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can it get more complicated?
okay, i just broke up with my boyfriend and he didnt take it well at all and i feel really bad. but we'll get back to that later. so when my boyfriend and i started dating, his friend [z] started talking to me a lot. and my friend [m] started to hang out with us and she now likes z. okay soooo...m wanted me to text z and find out who he likes so she could know. but this is where it starts getting messy. z likes me and i kinda like him but i cant because of my ex and my friend. so how do i tell him and my friend??
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I think that you need to just tell your friend the truth. She deserves to know. I realize it may be hard to tell this to your friend, but it is MUCH better to just come straight out with the truth than to try and make up excuses. Would you rather admit to your friend that you like the same guy as her, or keep this secret to yourself..worrying about various questions such as.. "what if she finds out?" or "should i really ask Z who he likes?" or "what should i tell her if Z says he likes me?"
Just tell her you like him too. If the time is right, then tell her that you found out he sort of likes you too. Say it as nicely as possible, and tell her you just didn't want to keep this a secret from her. It could be a little rough at first, but things will work out. It is much better then her finding this out on her own.
And yes, don't tell yourself you can't like someone. You can. It will be okay. Your ex just needs some time. Don't confront him about this anytime soon. Later you may want to though. But for now just give him some time, and stay friends with him. Treat him like your friend, and don't avoid him. Later you may need to tell him, but just wait awhile.
But for now i think you should just have some time to yourself. Don't get together with Z too soon. You don't want to ruin your ex's and Z's friendship. Just wait awhile. You can even give yourself some time before you tell your friend. In fact, i wouldn't tell her unless you are totally sure you like Z.
But just give it some time.. think things through. Even though things may seem hard, it will all work out in the end, i promise.
Well if you need anything else, i am always here!
JaNe
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