michele
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